As my date grows closer, I am leaning toward only telling a few close friends about my surgery. I suppose this is due to embarassment, that I could not lose weight the "normal" way, whatever that means. Also, I've had a lifetime of comments from family, and just do not want to go there.

Is anybody else hesitating to spill the beans to friends, coworkers, etc?

I agree. Close all exit doors and excuses for failing.

I am having my surgery on Sept. 12 and I already have told my family and people at work (so they know why I have all these doctor appointments and why I am taking time off). I don't plan on keeping it a secret. I think telling folks that I had lap band surgery will be a good excuse for why I only order an appetizer when we go out to dinner or why I cannot try one of their home made cookies. People think that offering you food is a way to show they care about you and sometimes people's feelings get hurt when you seem to reject the food. I can just blame the band so that people don't take it personally. But everyone's different about stuff like this. There is no right or wrong answer.

My husband know, of course. My parents, my SIL know....and yesterday I blogged about it! (which may not increase the number of people that know by many...LOL)

I want to be held accountable, so I figured letting some people nag me a bit was a good idea! LOL

My kids who are 15 and 8 ask every time they see me eating something, "Mom, are you sure you're allowed to have that with the band?" From them, I know it's love and concern so I refrain from smacking them on the head (I never have and never will but that doesn't mean I haven't been tempted many, many times).

My mom has been helping me with the whole insurance process so she obviously knows. I told my boyfriend about it when I first started seeing a bariatric doctor and he hasn't been too thrilled about it - especially now that my surgery is scheduled on his birthday, heh. Other than family and the bf I've told a few close friends and my martial arts instructor since I'll be out of class for a few weeks. I don't really plan on telling anyone else.

I tell just about anyone who will listen! I think it makes me more accountable.

teri

Sorry for the long title. Well I did it, I told the HR Person. I was floored when she told me her sister had bypass and another of her friends. The both lost 150 pounds. In fact she had thought of getting bypass also but could not take the time off of work. When she heard how quickly you heal with the band she told me she would have to look into it.

It was as if a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. I had told only a couple of people at work but I knew it would get back to her and I didn't want her to feel as if I had gone behind her back.

Anyway, she gave me words of encouragement and guidance. It was nice and we talked for quite a while. She understood totally where I was coming from.

Now if she gets a band ...... small world.

way cool!

wtg

teri

Hi there, I have only told my husband, mom, and sister!! None of my friends or co-workers know. I really don't feel like it is anyones business but mine.

I agree! Not even my kids know. Just my bf and a couple close friends (that don't even live in town).

It's no ones business but my own.

only my immediate family knows and i may tell one of my friends, she recently had a tummy tuck and gets it..everyone else will get the "i've just been working out and eating less" spiel which isnt exactly lying anyway..altho i am prepared for the day some nosy person catches me off guard and asks me if i had any weight loss surgery? my canned response will be "(smile)why do u ask? (confused look)" hehe

I think I told everyone in my office (it's relatively small) and it's starting to backfire ... everyone's trying to be very supportive, but if one more person asks me how much I think I'm going to lose, I might hurt someone. :thumbup:

My friend at work who's about 6 months pregnant sympathizes because everyone wants to discuss her body, too. It's kinda nice.

i tell everyone. all my family and friends definately know, and my classmates/coworkers are super excited for me. i'm getting it out there, that way when i go out with friends, there are no weird excuses about restaurants/food/alcohol. they no it's not part of my life anymore and they are more supportive now that they know i'm serious about my decisions to change myself!

I only told two people my sister who lives on the over side of the world and my husband both of whom I thought I could trust 100% and to my apsolute surprise word has spread quickly. So I am now thinking that maybe this is a good thing as I always keep everything to myself and I want being banded to change my life and it is in more ways than one. I am having a whole new adventure in my life, might even change my name to reflect the changes. I am becoming the person I always wanted to be but was hidden inside and now is slowly escaping. Watch out world here I come!

Initially I was only telling my husband. But then I told my sister, then my brother a few people and now I have no secrets Ill tell anyone who has a set of ears. LOL

The only people that know are my boyfriend, my best friend, and my kids.

I didn't want to hear "how much have you lost now" or "you took the easy way out"

I was exercising for 3 years 6 days a week before getting my band, so most people think it's just from all the exercise I do.

Edited September 8, 200817 yr by Oregondaisy