Hey ya'll. Had my surgery in February, 2009. I am down about 70 pounds. :thumbup: Halfway to goal! It has been hard work, but worth every second. And having such a supportive family helps. ALOT!

Recently, I found out I don't quite have all the support I thought I did, and it has been devistating!! My daughter was talking to my nephew, and they began discussing my weight loss. Turns out my sister has been extremely mean behind my back and has been telling my nephew that I "cheated."

I should have seen this coming. When I had the surgery it took her two weeks to come see me. And when she did, she sat and cried complaining that "fat people" don't visit people who've just had WLS. (my sister is morbidly obese)

Then about five months later, at my son's birthday party, when I saw her, she said nothing about my appearance and just dove into this "me me me" story. I tried to be kind throughout the party, but must admit my feelings were hurt and I did withdraw a bit. Days later my Mom tells me that my sister is mad at me for IGNORING her at the party. Whatev..... :smile2:

Anyway, this comment about "cheating" just grates my cheese. I mean we work just as friggin hard as "normal" people to lose weight. I bust my a##. I work out seven days a week, I can't remember the last time I had my favorite food!! I'm constantly watching fat grams, calories, carbs and proteins! HOW THE HELL IS THAT CHEATING??

I think my sister will too. But you have to have a ride.So i am not telling her till the week of! I still might have to use my back up.

When someone I loved told me LAP-BAND® was cheating I told them yup its cheating death do you have a problem with that, now they dont make anymore negative comments.

I have to say.... That is THE BEST damned come back I have EVER heard!! :biggrin: Touche!! I like your style!!! :biggrin:

I have to say.... That is THE BEST damned come back I have EVER heard!! Touche!! I like your style!!! :thumbup:

thanks! I figured I had to stick up for myself on this one.

Whatever it takes to make it work. I know that I needed the band to assisting in keeping me straight. It certainly has not been easy but well worth it.

So if it is cheating so be it. I have not been at this weight for 27 years. I no longer have diabetes or sleep apnea. No back pain or knee pain.

Whatever it takes to make it work. I know that I needed the band to assisting in keeping me straight. It certainly has not been easy but well worth it.

So if it is cheating so be it. I have not been at this weight for 27 years. I no longer have diabetes or sleep apnea. No back pain or knee pain.

I have had some of the same feedback about getting lapband being cheating. if you show people that you don't care what they think is what I have found to be the most successful. I just say " lapband is cheating but I don't care look at me now. There is no way I could have done it without lapband.". I love who I am and that is the best thing about it. Just have a positive outlook about it and that will help keep you on track!

You cannot control what other people are gonna think or say. This is gonna be one of those things where you will get nothing out of holding on to. In fact, it will do you harm to continue holding on to the ill feelings.

Sadly, sometimes your family, or members of your family just aren't good for you. You can keep loving them and wishing them well, but for your own mental and physical health, it's just not good for you to be around them or deal with them.

Too bad Mom seems to want in on the drama, too. Sounds like they want you the way you were, to me. They probably got something out of you being unsuccessful. Sometimes, people (wrongly) think that they can't win unless someone else loses.

Well, first off, congrats on your success thus far. I'm having the surgery next Friday 12/11. It sounds like to me that your sister is jealous and is dealing with a lot of issues of her own. I would attempt to approach her in a kind way and have a heart to heart talk about it and tell her that you love her and support her and hope for her support as well. If she does not feel like being on your side in this, then move on, love her but agree to disagree. Bottom line is, you are not doing this for HER.. you are doing it for yourself.. and you can't be worrying about what other people think anymore.. :sad: You go girl !

i have heard his term and others like the easy way .... but people are jealous or they just dont understand..

i have lost some of my friends after being banded.. but thats because they werent true friends to begin with..

dont let it bug you..

you did this for yourself and nobody else..

Take her to an educational meeting so she can learn and be more knowledgable.. it might benefit her as well..

you say she is overweight as well... encourage her to come excercise with you or try some new healthy recipes with her... if she sees you want to help her maybe that can help as well