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Boyfriend Totally Against Me Getting Lap Band

a1990

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a1990    55

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Angelizz he is supporting me now he is ready for me too feel good about myself and to be me again

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a1990    55

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Angelizz he is supporting me now he is ready for me too feel good about myself and to be me again

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Angelizz10    76

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Angelizz he is supporting me now he is ready for me too feel good about myself and to be me again

Wonderful! You are going to need the support of someone who has your best interest at heart. When is your surgery date? You must have gotten approved very quickly or are you self pay??

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a1990    55

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I went.for my first appointment 8/27 and got approved Monday I have surgery on 10/3

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♕ajtexas♕    3,771

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I went.for my first appointment 8/27 and got approved Monday I have surgery on 10/3

Congratulations. I am so happy to hear that your boyfriend is supportive now. Good luck on your journey.

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a1990    55

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Thanks ajtexas

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sweetie__13    99

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Well I went for my lap band appointment today and everything went great my ins did not require anything from me they said I should be having surgery the end of next month :) I'm pretty excited

Wow! That's awesome!!!! Congrats to you! I think you are making the right decision!

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My first husband had serious self esteem issues and believed he needed to keep me under his thumb. I was too young then to understand what was going on and my self esteem was pretty low as well because all I wanted to do was please him. As I gained weight, he would make comments, but if I lost weight, he would insult me, call me a b***h etc. The best 185 lbs I ever got rid of was him.

I have never known how to deal with attention, particularly the kind men give to attractive women. It was as if I would gain weight to insulate myself from drawing attention. Now it is years later, I'm way past those days of doing anything for the purpose of keeping or gaining a lover. My health is deteriorating at an accelerated rate and I would like to grow old with vitality and good health. That's really what it is about. Feeling good and being healthy. Your boyfriend fears losing you if you become attractive to other men. If you are obese and your health is at risk, he needs to support your decision. If he can't do that, he is not putting your best interests first. I hope you have supportive friends or family members around you. He isn't being one of them.

Both my sons and close friends know and back me all the way, because they love me and want me healthy. I elected not to tell my mother as she would make my life pure hell and I don't need that negative energy.

Best of luck to you!

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lawson    14

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My husband of 19 years did not approve of the surgery, but now I think he likes it because I feel better and am happier too! My biggest problem in life was that I wasn't happy with myself! I am not where I want to be yet but from a size 16 to a size 12 in two months..... I am on the road to a happier me!! I don't exspect to be the size I was when I met my husband (0-3) but I want to be a size that I don't feel so gross or depressed!

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a1990    55

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Just a update I had surgery on the 3rd and I really appreciate all the kinds words before my surgery :)

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Just a update I had surgery on the 3rd and I really appreciate all the kinds words before my surgery :)

Yeah! Congratulations! Now go and rock that band : )

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♕ajtexas♕    3,771

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Just a update I had surgery on the 3rd and I really appreciate all the kinds words before my surgery :)

Good luck on your journey. I am thrilled that your boyfriend is now by your side for this, you will need him. We are always here for support, too. Keep us posted on your progress. Take care.

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a1990    55

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Thanks guys I would not say he is on my side which is really upsetting all he can still think about is me losing the weight and leaving him but if he don't be careful he might get it if he keeps it up .... I can't wait to start seeing results

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Redsoxfan77    2

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Good for you. No one should tell you what you want to do...its your decision, especially when it comes to your body. My bf was excited for my surgery, because he knew that's what I wanted. I had surgery back in dec 08, lost 70 lbs and no more ( still trying) but he is proud of me and I'm proud of myself too. Good luck :)

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Redsoxfan77    2

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Good for you. No one should tell you what you want to do...its your decision, especially when it comes to your body. My bf was excited for my surgery, because he knew that's what I wanted. I had surgery back in dec 08, lost 70 lbs and no more ( still trying) but he is proud of me and I'm proud of myself too. Good luck :)

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