ok so i am sitting here and can't wait until i get the lap band , why you may ask ? cause having sex at 253 pounds totally sucks ! i hate to be so descriptive but im only honest and i am married so when me and my husband go to do the hanky panky i refuse cause i feel so lazy and feel like i can not move like i use too .

it will be like 1 time a month and im only 26 years old poor hubby lol

everything is just in the way and i get out of breath too easy , how do you feel about this ? and i hope this will all change when i lose

I think you'll start enjoying it more. Not only because you'll physically start feeling better but, you'll start feeling more confidented which makes you feel more sexy!

Good luck!

ok so i am sitting here and can't wait until i get the LAP-BAND® , why you may ask ? cause having sex at 253 pounds totally sucks ! i hate to be so descriptive but im only honest and i am married so when me and my husband go to do the hanky panky i refuse cause i feel so lazy and feel like i can not move like i use too .

it will be like 1 time a month and im only 26 years old poor hubby lol

everything is just in the way and i get out of breath too easy , how do you feel about this ? and i hope this will all change when i lose

It will get better. I have only lost 36lbs and I am now 270 so I weigh more then you. The blubber still gets in the way but I have more energy. I'm up to 2 times a month now..lol

I hear ya sister!!!!!! I just got banded 11-9-09 and am hoping that this gets better real soon. This is the one thing that my husband and I fight about constantly, he wants it more and doesnt under stand that it has nothing to do with him and that it is me, he love me for who I am not what I look like, but that still doesn't change how often he gets it, which is about 1-2 a month. I am hoping that I get my sex drive back like I had pre babies/weight gain as life was good then.

This could be a really revealing thread :thumbup:

This begs the question...does the sexual drive of a obese person deminish because of lack of energy, OR does it simply deminish because of being obese and we are trying to justify it with excuses,i.e. no energy?

Since getting banded and losing weight my sex drive has increased. Big time. I just feel better and so much more confident.

Even at 290 pounds, I have never had an issue with my sex drive. My main concern is how long I have to weight after surgery to have sex. And is there certain things that can't be done do to having the band. I don't want any complications due to hanky panky:unsure:

well i am not into it cause i get out of breath too easy now and thats what i hate lol

hummm LOL i may be out of breath too but I don't think I pay it any attention. I hope it gets better for you sweetie.:thumbup: