Well as a lot of you know I have a lot of issues with my mom. Well she has made it known now what a whore I am. Here is the link in question. I am Ginger Rayne...

www.bravenet.com - A Bravenet.com Vote

And here are her words of wisdom...after you read please tell me do you see what she is talking about? Am I a bad girl?

Dearest Daughter,

Without a doubt you are the most beautiful lady on there! I have my feelings and reservations and I hope that you will respect them as I am trying to respect and understand you and where you are coming from! I am very proud of you; and all your accomplishments! Including your weight loss, and new sense of self image!

Still I have some strong feelings and reservations on this subject of your my space; and this other web site! I am not happy with all the types of people that will be seeing our daughter in this matter!

I am going to ask you to do something difficult; please put yourself in my MOTHER shoes for just a minute! My mother shoes are screaming walk the other way please! Maybe I just don't understand all the Internet attraction; or your need to have your fans. Maybe I am an old fashion lady? What would you think if your mother did this? What will you think when someday Brooke or Faith thinks this is great; and God forbid they take it even one or two steps farther? You are a mom; along with being a mom is an incredible responsibility!!! One that I have always taken very seriously; and passionately! I know I have not been perfect; and I admit I have made tons of mistakes. My thought is from a mom's outlook here! I believe that I have taught you well; and to respect yourself, to think things through, to see the repercussions of your actions and that of others.

I don't want to see anything bad happen to anyone of our girls; no matter what their age! What if someone from your daughters school see's these and says something negative to them? We all know how people have their own judgements and opinions, and can even be very cruel at times! Will they hurt your daughter's in anyway with their comments or actions?

You look stunning and beautiful as you always have to us; but you don't need others to tell you that really do you? I hope that this letter does not put a wedge between us in anyway? I am not angry; just very concerned ! What if this comes back to haunt you someday? For instance in the job market? You are looking for a great future with a great job, of great responsibility! What if someone were to have the opinion that you aren't qualified because they think your judgement isn't quite what they had hoped for?? We have seen many times on the news were things have came back to haunt people; epically those of power or influence? Let use a for instance: Say you are an executive director of a large hospital or nursing home; someone turn this web stuff up, and due to a moral clause in your contract you have signed you lose your job? I know you think I am way out there on this but it is just my opinion and something serious to think about!! I know you aren't nude; but there leaves a lot to the imagination here. Guys with there tongues hang out doing God knows what are looking my daughters picture! Guys like Ralph!

I feel like a failure as your mom if I don't at least say my peace! I am not angry, trying not to judge; more asking WHY?? I am proud to call you my daughter! You are intelligent, breathtakingly beautiful, goal orientated, hard working; and more! I ask you to think about all the things that I have put out there in this heartfelt letter! Sometimes as mom's very often we have to just stand up for what we believe in; I am saying in my opinion you are not thinking this through well enough!

You are excited, proud, and finding yourself in this world. Great! But please do be careful that the wrong people do not find you; or misjudge you! This world is full of opinions, judgements, dangers; and a lot more. All I am asking you is to be aware of it! Please don't be angry with me; I am just being your Mother! A mother who LOVES her daughter with all her heart and soul! A mother who only wants the best for children, grandchildren; and my family! At least tell me you can understand that part of my concern? Again you are a Stunning Beauty. Let your inside beauty shine as brightly or brighter than you outside beauty so that others may know the true Brandy we all know and love! With all my heart. Love your Mom

P.S. You have a link open from this voting place to your my space page; please consider stopping that link; and keeping your my space private to only those you choose! Please call me, and let me know how Norman is doing. And please let me know what you think of my letter; I will except what you have to say; all I ask is you understand my deep concern for you and our granddaughters. Again, Love you tons. Your mom forever no matter what!!!!

Well, based on the answer, I was being overly sensitive. But you see, I was thinking that there was some logical reason to throw Ralph in there. I.E., that the idea that Ralph would see the picture would somehow upset BBK. But apparently not...

There is nothing logical about her at all. That there in lies the problem!

BBK. When I first read the letter, I thought, okay, a very concerned mom. Maybe a little over the top, but concerned none the less. The internet can be dangerous, and I could see her point. The pictures? Good heavens. I was a high school teacher for several years and I've seen WAY worse parading up and down the hallways!!! Your pictures were in good taste, and nothing, absolutely nothing was showing that would warrant your mom's criticism. Then, I read your post further down about what you suffered through as a child, and that your mother did nothing to stop it. WHAT? I was stunned. This reaction coming from the same person that allowed that to happen to a child? I clentched my teeth. There's a whole lot more to all this. Now I understand your pain. YOu're right. she had no right to say it at that point. She lost her priviledge to act like a mother to you. And notice I say priviledge. She squandered that. I now see the letter as concern for HERSELF!!! She was worried about Ralph for God's sake!!! She didn't want this to reflect on her!!! Her concern for "you" is a load of crap. Pure and simple. Sorry. I hate to be blunt. Once you do that to a child, you're unredeemable as far as I'm concerned. You live your life, love your kids, be comfortable in your skin (Hell you deserve it!), and celebrate your blessings. Leave the dirt where it belongs.... In the bin. Don't EVER let her get the best of you.

Thank you. I truly appreciate it!

But honey is so "sweet" LOL

Which just proves my point! Plain is sooo NOT honey!!! He's neither smooth nor sweet!!! LOL!!!

Sorry Plain. I just can't help myself sometimes.

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Which just proves my point! Plain is sooo NOT honey!!! He's neither smooth nor sweet!!! LOL!!!

Sorry Plain. I just can't help myself sometimes.

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Don't feel sorry, he gives it out as much as he gets it! :frown:

Don't feel sorry, he gives it out as much as he gets it!

Hey! Maybe I am a turd, but I'm still voting for you! Over the naked chick!! I am only able to exercise that level of self control because I am a ninja!

Hey! Maybe I am a turd, but I'm still voting for you! Over the naked chick!! I am only able to exercise that level of self control because I am a ninja!

Awwwww.... :wink2: See, I knew you are trainable. That is all that matters! :tongue:

Thank you most honorable ninja! :crying:

BBK --

Apparently this is a recognition problem. Do you think maybe you need to tell your mom that you're not NAKED chic, your picture is under hers? (TeeHee) :wink2:

Seriously, though, I grew up without my mother so my grandmother stepped in to help my Dad out and our relationship seems to parallel what you describe with your mother. I'm sure you realize that it is all about "control". At my wedding, my grandmother was going around introducing herself to everyone as the "only mother I've ever known" and when that got old, she then proceeded to sit down and start crying, telling anyone who would listen, how tired she was with all the work she had done on my wedding. These are just drops in the bucket compared to the lifetime of things she has done. Our relationship is very strained, to say the least, because of her constant need to try to control me.

Your pictures are in very good taste, girl. I wouldn't give it a second thought! BTW, shouldn't you ask Ralph for his vote? :crying:

Mornin' BBK and Friends,

I just voted for you again, girlfriend...you're now only 1% behind that naked woman...

Let's get out there and vote, people! We can help put BBK back in her rightful place as the "woman at the top" of this vote!:crying:

BBK --

Apparently this is a recognition problem. Do you think maybe you need to tell your mom that you're not NAKED chic, your picture is under hers? (TeeHee) :wub:

Seriously, though, I grew up without my mother so my grandmother stepped in to help my Dad out and our relationship seems to parallel what you describe with your mother. I'm sure you realize that it is all about "control". At my wedding, my grandmother was going around introducing herself to everyone as the "only mother I've ever known" and when that got old, she then proceeded to sit down and start crying, telling anyone who would listen, how tired she was with all the work she had done on my wedding. These are just drops in the bucket compared to the lifetime of things she has done. Our relationship is very strained, to say the least, because of her constant need to try to control me.

Your pictures are in very good taste, girl. I wouldn't give it a second thought! BTW, shouldn't you ask Ralph for his vote? :biggrin:

Thanks Missy!

Yes, I should ask Ralph shouldn't I? GOOD CALL!! :thumbup:

Last I checked today, you were ahead by quite a bit.I wish I could vote from work.

BBK - The impression that I received from reading your mother's letter was that she sounds like quite the manipulative drama queen. This letter was, and make no mistake, all about her and her feelings and the maintenance of her self-image of herself as your mother; it really has little or nothing to do with you except, of course, that it says very hurtful and destructive things.

It has been both my personal experience and my observation from looking at the relationships of my friends that the parent-child relationship is the most psychologically loaded relationship one will ever have. I know that I have fully recovered from bad marriages and romances but that I still at my advanced age will dwell on the damage done to me as a child by my incompetent yet loving parents. Indeed, this is why I still see a therapist. My parents are now dead. I have found this to be surprisingly relaxing. That sense of guilt they gave me is gone.

Wow green, I think you hit the nail on the head. I appreciate your honesty and openess. Sad to think death is the answer...

I need your help.​ Those​ of you who were votin​g for me on the votec​aster​ know that it is down.​ Some jerk cheat​ed,​ so now all those​ votes​ no longe​r count​.​ I first​ want to thank​ all of you for votin​g for me, thank​ you!

If you have not vote on the blog,​ pleas​e do so here!​ You will have to add her as a frien​d,​ but her stuff​ is cool so it is worth​ it!​:​)​ It is the only way to get me back in the lead as all you know was winni​ng!​ Toget​her we can do this again​!​

I thank​ you all in advan​ce!​ HUGS and LOVE!​

Ginge​r Rayne

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BBK - the link didn't work for me - can you post it again?

I want to make sure OUR poster girl wins!:crying:

Yah, the link didn't work for me, either.

Link is MySpace.com - sickgirl Creations *SGC* - 30 - Female - San Diego, California - www.myspace.com/sickgirlcreations

You must friend her and then comment on the October blog. Under my pic post "vote for Ginger"

Thanks guys!

Friend me as well! :crying: