I went to my final pre op appointments, paid A LOT of money for surgeon fee's and dietician fee's.... and then got reemed out by my Dr. for not doing something that I was never told to do. Now every time that I talk to their office it seems as if they all think I am already a failure.

This is the WORST thing I could be experiencing 2 weeks before surgery. Thrown into a deep depression because I feel like a failure and I haven't even had the surgery yet.

I thought getting my surgery date and the weeks following would be the happiest time of my life, and now instead I feel like I am fighting against my Dr's office just to make them believe that I am trying to jump through every hoop that they put in front of me.

Any suggestions on how to deal with this? I already have thoughts in my head about how I am going to be the first person I have ever heard of that the surgery won't do anything for.... etc.... I don't need them putting more doubts, insecurity, and anxiety into me before hand.

What do I do to get my motivation and positivity back???

Kimberlina,

What did they not tell you to do? Something easy to reconcile or not? If it was something like your pre-op diet or a test just get it done. Your doctor's office is making a great deal of money off of you so there is no reason for them to treat you horribly. Let me know how things turn out.

I'm sorry you feel this way. It's emotionally exhausting to feel like everyone has you under their emotional thumb... I use to try to please everyone and it burned me out.

You are not a failure. You know you weren't given an instruction, right? So how can you carry the burden of someone elses mistake? How can you let THEM make YOU feel like a failure?

I don't think your Dr. thought you were perfect and now, because of this he has suddenly discovered you are not. If it's a deal breaker issue...you've got nothing to lose and need to find your voice. If it's a wedge between you, again...you need to bring it up and tell him how you feel. If it's not that big of a deal as far as safety, surgery, and follow-up go...then I think you need to have the grace to be kind to yourself and let this one go. Scrape your shoe and move on; because it's not worth the effort you could be spending on getting ready for pre-op and recovery.

Don't let the things out of your control, have control. Focus on what you need to do, should do, want to do...

Best of luck