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Not sure if I'm posting in the right area so I apologize if this is in the wrong place.

I'm single and I dating for me usually involves going to restaurants and bars. I'm going to be banded next week so I intend to be single for a while after but what are the options for when I start dating again? Does anyone have any experience with this?

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Not sure if I'm posting in the right area so I apologize if this is in the wrong place.

I'm single and I dating for me usually involves going to restaurants and bars. I'm going to be banded next week so I intend to be single for a while after but what are the options for when I start dating again? Does anyone have any experience with this?

Hi and Congratulations on your new life:

I would say just take a date at a time, if you go out to eat have the waiter split the meal in half and just eat the half served to you, be smart about your choice. Once you have a good handle on what you can and can not eat you will be fine! With your dates if you don't want to tell them that you had the band just explain that you are watching what you eat, however be careful with the sabatures, these men will always say "you look great, eat more etc etc".

Good luck

Sandee

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There are things you can do that don't involve food.

Bowling

Mini Golf

Walks(beach,countryside)

movies(eating is not essential)

museums

It all depends what you are into. You might even find a date like this turns out to be a lot more fun than the wining and dining kind.

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You'll be fine. I can't eat anything but yoguart and shakes before about 11am. so for me, I wouldn't date in the am. You'll learn what you can eat comfortably for dates. Salads, and quesadillas work for me! If you go to bars often...hopefully you don't drink beer, it has carbonation. If you have a tendancy to overdrink, you'll have to watch that too. You'll just learn to sip a drink or two all night. Who knows, maybe after you start loosing weight, you will be inspired to demand more from a date, like hiking, bowling, golfing, etc.

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You can make a great meal out of Soup and an appetizer. I'd be more uncomfortable ordering a full entree and leaving most of it behind, so I'd rather have a smaller portion to begin with.

I'm not banded yet, but I do this already and have never been questioned about it.

(BTW, I live in Chicago, which is a big "food" city and it is almost impossible to date without eating out at some point.)

Good luck to you!

kagead

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Not sure if I'm posting in the right area so I apologize if this is in the wrong place.

I'm single and I dating for me usually involves going to restaurants and bars. I'm going to be banded next week so I intend to be single for a while after but what are the options for when I start dating again? Does anyone have any experience with this?

Your in Korea:) do it the korean way :) start with a coffee date, do a drinking date, maybe hit up Indian ( mostly creamy things can avoid Pasta, bread etc easily) and then move up to bigger kind of restaurants.

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Thanks for all your advice. So the staying single thing didn't work and I'm dating someone.

Recent dates have included brunch (omlette for me); going for long walks by the river; going to museums; going to the bar (I had one drink and I was drunk - the first time that has ever happened, he thought it was hilarious); and of course watching movies.

Will definitely have to suggest an indian sometime soon!

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