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So last night we are sitting at the dinner table. Lonnie is eating a ribeye cooked medium well with a baked potato (butter & sour cream) & a salad. I was eating a small salad with turkey breast & cheese. Then I notice Lonnie is inching his arm around his plate, hiding it from my view. Apparently, I was really watching him eat, with a look of joy on my face. It was funny! Guess you had to be there! It still amazes me how fast he eats. He can't be tasting his food! LOL!!

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I hate eating in front of my wife. I feel so guilty eating in front of her.

I have cut back on my eating so much since her surgery, I have lost some poundage myself.

So I my guiltyness is a good thing.

Jason

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Lonnie doesn't feel guilty at all! & I don't make him feel guilty. He has actually gained about 10 pounds since I was banded. Go figure! I don't cook anything near like what I use to cook.

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My husband has gained weight since I was banded because I was still putting too much food on my plate and when I couldn't finish it I would give it to him!!

I have learned not to do that anymore. I will put less than I think I can eat on my plate, and usually I will still end up with a bite or two, but not a lot.

Now my dog is getting fat :-)

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I usually eat the same things my DH does, but since I can't finish it all he eats what I don't! He doesn't have a weight problem, so it works out well!:biggrin1:

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Hehe, this totally made me giggle!

In the past both Mikey & I guarded our food against each other, lol. It's going to be sooo nice to not have to!

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Wow!!! Its funny you post this as I was thinking the same thing the other day. DH ha put on a little weight since I was banded too. I dont cook like I used to, we dont have take away like we use to, so I dont know why. I also havent noticed up until the last few months just how my family eats either. Do they taste their food, no sooner is it on the table then they are excusing themselves and finished. I end up sitting there by myself every night. I hold myself back from screaming "Slow down and eat like humans not animals" I havent said it yet but boy have I come close.

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I also know when we go to a restaurant or somewhere and Dh always orders a sirloin with diane sauce, I make him describe to me in graphic detail how it tastes from when he puts it in his mouth till when he swallows it - abnormal huh?

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Funny, I never do this. And it isn't because I covet what my Dh is eating, because if at home we eat the same, or he eats less because he likes to be tighter than me.

When we go out to eat we frequenly split a meal, or we order orderves or we order so that I'll have left overs for a week. (two adult Entrees means I don't cook for a week, typically)

But food, for the most part, has lost it's luster for me. I'm just not that interested, and I find myself viewing eating as a chore, something I gotta do.

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Yeah, I love to cook. But lately it seems like such a chore! Trying to find something that is band friendly & healthy, & also trying to keep Lonnie happy, is getting rediculous!! Then tonight I cooked tacos & I was so looking forward to it, but then I had an attack of killer gas!! The kind that gets up under your diaphragm & just sits there. Kinda like post-op gas! Dear lord! I'm having sympathy gas pain with the new bandsters! Jeez! this sucks! So now I don't even want to eat. It has pretty much gone now. I drank a soda & took simethicone. I just watched Lonnie eat again!! Think he'll get sick of this? LOL!!

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Ok this might sound disgusting but when i was with my ex-wife i would make her eat my x-favorite foods and kiss her so i could taste them too... lol... gross but it stoped my tummy from growling so bad... lol

Kim

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