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Sarah75    67

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Sarah' date=' that is my fear too - one little comment to one of their friends - then boom, all the mothers know... sorry to hear that happened - although maybe at least they were supportive of you when they found out?[/quote']

All my friends have been very very supportive!!...their step-mothers reply to her after she told her was "oh well not everyone can lose weight the natural way and lots of people get sick an have complications"...I had a little chat with the ol step-monster and she has t opened her mouth since..she herself is a large lady and when I run my 3 miles every day I make sure to run past their house

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sherylkay    23

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I LOVE IT!! KEEP RUNNING PAST THEIR HOUSE. HAHAHA

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mda69    36

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I have the same concerns. Two daughters both healthy. I have only told my sister who was banded 2 years ago. I don't plan on telling anyone. Just eating less and working out. Hopefully that works! I do feel guilty about my girls and parents. Hope Mom is not mad!

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Soulshine76    11

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I am divorced with 3 children. Daughters that are 9 and 11 and a 16 yr old son. I told my son and he has been involved with the entire process. He was even my driver for the surgery. I really do not want my ex-husband and his wife to know because then everyone on the PTA and soccer team and so on will know. So I originally told the girls I was having a stomach surgery and it was no big deal. Finally, as the surgery got closer I ended up telling them that the surgery would help me lose weight. They were so, so excited and started talking about shopping and all that. I made sure to never say the word "Lapband." I then explained extensively that this is something that is private and it's ok for families to have things that are private. I explained how important it is to not tell even one friend. They've done great. My ex even asked them what kind of surgery I was having and they said they didn't know. I really think its a judgement call and depends on the individual child and their maturity level.

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Soulshine76    11

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I should amend the above... When my ex asked the girls what kind of surgery, they actually said they weren't sure what its called and to ask me. What I first wrote made it sound like I told them to lie.

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      I live on the island of Oʻahu and spend a lot of time in the water- for exercise, for play,  and for spiritual & mental health. The day I had my month out appointment with my surgeon, I packed all my gear in my truck, anticipating his permission to get back in the ocean. The minute I walked out of that hospital I drove straight to the shore and got in that water. Hallelujah! My appointment was at 10 am. I didn't get home until after 5 pm. 
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      Oh yeah, something I wanted to rant about, a billing dispute that cropped up 3 months ago.
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    • ChunkCat

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      Still purging all of the larger clothing. This morning, a shirt that I ADORED wearing ended up on top. Hard to let it go, but it was also hard to let go of those habits that also no longer serve my highest good. Onward and upward!
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