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I will try to make this short...... before surgery....Anxiety....almost changed my mind....

lost quite a bit of weight on my pre-op....went into surgery crying and undicided.....

woke up thinking what the hell did I do....... Anxiety got worse and depression set in..... went for help and called my doctor.... seeing a psychologist.........

went in to see my surgeon and nurse..... they didnt ask me how i was doing....didnt check my scars....didnt notice I was loosing like crazy..... all they wanted to talk about was how Im only in the 2% of pple who come out of this feeling down... ( 2% ,,,bullshit)......so I went home feeling bad and feeling like a failure..... but my psychologist told me maybe they were scared I was going to sue them.....somehow I fell through the cracks and didnt have a phyce eval..... but they had answers for why I didnt.....they told me they didnt see any red flags..... :mad2:

........went in for my first fill.....and my dietitian gave me a speech......your loosing to fast!....your not eating enough Pasta, crackers,rice....blah blah.... I was like loosing to fast??? I want to loose more!!! she said your not going to turn anorexic on us are you.......what the hell??? I gave her a look like.....come on now ...your all taking this a little to far!...... I dont even want to get skinnie for frig sakes.... 170 ish sounds good to me........ Now,,,,would I be out of line if I said something next visite?..... if they say something again....????? .... and they call themselves professionals.... azzholes!!! .............:)

way to make me feel like Im failing at this.....my depression is gone.... no thanks to them! :cursing:

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How the hell could they tell you "they didnt see any red flags"?!! That's not their area of expertise, hence the reason people are sent to professionals for that! What friggin' IDIOTS! :cursing:

I'm sorry you're depressed :) And if I were you I would definitely not hold back about anything. You have a right to say anything you feel when it comes to them. I hope you get everything straightened out and I hope you get to feeling happy again. *HUGS*

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I thought a psch eval was sop for the insurance approval...

Regardless, what's done is done and you've taken steps to get yourself out of the depressed rut. Is it possible to change drs? Even if it's a bit further of a drive, it sounds like it might be worth it. You literally put your life in these peoples hands and it sounds like they don't respect that.

My advice is to find a new dr...

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..the sergeon is very shy....and quite new..kinda lets the nurse run the show..but I have to say he has done an awesome job with my surgery and with everyone else........ the nurse is a bitch :cursing: and I over herd the sec. on the phone....she mentioned someone called her out and called her a bitch...... But Amy your right....it is not their area of expertise.....and i told her....if anyone would have asked me anything about my past mental illnesses ...i would have told them everything..... my psychologist said that the reason it is not manditory for a eval.... is because they would have to hire someone just to handle all the people needing a psych eval (here in Canada,in my provence , we are 100% covered for surgery).......

crabby.......I thought of going to a new doctor.... 4 hours away is a bit long..... Im sure things will get better....if not well, Im going to have to say something! :)

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