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Hi everyone,

I will be having surgery January 31st. I'm nervous anxious and excited all at once. I haven't told too many people about the surgery with the exception of two co-workers (and they both assumed I was taking the easy way out and should just diet) but that's another story, my husband and personal trainer. Husband is on board because he wants me to be healthy but he doesn't seem to grasp what a life changing decision this is for me. He hasn't been to one single appointment with me but he offered to drop me off at the hospital day of surgery before he goes to work. Back off ladies, he's mine lol.

My trainer/friend is my only support system right now but she has so much going on in her life that I feel like I'm burdening her with my concerns.

Needless I'm pretty much on my own and I'm ok with that.

I'm doing this for myself and my kids. I don't want to be obese anymore. I want to run with them without getting winded. I want to take them to the park and play with them instead of standing, who am I kidding, sitting by the sidelines, I can't stand for too long without my knees and ankles hurting. I just want the old me back.

If there's anyone in the NYC area or even someone having surgery around the same time as me that would like to have a friend to talk to, I'd love that.

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Hi zizi,

I found a great group of people from NYC/Long Island. Hop on over to the support group subforums. Here is the link:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/304888-ny-nyclong-island/page-32

there is some discussion about meeting up on the 28th at a coffee house in Hempstead. Maybe you can join us.

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That's great!! Thanks.

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I just had mine done two weeks ago. Pm me if you want. I can use all the support I can get too.

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I am having my surgery on January 13th this Friday and I would love to be I would love to share our experience I live in New Jersey but always visit New York because I have family there

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Im new to group, sleeved 4 days post op, feel free to pm me too. Still feeling my way around this app. Reading the posts has helped alot as i am doing this pretty much on my own as well.. recovering in peace, without all the glaring and opinions of my big fat critical spanish family... remember big fat greek wedding... multiply by 3. Smh.

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I am having my surgery on January 13th this Friday and I would love to be I would love to share our experience I live in New Jersey but always visit New York because I have family there

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That would be awesome!!!!! Omg you must be so excited! Have you started a pre-op diet yet?

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Im new to group, sleeved 4 days post op, feel free to pm me too. Still feeling my way around this app. Reading the posts has helped alot as i am doing this pretty much on my own as well.. recovering in peace, without all the glaring and opinions of my big fat critical spanish family... remember big fat greek wedding... multiply by 3. Smh.

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Congratulations!! Love your newly sleeved self!!! No matter what! Family can be so harmful without even realizing it. It sucks but it's still all good. Btw I love my big fat Greek wedding. Just put windex on it!! Lol

Seriously tho, I didn't tell my family because they can be so quick to criticize and the critical part of this whole procedure is how you cope mentally.

Our bodies are changing physically from the surgery but it's up to us to alter our mental state for more positive results. Can't have anyone adding any negativity!

So tell me, how was it? Did they give ya good pain meds? Cuz I'm a big time wuss and have very low tolerance for pain. Lol

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I started pre op on December 30th

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Good for you. You're almost there!!!

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Hi @@iKarma1408

The time is flying by. I'm almost there. Your date is not too far away either. Do you have to do a pre-op diet?

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Hi @@iKarma1408

The time is flying by. I'm almost there. Your date is not too far away either. Do you have to do a pre-op diet?

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Yes, I start on the 30th. All liquids until my surgery. This will be the hardest thing I have done. It's when I know that I shouldn't eat that I really want to! ????????‍♀️

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