Occassionally, I run across a few posts from people like me who have failed their bands. But these posts are usually just a venting opportunity. I have failed my band - I acknowledge it - and it would be great if we could have a group of other "failures" who want to work together to become success stories.

MY STORY

I was banded in March of 2007. At the time I was 299 lbs. I am a 6ft tall lady. Today, I weigh 255, and basically just as big as I was when I got my band. I have got numerous fills and I usually eat through my fiils. I can eat whatever I want. I overeat and I am confident that I have caused my stomach to expand. I snack on candy, I eat the wrong foods - I eat until I am STUFFED. Sometimes when I overeat, I feel sick and gag to relieve the pressure.

I moved to Houston 4 months ago, and last week, I went in for a port-readjustment with Dr Alanis. It went well and I now have a new resolve to make it work. My doctor mentioned to me that about 40% of all bandsters fail. I do not want to be a failure. I have paid too much money to go through this.

MY GOAL FOR DECEMBER

• To write everything I eat down, including calories
  
• To stay within 1500 Calories.
  

What's your story? What's your goal? How can I support you? How can we support each other?

Misery loves company, and company can help us move from failure to success. Please join me by telling me your story, and your GOAL for December. Let's vent - but more importantly, let's talk about strategies to make this work - let's share and support each other - Let's turn this from failure to success.

I REFUSE TO BE A FAILURE

Okay guys...I've been lurking the last few days. Can I just start off by saying that counting calories SUX! There...now that I've said that, I feel better. I started with my "recommitt" last Monday, did pretty good for three days, then relaxed because I just can't find the time to write everything down or log on to fitday. So...to make a really long story short...my weight has stalled this week and I didn't commit to ANY of my weekly goals like I intended to. I did walk one day, but have found excuses for all the other days.

So...how do I stop this vicious cycle? I'm going to pick myself up and start over today. I'm not sure that I can actually commit to logging my foods and then really carry through with it all week, but I'm going to commit to making slow and clear decisions before I eat this week. Don't eat unless I'm truely hungry (which I seem to do all the time), and don't drink anything with calories, other than Protein shakes, and don't drink with my meals!!!!

I go in today for my first fill since my port revision surgery, so I'm praying for restriction!

I hope everyone is off to a good start this week! We can do this...I know we can!

Okay guys...I've been lurking the last few days. Can I just start off by saying that counting calories SUX! There...now that I've said that, I feel better. I started with my "recommitt" last Monday, did pretty good for three days, then relaxed because I just can't find the time to write everything down or log on to fitday. So...to make a really long story short...my weight has stalled this week and I didn't commit to ANY of my weekly goals like I intended to. I did walk one day, but have found excuses for all the other days.

So...how do I stop this vicious cycle? I'm going to pick myself up and start over today. I'm not sure that I can actually commit to logging my foods and then really carry through with it all week, but I'm going to commit to making slow and clear decisions before I eat this week. Don't eat unless I'm truely hungry (which I seem to do all the time), and don't drink anything with calories, other than Protein shakes, and don't drink with my meals!!!!

I go in today for my first fill since my port revision surgery, so I'm praying for restriction!

I hope everyone is off to a good start this week! We can do this...I know we can!

Hi Ebox!!

Hope you are well. I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling so much. Have you considered determining what you are going to eat the day before so you allocate your calories in advance? E.g. doing pre-packaged meals like weight watchers smart ones, or packing your lunch and Snacks so you already know what you will eat and the calories??

Good luck with the fill!!! WHuwhuuu - I can tell you that the port revision for me was the start of a new day. Do you have to go on liquids for a couple of days after your fill?

I think your idea of predetermining ones calorie intake is a 'light bulb' moment for me and I am going to set up a menu plan for the week instead of just grabbing what I feel like at a wim. this should also help to plan the necessary protein intake....brillent and so logical. Not being sarcastic I really mean it.

Hi Ebox!!

Good luck with the fill!!! WHuwhuuu - I can tell you that the port revision for me was the start of a new day. Do you have to go on liquids for a couple of days after your fill?

I will only have to do liquids for the rest of today, then soft early tomorrow, then solids by tomorrow night. So I ate a salad with grilled chicken from Chipotle today at lunch, I'll get my fill at 4pm today, and then if I'm hungry I'll have a Protein drink for supper tonight. I don't get to see the surgeon, only the PA, and they usually are only allowed to give .5cc at a time, but I'm going to BEG for a full cc today. Keep your fingers crossed for me!!!:cursing:

Hello ladies...my name is Scarlet ...may I join your group? I feel like such a loser(not in a good way) and wonder if I can get my act back on track again. I will try with small baby steps and check in often to find my way. I had my surgery March 07 lost 70 pounds, not very steller but I was happy. Then 08 was a bad year with a 5 month platue and then a tight fill which brought on 2 complete unfills. I am just hanging on by a thread but will not give up!

Welcome, Welcome Welcome....Yes - I hope the liquids/5 day pouch test works with restriction. Hang in there!!!!

What are your goals for the month of January?

