"OMG, You look great...what are you doing?" You tell them...you had lap band.

And you get that look. You know the one, excitement gone and they dont know what to say.

You know the look...

Makes me a bit disappointed and frustrated.

do not tell them just say you are eating healthy

That's so frustrating but they just don't know. I agree with the previous poster.....I am eating better and smaller portions. I'm more active too and that is the Gods honest truth.

I contemplated whether or not to tell people (co-workers, etc) that I was planning to have LapBand. In the end I decided to tell them. I figure that the people who are going to judge me because of LapBand, are already judging me because I'm fat.

This is precisely why I won't tell anyone

They have no clue how much work/effort goes into losing weight EVEN WITH the lapband. People think that the lapband causes the weight to magically melt off instantaneously, which as we all know is not correct.

Even my family members who know about my surgery are wondering why my weight loss is so "slow" with the lapband (20 lbs in 2 months- which i think is gr8!). The less people who know the better. There is only so much negativity and false expectations I can handle without falling apart

just my opinion

I didn't tell anyone, but my mom who is super supportive and won't judge me. So JESUS and my mom. End of discussion.

Everyone that knows me, knows that I have always been fat and how much I have struggled. I am proud of my band. Not proud that I had to resort to surgery, but proud of it. I did not want to lie because I knew it would slip out one way or another. Way I see it, non supporters can "kiss it". But maybe I should start doing it.

I want to look them square in the eye and tell them "I found these magic pills and all the weight just fell off overnight! It's a miracle!!!!"

It's as if everyone is expecting some miracle answer but the bottom line -lap band or not- you've eaten healthy, watched your portions, and got off the couch. I don't like the judgemental looks either so I just pick and choose who I tell. But you're not lying if you just tell them you're watching your portions and exercising!

I want to look them square in the eye and tell them "I found these magic pills and all the weight just fell off overnight! It's a miracle!!!!"

It's as if everyone is expecting some miracle answer but the bottom line -lap band or not- you've eaten healthy, watched your portions, and got off the couch. I don't like the judgemental looks either so I just pick and choose who I tell. But you're not lying if you just tell them you're watching your portions and exercising!

I told everyone that is close to me but was skeptical about one specific good friend. At first I did not want to tell her what kind of surgery I was going for (oct 18th). So as we were leaving for our vacation a couple of weeks back and sitting on the plane, she asked me what I was going in for. Well, I started my speech with saying 'what I am going for I am doing for me. I want the support of my friends and family, but if they cannot support me in my decision, it's THEIR problem not mine'. So in all honesty whatever she thought was kind of hard to vocalize after I put it that way to her. Now she's very supportive and even asking me what I will and will not be able to eat at our annual holiday party so she can make sure there is stuff for me.

All this to say, is that we need people to support us in our journey. I am not ashamed to tell people what I am doing, I am more ashamed of being the weight that I am .

Those close to me, my family and close friends, all know I had Lap Band surgery. As far as acquaintances and random people I know in passing, I don't feel I owe them an explanation. When someone say "wow you've lost a ton of weight, how'd you do it?" I smile and say "thanks, I've been working my butt off. Literally".

Hey, it's not a lie!

At first I told everyone and found most people very supportive and encouraging. Now, when people who I have not seen for a long time ask I just say portion control and exercise which is true.

Getting tired of all the talk from others about my weight actually LOL.

My family knows but very few friends. The ones I have told are very supportive and always ask if ill be able to eat specific stuff or how I'm doing. Others that comment about my weight I just tell them that I'm finally eating right. Which isn't a lie

My stock answer to that question: "I regained control of my life!"