I have only told a few people about my choice to have surgery (May 25th). I don't really want people to know because I think that they will judge me. In fact, one of the people that I did tell told me that they didn't think that I needed it. I know she means well. She is a large gal, as well. I know she knows what it is like, but she is a good deal bigger than me. I considered the idea that I just don't look big to her because she is bigger than me. Does that make sense? Don't get me wrong, she wasn't cruel to me or anything. She just felt that I was doing something radical. The other 2 people I have told are very supportive and totally understand. I do wonder what I will tell people once I start losing weight, however. I have contemplated making up something a little more "natural" sounding as an excuse for my sudden weight loss. What are you folks doing? Who have you told? What did they think about it? Please share!

Another thing that sucks about having told people is that now they are constantly asking me how much weight I've lost. I've only lost ten pounds. I still have 40 to go. it's a process.

Iv told everyone of importance and they are all very supportive with my decision!

I really don't know what I am going to do about telling others. I am in the beginning stages and have my evaluation appointment. I have mentioned to a few people, family members and a couple close friends and they were more supportive of the idea then I thought they would. My husband doesn't want me to but I think he will support me when I make the final decision. I have a hard time keeping things to myself so doubt if I will be able to keep it a secret at work but I would like to keep it private.

I decided to tell only those I cared about and trusted. Having their support is crucial to me and so far everyone has been supportive and this has been really valuable in going through my journey. I do think it is a personal decision but it is good to have that openness and support around you.

Best of luck!