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Change of Plans

Hello Friends,

I'm sorry that I haven't checked in with you for a few days. I have been on an emotional rollercoaster. I have had to cancel my sleeve surgery on the 15th. :svengo:

My mother is to have by-pass surgery on the 16th. She has numerous health issues and I need to be with her. I'm worried about her.

On the other hand I feel guilty because I'm disappointed for having to cancel my surgery. I feel so selfish. I know that I can get it done at a later date. I will have to wait until end of Oct. or Christmas break before I can get time off work.

Please tell me to just shut-up and get over it. LOL

I only have one Moma and I need to take care of her first. Please remember her in your prayers.

Thanks for listening to me whine.:001_smile: Judy

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Judy,

I can tell you what to wear..Something smaller!!!! I find it so fun to shop in the normal...sizes, and I still have 28 pounds to go!!!

Judy,

I so understand what you are doing for your Mom. I went through a very life altering change of plans with my mother a few years back. We had never been close due to her emotional issues and my parents' very rocky marriage. My father committed suicide before I graduated from high school and I was his favorite. However, my mother had a multitude of health issues in her fifties (gall bladder surgery which led to finding 90% blockage of major arteries, then quadrupal bypass which led to blindness from clot during surgery, copd, stroke) etc. I left my job and moved 5 hours home to take care of her and nurse her back to health. I had another 17 months with her in which we mended our relationship and when she passed we were friends. I am still financially a bad credit risk because of the choices I made to take a year off to take care of her which is making it hard to finance my surgery, but the peace I had when she passed because of having the time to heal our relationship was worth that. I totally support your decision to take care of your mom right now.

Sleeve sisters, we are and it will be fun to plan our surgeries in due time. Take care.

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Update, my mom had her surgery today and she is doing great. They had planned to do a bypass but decided to try doing a cath first. It worked and they put in a stent where she had 99% blockage and was able to use the ballon and other procedures to clear the other 50% blockages.

She is in good spirits and had a good dinner. My sister is taking a shift staying with her and I got come home for the night. Thanks everyone for all the prayers. Now in 6 weeks she will have surgery to fix her anurisum.(sp.) Judy

Judy, thank you so much for updating us. I am glad she is doing so well. I am sure that must be a big relief for you.

That's awesome Judy -- and she'll recover sooner with just having the stent than having to have bypass - my dad had one last year and it made a world of difference. Get a good night's sleep I'm sure the stress of the past couple of weeks will finally start to wear off and you'll need your sleep to keep up with what's to come in the near future.

I'm glad to hear she is doing well Judy. I hope she recovers quickly and you get to have your surgery sooner rather than later.

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