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Not really sure how to ask this, so I'll just blurt it out.

I am 5 months out from being banded and cannot bear anyone elses weight on top of me. My port is sensitive. Has this been an issue for anyone else? Im not sure it will ever NOT be too sensitive.

I also find myself automatically being very protective of the port area...which doesnt go over very well as you might imagine. And I miss that particular closeness.

Thanks for any response!

~hiddn

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It's been awhile but I do remember my port being sensative, it hurt for awhile and I was also very caution of the area. If it is something that continues I would contact your doctor about it, maybe there is something they can do for you. I hope it goes away soon, I just remember the port being the one thing that hurt the most...good luck :)

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After my first band, my port never hurt at all. However when I was banded the second time my port hurt, and it never went away.

I talked this over with my doc and even had an ultrasound and he said my port looked good. It was difficult to do many things even like working out and sex was a problem too.

I had my port moved when I had my mini tt and since then I haven't had any pain. We are thinking my port was hurting because of its location and where it was stitched.

Maybe that is something you should ask and talk to your doctor about. The band isn't supposed to make you in pain and restrict things in your life. Hopefully you can figure something out.

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I would talk to your doctor for sure! I was able to "engage" in that "activity" 5 days post-op with limitied pain in the port area and I'm only at 12 days post-op now and have no pain or tenderness in that area anymore. The only time I feel something is if I move or twist in a funny way. I've never had surgery before so I had no idea how quickly or slowly my body would heal. Maybe you're just taking a little longer!

I know what you mean about the closeness though. I was begging my husband to just cuddle and give me one of those big bear hugs but he was so scared he'd hurt me. So I hope you feel better soon!

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