Hello all,

Sorry but I have to vent!

So last night was my first shocking experience! My husband, our 2 children and myself met his grandparents for dinner last night. They were not aware that I had surgery in January. So his grandmother commmented on how well I looked and asked me how I was losing the weight. So I told her the truth and said "I had weight loss surgery". She huffed and said well that does not count and is not fair to the people who are trying to lose it the right way. I have alot of respect "Normally" for this woman so I just stared at her dumbfounded. I wanted to go off. She then continued on of how I chose the easy way out. I tried to explain to her that it was a medical issue and in no way would I be able to lose the weight on my own. Ugghh I have to say everyone so far has been very supportive. I really did not expect that from her. Anyone else run across the negative side of people?

I just wonder if your grandmother would have the same reaction to someone having lung cancer removed? After all, it's not fair to all the people who did the 'right thing' and never smoked. Or what about someone having a bypass... aren't they cheating because it's their fault for eating fatty food? This irks me because I've had people tell me that I'm taking the easy way out and should just try harder.

Here's one for ya. Now, I didn't tell my boss that I had weight loss surgery. She just knows that I had an ulcer removed and that as a result I'm having a hard time digesting food and I'm on a special diet. She's an old woman and usually makes these back handed comments to me. Today, she says, "You're losing weight, did you notice that?" I said, yes. As if I didn't. "Are you happy about it?" I said yes. Then she says, "Are you going to keep it up?" I told her I hope so. In fact, I take 20 minutes of my lunch and go to the weight room and work out. She says, "Good. I'm glad you're making a change, because you needed to do something." I was floored. What right does she have to tell me that I needed to do anything?!?!? My weight has NEVER interfered with my job. I'm damn good at it. Don't insult me to try to give me a compliment.

This is exactly why I didn't tell her or hardly anyone I was having surgery. She would have a field day!