hey!

One week has passed since my lapband op and i am really depressed:( !

I don't have anyone to talk to about my terrible experience!

I feel sick when i think of liquids now:eek - especially milk in the mornings and i don't want to get out of bed!

Can you imagine i hate milkshakes!!! OHH MY LORDDDD!!!

I tried eating mushy foods but i can't take it yet! (okk, i tried eating a damn pizza but it didn't work out okk!!!!)

Is this how it's going to be for the rest of my LIFE!! OHHH GODDDDDD!!!! I feel depressed not eating food man! I would rather be overweight and eat normal food (even a damn salad:( ) than starve like a maniac just to loose weight!

Did anyone else go through this very depressing stage! You all seem quite excited and motivated:banana ! Is it just me AHHHH!!!!!?????

Please some advise anyone??

Aw Hope, let me just ditto everything you just said, I feel exactly the same way!!!

Hope, you have the right to respond to any post that you'd like! We're all here to support, encourage, and share with each other. I would suggest that you go to the introductions and start a new thread about yourself. You can share whatever you feel comfortable with. You'll get more responses that way. I noticed that you'd asked earlier about self-pay options and about a couple of different drs. Best of luck to you on your journey for better health!

Hang in there Girl!... Im not banded but I' feel your pain. Just wait afew week's

when you can eat good, then imagine a month or so the weight will be falling off and people are going to walk up to you and say " your "looking good.people say your face seems slimmer wow. it will be all worth it... god luck God bless!hang in there.

Hope, I am having surg. on 3/23/2005. I have been to several sites but have found this one to be the most helpful. Where do you live? I suggest going to the state forum and post there. Even if you are the first post...someone will reply and you can make a connection with someone in your area. Kathy, who responded to this thread, and I "met" in the SC forum; it's just the two of us and you are welcome to post there; we are both newbies...she is having her surg. 4/8/2005. Good Luck, Eliza

Pink,

Welcome to our world.

Everyday is still a struggle but with the Band I have the help I need.

Prior to being banded I knew it wasn't going to be a magic trick. I still have to put a tremendious effort into my journey. The band was just a tool to help.

I also knew that there would be no "Food" for several weeks before and after the surgery. I also decided that for the two weeks prior I would know if I could handle the liquid part. Wasn't banded and could walk away at anyting and continue my journey to an early grave...or I could keep thru it and be on my other journey to a healthier life. I choose this route to go. So everytime I got depressed I just took some time out to reflect and review in my head what I did and the reason for it. This has never changed...I just have to bring myslef back into focus. For me it has worked.

After the liquid part of the diet was over and I was able to re intrduce solids in my life I found with the exception of a few items I can eat anything. And my buddy, the tool, helps me to remember when I am pushing the envelope on over eating.

What your going thru is normal....just hang in it gets better...much better. Soon you will feel normal again and you will see the benifits of the band.

Good luck and God Bless

Pink, I was banded December 21st so here I was sitting at Christmas dinner with all my family eating prime rib. I was tired from surgery and felt sorry for myself because I was eating a few tablespoons of broth even though I knew beforehand that's exactly what would happen. It will pass. We do mourn our loss of eating like there is no tomorrow. It does get better. You will be eating soon and food will taste so much better! Hope you're feeling better soon!

Hey Pink, you out there? Check in and let us know how you are doing/feeling. We need an update, girl!

Pink, It looks like you are exchanging one depression for another depression. Between the two, I would definitely choose being depressed after the band as I know things are gonna GET BETTER as in (loosing weight and cheering up). When I experienced the other depression, it was one that I knew would never get better - only worse. Believe us when we say everything is going to be good!!!!

A bit pink..... Please know that you are not alone.. I was feeling just like you and mentioned it to my DH and he said "babe, band or no band any diet is hard, it's not just because you have the band." that seemed to help me because it is so true,before you know it you will be eating normal foods..I am 4 weeks out and just went snow skiing and ate with everyone, I just ate alot less!!! Hang in there and remember that you are not alone and You can do this!!!! Good luck to you...