:cursing: Hey, so glad to find ya'll? Can I pleeeeaaaase join yall? Quick version of my story. I am 5 6. I had surgery October 20, 2008. I began at 225 prior to the pre-op. I am now at 210. My goal is 140. But, I have only lost 15 lbs. I read on the main talk area that people that had surgery in October have lost on average about 30 pounds. I try to stay patient but HEEEELLLPPPP :cursing:. I do not want to be a failure. I was a cash pay and that is sooo much money. I have a 10cc band and have had 3 fills which puts me at 6.8cc's. I think last tuesday (my 3rd fill) I have maybe reached my "sweet spot" everybody talks about. Please give me yalls input.

:thumbup: Hey, so glad to find ya'll? Can I pleeeeaaaase join yall? Quick version of my story. I am 5 6. I had surgery October 20, 2008. I began at 225 prior to the pre-op. I am now at 210. My goal is 140. But, I have only lost 15 lbs. I read on the main talk area that people that had surgery in October have lost on average about 30 pounds. I try to stay patient but HEEEELLLPPPP :laugh:. I do not want to be a failure. I was a cash pay and that is sooo much money. I have a 10cc band and have had 3 fills which puts me at 6.8cc's. I think last tuesday (my 3rd fill) I have maybe reached my "sweet spot" everybody talks about. Please give me yalls input.

Hi MBAKERDPM,

Welcome welcome welcome!! We would love to have you!!!!!

The good news is that you have lost 15lbs, even if it is tough to bear as others who were banded in the same month have lost more. I've been there so I know exactly what you mean. Most people who were banded at around the same time as me have actually hit goal, and it can be disheartening to see. However, remember that this is a marathon not a sprint - and as long as you are losing steadily, that's what counts.

LOVELY that you are at your sweet spot. Are you recording what you eat to ensure that you are eating healthy foods and controlling your caloric intake? the band controls our quantities but even with the quantity controls, the calories can creep in on us!:ohmy:

In addition, what are you SPECIFIC goals for the month on January, so that we can help keep you on track??

We can do this!!! Just remember to post the good, the bad, and the UGLY!!!!:wink2:

Again, WELCOME

Just a quick check in. I started using Fitday and boy what a plus that has been. It seems funny at how much I've forgotten in a year. I'm down 6 lbs. Thanks to all the support of my fellow Lapbanders.

Hello,

I'm glad I found this forum.Sd I can really relate to you Ihave only lost 35 lbs in one year!!! Thanks for everyone's encouragement!!

jaunderwood

Hello all It's nice to be back Thanks for everyone's help

jaunderwood

Just a quick check in. I started using Fitday and boy what a plus that has been. It seems funny at how much I've forgotten in a year. I'm down 6 lbs. Thanks to all the support of my fellow Lapbanders.

Wuuuuuhuuuuuuuuuuuuuu Kaelin's G-MA. Been rooting for ya since the recent overnight gain!!! SO SO glad it has fallen off and you identified the source. Nice work!! Keep on, keeping on!!!

Hello,

I'm glad I found this forum.Sd I can really relate to you Ihave only lost 35 lbs in one year!!! Thanks for everyone's encouragement!!

jaunderwood

WELCOME Jaunderwood!! We would love to have you here and support each other/ 35lb loss and no regain is nothing to sniff at!! Well done so far.

What are your specific goals for the month of January?

Mine are:

• - Work out 3 times a week - failing miserably
  
• - Eat no more than 1500 calories a day - doing well.
  
• - Record everything i eat on fitday.com - doing well
  
• - drink at least 64 ounces of Water daily - so so
  

I will only have to do liquids for the rest of today, then soft early tomorrow, then solids by tomorrow night. So I ate a salad with grilled chicken from Chipotle today at lunch, I'll get my fill at 4pm today, and then if I'm hungry I'll have a Protein drink for supper tonight. I don't get to see the surgeon, only the PA, and they usually are only allowed to give .5cc at a time, but I'm going to BEG for a full cc today. Keep your fingers crossed for me!!!

How's the fill feeling, EBOX???

I think your idea of predetermining ones calorie intake is a 'light bulb' moment for me and I am going to set up a menu plan for the week instead of just grabbing what I feel like at a wim. this should also help to plan the necessary Protein intake....brillent and so logical. Not being sarcastic I really mean it.

That's great Miranda!!! That's exactly the purpose of these forum. for us to share ideas and get ideas from others. I too have had lightbulb moments when others say certain things on here.

Let us know how you are doing!!!!

Just checking in for the night. Hope evryone is doing great. I have had 3 bad meals in the last two days. I went way over my calories. I started my same old crap, Ive cheated so Im gonna just quit. But.....my goal is to stop being my own worst enemy. I just want to dust myself off and finally realize that I cant be perfect all the time, IM HUMAN. Tomorrows another day Scarlett. I can do this but for me I just have to dig deeper than others. I accept that, and now I am gonna pick myself up and press on to a healthy life.

My goals for tomorrow are to first get all of my Water in, some exercise and journal every bite that goes in my mouth. I havent done that in a few days and Im sure thats where I went wrong.

Okay...Im done venting. Hope everyones well, and KEEP POSTING, it helps me sooooo much!!!!