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I just noticed that there is a special forum for those of us that are single.

Let's get this going! There are a lot of issues with getting thinner and being single and gaining self esteem, etc. Let's talk!

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Brilliant Daisy! I can't wait until I'm back emotionally because I still have that desire to find or be found by that one guy who's "right" for me. But where I'm at now emotionally, (seems I've lost all libido and just read it is a side effect of the clonzapam), I have to put my dream on a back burner for a while I guess.

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I've been doing the online thing for awhile now but haven't met my prince yet, just a couple of frogs. Stayed with both frogs until the relationships petered out, and I am still looking for my prince. It's so hard to meet people where I live.

I started ball room dance classes and that's helped with having fun, being single, and not lonely.

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Keep at it. Whichever way you choose (online, blind- dates, fix ups). Just remember dating is a numbers game. And have fun doing it. You might go out with a couple of duds, but you sometimes have to go through the numbers to find the one you are really meant to be with.

And have fun doing it, playing dress-up, going to places you have never been (and making sure he picks the tab. Yes, I can afford it, but I like to be courted, and I am old school like that :ohmy:

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Hi Girls! I too am single and so far have gone from one big frog to another...I am not sleeved yet, but will be on 2/12. I have also done my fare share on online dating, but that has backfired very badly for me. So, now I am really just hoping that once I find myself and reach a point of happiness within me that the right guy will just show up. Everybody always tells me he will show up when I stop looking... :-

I am sort of dating a dud right now, just to not be alone. But I don't think he's the one. But, I have to say, he is one of the only guys I have ever dated that has never said anything about my weight.

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Yes, I'm single too.

I have been talking with a man for 2 months now and we met last night. And it was WONDERFUL!

He is just like he is on line....... looks- attitutde everything! My first time doing this....... so am cautious. Plus I have built such walls around me...... hard to get past that.

We were suppose to have another date tonight, but the weather here is horrible... and he lives an hour away. Winter snow advisary, we're suppose to have 6-10 inches ... and sleet and ice...... so I don't want to ask him to drive in this.... I will probably tell him we need to re schedule, because I do want to see him again!

Sighhhhhh...... even if I get my heart broken, I will be ok... at least now I am willing to take "chances" again!

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Yay Chancie,

I'm so happy for you getting into a new relationship. Its so hard to guard your heart all the time and never experience someone new. You have the right attitude and I hope you have a wonderful relationship. Glad you are skipping tonight, we have such nasty weather also, south of you in northern Alabama, sleeting!

Linda

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I'm single too! I've done the online dating thing in the past and met some great guys. Right now I'm just waiting for my sleeve. I don't think I want to meet someone when I'm just starting out this recovery process, but afterwards, look out! I think this is all a little more difficult at 59 then it is at 29 etc.

I think it's great to have a place to discuss the issues that come up, because they're the same at any age.

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yep......... it's kinda fun!!

I tslked to him.. and he agreed.... but wants to see me tomorrow!! We will see what the wather does............. but at least he wants to see me again!!:thumbup1:

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Chancie, that's terrific that he wants to see you again! Please let us know how it goes.

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Chancie I am so happy for you. He sounds like a keeper.

I thought I posted this but now I don't see it. If I did, forgive me for repeating myself. I've been talking on the phone with someone I found online, but he lives 3 hours away. He seems nice and is cute but I don't see how anything can work with that amount of distance.

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I'm all for a singles forum!!! I would love to exchange froggy dating stories or hopefully successful ones like Chancie! I have dated online for 3 years met some keepers but like you Daisy, they petered out. I'm just heading into this journey so it's pretty much taken over my life in terms of focus outside work and school but hopefully when things settle down I'll get back into the dating world again. :thumbup:

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Yaya, I feel the same way as you do. My surgery is next week and I think that's about all that I can handle in life changes for a little while. After making friends with my Sleeve, I hope to get back into the dating world. I've met some great guys online. One I got engaged to. Long story. One I dated for 2 years and another for 3 years. Maybe next time will be a charm! :thumbup:

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Jackie, I admire your courage, and he really digs you too :-) Go for it! It's better to haved loved and lost than never to have loved at all, right? I think this romance will make you feel alive again, maybe that is what we all need to feel alive again, and don't we deserve it?

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