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Boyfriend Totally Against Me Getting Lap Band

a1990

By a1990, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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a1990    55

a1990
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Good for you. No one should tell you what you want to do...its your decision' date=' especially when it comes to your body. My bf was excited for my surgery, because he knew that's what I wanted. I had surgery back in dec 08, lost 70 lbs and no more ( still trying) but he is proud of me and I'm proud of myself too. Good luck :)[/quote']

Thanks redsoxfan I can't wait till I have a story congrats on your weight loss

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Angelizz10    76

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Angelizz he is supporting me now he is ready for me too feel good about myself and to be me again

I am sooo happy for you! Take it slow and your going to succeed. Try not to compare yourself with everyone else here, OK. There is such a wide difference in weight needed to be lost, age, medications, doctors, support behind you, and... Emotional. Keep us updated here, we all support your decision.

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hopetolose    192

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I didn't even tell my husband until I had decided and scheduled the surgery. It was my decision and mine alone. It is my body and because the risk was so low on the surgery part, I didn't feel like he would need to have a final say. He was fine with it and is happy that I am happier with my body. He was one that was happy either way fat or skinny... But since he is only your boyfriend at this point, he really doesn't have say at all. JMO goodluck!!

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aknaturelvr    10

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Your boyfriend is putting his fears ahead of your happiness. That's not the way it's supposed to be. I agree with you, he may see his fears realized if he doesn't change his thinking.

Congratulations on the surgery! I just had my psych eval today and am waiting for a surgery date. Whooo Hoooo!

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a1990    55

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Your boyfriend is putting his fears ahead of your happiness. That's not the way it's supposed to be. I agree with you' date=' he may see his fears realized if he doesn't change his thinking.

Congratulations on the surgery! I just had my psych eval today and am waiting for a surgery date. Whooo Hoooo![/quote']

Thanks and good luck on your surgery :)

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