Don't get all depressed - remember you did this for yourself!!! It is not very often that we do things for ourselves - so when we do we should enjoy them. You are the one who matters. You should try to hang in there - it will get better! I consider that I did this to save my life as I am sure you did. I know that most of the people who are having this surgery are on the young side, - I am 50 years old! I have seen many ups and downs in my life and so far this is not one of them.

I had my surgery 5 days ago and i am still on Water - ONE OUNCE EVERY 20 MINUTES. Yesterday I did feel hungry when my DH was cooking bacon! But what i did was eat a sugar free ice pop and amazingly that took care of it. It did the same thing with Easter dinner.

I hope to see you posting here in a happier mode very soon.

You all are so amazing at support and advice. How nice we have this place!!

I felt a power and control and kind of elation from not being able to eat much.

When I was banded, I was ranting and raving about how I didnt care about food one bit and I was defying reality and it really didnt make sense to me that I didnt care about the impossibility of eating much more than some juice and milk and tomatoe Soup and poscicles... BUT it was absolutely astonishing and I was a happy camper!

Well it went away and now I am a PIG again. I feel like crud again. I feel like a loser and well.................

I NEED A FILL. I want restriction. NO PAIN NO GAIN!

Bring it on! (pretty please)

I wanna feel that power and control of when I first came home and was restricted so much that the moment I went too far.. I KNEW IT and I stopped... I knew I would have a PB or vomit and feel real pain if I did .....

I never get that feeling now, well I do.. I eat less... I drink WAY less..

BUt its not Amazing and Its not making me feel in control either.

My lust for control NOT to eat ... overpowers my craving to eat...

Do you understand that?? LOL

As you see.. I have issues.. and I HATE FOOD.

I think I eat too much to punish my self.. and then not being able to eat much at all, Feeels like a punishment and so I am still happy..

I dunno

If things aren't tasting right, or nothing seems to be appetising, it may be that you're deficient in various minerals, notably zinc. Try crushing a Multivitamin into your smoothy or something. I much prefer savouries to sweets and milky things too. I had a ball with Soups in the liquid stage. I wasn't so keen on the mushy stage but it soon passed.

There are aspects to the emotional path we are on which remind me of the stages of grief. I think most of us go through the denial, depression, anger and acceptance but not necessarily in that order! But there is another stage I have found, which is relief mixed with contentment that I have managed to take control of the only part of my life that felt really out of control. It's still a rollercoaster though!

Im right here with you. Im barely a week post op..and I already mourned the loss of food. It really is something that you need to do. Think of this..how long it took you to get that band. How much money/time you put into it. How you felt being overweight before getting it? Is that really and honestly worth a few extra meals? Just give it time. You will adjust to it. Its hell for now..I know.

Also..MILKSHAKES?? Wow.. honestly I was told to avoid the high fat easy to down foods like milkshakes. If you drink a ton of fattening foods, it really nulls the purpose of the band doesnt it?

I was told I can add soups..I added soup..and then if I can tolerate it potatoes. I thought maybe this was a mistake, but If I Water them down mashed tatoes work for me. remember EAT SLOW! Yogurt works for me to. I honestly just do what I can..otherwise I cant stick with it.

Hang in there. You will be happy you did!

OMG! nykee! I can totaly relate to what u r saying! Its nice to know im not alone! And Pink, give us an update and an intro thread, we are all very nosy here and want to know all about u!

When you lose someone or something dear to you it is very natural to go through the grieving process. As a matter a fact it is very good for you to do so. It is the first step of healing and saying good by. As for the milkshakes ( I am waiting to be banded) The nutritionist I saw for my banding even suggested if you are not home and on the road needing something to eat, one of the things you can do at a fast food drive through while you are on the full liquid or mushy stage is get a small milk shake in a larger cup and have them add some ice cubes to it so they will slowly melt and you can sip on the watered down shake. I don't think she meant to do this day ofter day but in a pinch.