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Thank you all who posted. I think I actually had a MUCH bigger issue. I talked to him about it last night. I didn't know I felt this way... but, I felt that he didn't really desire me. I actually wanted him to say I was pretty, or good looking or whatever... and all he was doing was being negative about my progress. I do get tons of comments from other guys at work... and I do know that other men find me attractive... but, I wanted a positive response from him. I told him all this (how I felt he didn't desire me) and we discussed it. I told him to give me a number of 1-10 of how attractive I was... and I was fine with his number. (Of course Angelina Jolie was on the TV and I told him that he can't give her a 9!!!!!... she's an over the top)... so I told him to rate me according to someone my age (42) and not compare me to a 20 year old hard body. He said I was a 7 or 8 (I know I'm more of an 8 or 9)... but, that's good. I had told him he acts like I'm a 2 WAY too much. So, my getting mad at him about what I was eating, was because he acts like I'm a big fat ugly slob.... and THAT isn't acceptable. Once in a while we all need to know we are beautiful!

Way to go for confronting the issue before it overpowered both of you! I hope things are better now.:blush:

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I would seriously listen to what he is saying, and rather than getting upset about it, consider how positive this could affect things for the both of you.

My personal experience - I love sex. I want my husband to want me more and enjoy it. Men are visual creatures. The last thing I would want is for my husband to stray elsewhere due to not being turned on by me. There's a big difference between love and sex/lust. Can't have just one or the other for a long-term relationship.

You say you are happy now...just imagine how fabulous things could get between the two of you if you lose more weight!

However if it is him wanting you to be anorexic or unrealistically thin, or harping on you for everything therefore affecting your self esteem, then I think that's a different story.

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