Has your brain connected with your new body, and do they match up? It took me a couple years to SEE MY NEW BODY CORRECTLY.

Even though I have lost over 100 pounds I am still Morbidly Obese. I have a hard time knowing what fits by looking and have to try things on. It would probably help my body image if my clothes fit. I work from home so I have'nt bothered buy many clothes. In some ways it's hard to tell how much I've lost because I look pretty frumpy.

I am 120 lbs down and still have 55 lbs to go until I reach my goal. I still see myself as fat. Even though this is the thinnest since I've been 17 years old!!! Its hard letting go of your hang ups about your old self. On one hand I'm a little more outgoing and have more confidence but on the other hand I still hold myself back. I know that doesn't make sense but I know I have a long way to go! IDK if I will ever feel "thin".

Other people notice my weight loss but when I look in the mirror I see the same old fat face. I was banded 3 years ago and lost a good bit of weight and then I gave up and got way off track. I gained all I had lost and then some. Recently I decided to dedicate myself to the process and get back to basics. I made an appt with my dr. confessed my "sins" and asked for a fill. That was 3 weeks ago and I have lost 19 pounds! My daughter has commented on how much different I look around my middle and someone asked me yesterday "How much weight have you lost? You look fantastic!" Call me crazy but I don't see any difference at all! I think no matter how much weight I lose I will still be a "fat girl" in my head.

Im so close to goal (wel sorta..would.love to lose another 20 after that as a bonus) and wear a 12/14 and I still feel "fat" its so crazy! I finaly weigh less than my skinny hubby and im so self conscios about him picking me up! I need ro wrap my head aroynd my new hott body I still look at women and think "of to be her size" and hubby informs me im smaller than her....hopefully one day....

i'm almost 3 years post-op and 3 pounds away from my goal weight. when i look in the mirror, i still see the fat me. when i go clothes shopping i still try on the bigger sizes because i can't believe that i could possibly fit into size 8 jeans. my friends and family still comment on how thin i've gotten but i just don't see it. you'd think after 3 years i would be used to my new body, but i'm not. maybe someday...

I really think I'm not programmed to love my body. Yeah, I lost a ton of weight and I'm wearing size 10 jeans, but I still have jiggly arms, a muffin top and thunder thighs. My hips mercifully are OK. I do look a million times better than I used to and I love being able to do so many things effortlessly, but in my head, I'm still fat. I finally understand all those thin girls at college who would complain about being fat while weighing 130lbs. I thought they were just ridiculous, but now I feel the same way. I don't want to whine about being fat, but there still is a boatload of fat on this body...Logically, I realize that I'm not 22 and this is how 50 year old women look, but it still feels like fat to me. My next goal is to decide how thin I want to be...and then adjust my attitude to fit.

Cindy

My brain and eyes havent connected yet with my true image. I felt skinnier at 170 lbs then I do not at 150 pounds. WhenI look at myself in the mirror I still see the big me.

It has gotten harder to see myself sometimes because now I have had some plastics done I really dont recognize myself and I sometimes wonder who is looking back at me in the mirror. Maybe I should have accepted myself more before plastics or maybe it is good I didn't get used to the flabby me before I changed again. Who knows right? But either way I am with you guys of not used to the new and still changing me!

I'm so glad someone posted this. I still can't see the weight that I've lost. I'm down 42 pounds but don't see it at all. I don't know if I will ever see myself as thin.

I still feel fat alot of times, but Somedays i have moments where i catch myself in a full mirror and say WOW what a change!

Have any of you thought of seeing a counselor or therapist that works with WLS patients? I know that my surgery center has a meeting once a month with a licensed psychologist and it's only $10 per participant. I haven't gotten to the point that I need to "see" myself thin yet because I'm only a month post-op but I can totally relate to the comments. I think it all has to do with getting your mind healthy with your body. Many overweight people are overweight because of an addiciton or a traumatic experience. Weight often is a way to guard ourselves from things.

But honestly, I have the opposite problem sometimes. Sometimes I don't think I'm as big as I am and when I see pictures I'm thinking, "WTH?" lol... and i've been big as long as I can remember.

I think focusing on mental clarity throughout the process will help us all!

I am 19, and like most teenagers I still have body issues. BUT, they have definitely improved with my 85 lb weight loss. I still look in the mirror and jiggle the fat that will just NOT COME OFF!!!! I definitely do think that more self acceptance will come with time, but for now I still do have some issues with my body.

Have any of you thought of seeing a counselor or therapist that works with WLS patients? I know that my surgery center has a meeting once a month with a licensed psychologist and it's only $10 per participant. I haven't gotten to the point that I need to "see" myself thin yet because I'm only a month post-op but I can totally relate to the comments. I think it all has to do with getting your mind healthy with your body. Many overweight people are overweight because of an addiciton or a traumatic experience. Weight often is a way to guard ourselves from things.

But honestly, I have the opposite problem sometimes. Sometimes I don't think I'm as big as I am and when I see pictures I'm thinking, "WTH?" lol... and i've been big as long as I can remember.

I think focusing on mental clarity throughout the process will help us all!

Honestly...It's not that big a problem for me. I have no problem with therapy (been there), but I still am fat (to a degree). I think I've just really found out that nobody's body is perfect.

As an obese person, I had the misguided idea that all those normally-sized people did not have fat and were thrilled with their bodies. Now that I've lost half my body weight, I realize that I need to get used to body I've got, fat or not. I'm learning to embrace what I can do and how I can live with this body, not so much what it looks like.

Cindy

But honestly, I have the opposite problem sometimes. Sometimes I don't think I'm as big as I am and when I see pictures I'm thinking, "WTH?" lol... and i've been big as long as I can remember.

I think focusing on mental clarity throughout the process will help us all!

I actually think that might be why it can be hard to see the difference in ourselves. I never really accepted how fat and overweight I really am, I think I often saw myself about 40 pounds lighter, so after loosing 40 pounds I don't think I'll see much of a difference.

Reverse body dismorphia syndrome. Yikes, I feel like I am smaller than I am and then I catch myself in the mirror and say who the hell is that.

It will be nice to have a mind with the right body...