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What is too skinny?

I'm 5-8 pounds away from goal weight. I'm 5'6" and 153 pounds. I'm currently in size 6 jeans and may end up in 4's. I'm thinner that I've ever been in my whole adult life. It's more than I dreamed for!

However, some family are now becoming "concerned". I've lost too much weight. My face is getting too skinny. I'm starting to look sick. Will I please put larger portions on my plate....

I know that I have a disordered view of myself. Most of us probably do. It's been hard to see my own transformation. It's was only this past month that I stated seeing a thin person in the mirror.

Why are people worried?? Is it because they aren't used to seeing me this thin...am I not seeing myself accurately....or is it that we as a culture confuse healthy skinny with scary skinny because we are used to seeing overweight as 'normal'? I don't know.

What is too skinny??

Is it having a bony sharp frame?

Is it wrinkling around the face because of loose skin?

Is it what the BMI calculator says is underweight?

Is it how the person feels physically; lack of energy and/or endurance?

Is it when you can't sit on a hard chair without your butt feeling painful?

Is it when people around you are becoming concerned?

How do you define "too skinny"?

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How do you feel? Are you land coming back normal? Are you nutritionally on track?

It's all about how you feel and how healthy you are. Not what others see. They'll get used to the new you

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Yes, how do you feel, do you have energy, and what does your physician say? That is the key.

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What is too skinny?

I'm 5-8 pounds away from goal weight. I'm 5'6" and 153 pounds. I'm currently in size 6 jeans and may end up in 4's. I'm thinner that I've ever been in my whole adult life. It's more than I dreamed for!

However, some family are now becoming "concerned". I've lost too much weight. My face is getting too skinny. I'm starting to look sick. Will I please put larger portions on my plate....

I know that I have a disordered view of myself. Most of us probably do. It's been hard to see my own transformation. It's was only this past month that I stated seeing a thin person in the mirror.

Why are people worried?? Is it because they aren't used to seeing me this thin...am I not seeing myself accurately....or is it that we as a culture confuse healthy skinny with scary skinny because we are used to seeing overweight as 'normal'? I don't know.

What is too skinny??

Is it having a bony sharp frame?

Is it wrinkling around the face because of loose skin?

Is it what the BMI calculator says is underweight?

Is it how the person feels physically; lack of energy and/or endurance?

Is it when you can't sit on a hard chair without your butt feeling painful?

Is it when people around you are becoming concerned?

How do you define "too skinny"?

From what you describe, you are a very healthy size, and shouldn't be worried in the least! It sounds like what's really going on here, is that your transformation has happened so quickly that it's been a bit of a shock to your loved ones, to the point of worrying them. But you just wait. Once they get used to your new svelte image, they will adjust and then find it difficult to relate to, or even remember how you used to look.

Just relax, enjoy, and be proud of all you've accomplished. You deserve it!

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I could have written your post!!!

I am between 5'6" & 5'7" depending on who measures me and I am 145lbs. Size 6 consistently with a few size 4's here and there.

My Dr has never set a goal weight for me he says my body will find a new homeostasis and will settle when I get there. My PCP said I was fine and could go down to 140 and he'd be fine with that. He'd be fine at less but thinks then I might look gaunt.

But my family??? They were telling me I was too skinny 10lbs ago! They complain they see my bones (they never complain about seeing my 16yr old daughter's bones). My husband (who worried all the time when I was too heavy but has never complimented my weight loss) now says I need to gain 10lbs.

Here's what I think.

I am strong. I do yoga 3x a week and ran a half marathon a week ago.

I am solidly in the middle of my recommended BMi range.

My loss is slowing, maybe stopping, my body seems "happy" here.

My doctors are fine with where I am.

I think I'm good! Hey, I can always gain a few lbs back, I know how to do that LOL

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I could have written your post!!!

I am between 5'6" & 5'7" depending on who measures me and I am 145lbs. Size 6 consistently with a few size 4's here and there.

My Dr has never set a goal weight for me he says my body will find a new homeostasis and will settle when I get there. My PCP said I was fine and could go down to 140 and he'd be fine with that. He'd be fine at less but thinks then I might look gaunt.

But my family??? They were telling me I was too skinny 10lbs ago! They complain they see my bones (they never complain about seeing my 16yr old daughter's bones). My husband (who worried all the time when I was too heavy but has never complimented my weight loss) now says I need to gain 10lbs.

Here's what I think.

I am strong. I do yoga 3x a week and ran a half marathon a week ago.

I am solidly in the middle of my recommended BMi range.

My loss is slowing, maybe stopping, my body seems "happy" here.

My doctors are fine with where I am.

I think I'm good! Hey, I can always gain a few lbs back, I know how to do that LOL

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