Psychological insecurity

[salem244 7]

I posted on the pre surgery forum but I wanted to post here to see if anyone has shared these feelings. I spent one and a half years trying to get approved. I finally was and my surgery is 9/3. I know that I am an emotional eater to stop feelings of emptiness or other feelings. I was initially thrilled with the surgery date but now I have come upon something else. I now feel that my obese body was a shield, some kind of protection for me. Now that I am going to be thinner my anxiety is that I will have those same feelings but nothing like I had to "protect" me. I hid behind fat. I wonder who I will even be after losing weight. Has anyone out there had anything similar to these feelings? I am getting more and more anxious about it all. I do see a therapist and will talk about it but if any of you have dealt with this it sure would help me. Thanks.

[samanthar 46]

I can't wait to be on the other side. The only thing I'm worried about is my husband. They say a lot of people after wls become more social. I'm hoping he can keep up or doesn't become jealous.

[April206 128]

I posted on the pre surgery forum but I wanted to post here to see if anyone has shared these feelings. I spent one and a half years trying to get approved. I finally was and my surgery is 9/3. I know that I am an emotional eater to stop feelings of emptiness or other feelings. I was initially thrilled with the surgery date but now I have come upon something else. I now feel that my obese body was a shield, some kind of protection for me. Now that I am going to be thinner my anxiety is that I will have those same feelings but nothing like I had to "protect" me. I hid behind fat. I wonder who I will even be after losing weight. Has anyone out there had anything similar to these feelings? I am getting more and more anxious about it all. I do see a therapist and will talk about it but if any of you have dealt with this it sure would help me. Thanks.

Are you sure you're not a mind reader? Because I'm feeling just the same as you about my fat shield. 100 extra lbs and a sarcastic attitude kept everyone away so I couldn't get hurt. But I finally got to the point where my "protection" was literally killing me and it had to go!

Please keep working with your therapist on this. A great therapist has helped me tremendously with this issue and I hope yours will help you too! Message me if you'd like to talk