Hello all...

I need somewhere to vent, bitch, scream and get advice about my neighbor.

My neighbor has been divorced 2 years now. And has never "hit" on me before. I wish I could still that! He lives DIRECTLY next to me. SO we are talking I scream he could hear me.

Well lately he has been giving me compliments, telling me how nice I look, asked how much have I lost ect. I have been polite because he is also the Tae Kwon Do master for my daughter.

His comments have gotten down right embarassing in the last few weeks and yesterday blew it right out of the Water.

He approached me and clearly I could tell I was in TROUBLE. He said he had noticed I have said "things" to him lately that have put myself out there. Which I have not because first of all I am married, second of all, I am NOT the kind of person that can make comments like that. I am a very quiet person about sex. I told him no, he was mistaken and got up to leave. He followed me to my car out of the dojo (with my KIDS right there). I was very upset and uncomfotable and kept telling him to "get the hell out of here". He didn't get it. He then said

"We don't have to have an affair, you can just come over". I was speechless and wanted to cry. I felt harrassed and dirty.

I told him "No, that would make me just like your ex wife and I am NOT that girl". I didn't know any other way to get him away from me. My kids were 2 feet away from me and I am not even sure if they heard or not.

I am mortified and have been hulled up in my house. I want to tell my husband--but let's think about that one---WE LIVE next door to him and my man is the type to go out for blood. I have no doubt that my hubby would end up in jail. PLUS he is my daughter's Tae Kwon Do master.

I have no idea what to do. I want NOTHING to do with this man, want my child to have NOTHING to do with him--but there is NO WAY for me to make that happen without raising red flags. We own our home so we are no position to move.....

SO what do I do now? I can not handle confrontation, so me telling him off is close to zero. Plus I am acting very strange with my husband and have no idea what to tell him. I truly feel violated.

And then I am worried that he will take this out on my daughter---he already said she can't test after I turned him down, so he will go after her......

This thread died off in August. What happened?! I hope you and your family are doing well and he got himself in some deep doodoo!

I had chosen to have my cop friend have a talk with him which worked well. He says nothing to me and I say nothing to him. I do hate never telling my husband, but I think that is for the best. If he didn't live next door I would tell DH! :wink: Sorry I didn't update, I stay away from here a lot now. Too much!

Sounds like a total sicko, I still would tell my husband just in case he tries something even weirder.

Doug (Cop friend) did make a report so there is a paper trail.

I pulled my daughter out of his class and refused to let her go back. I told my husband we were just too busy for it. I hate lying but it is better than him killing someone!