Hi friends, I was in this group, then I left it. I had my initial appointments scheduled with my surgeon, the dietician and my psych eval, had cleared things with insurance, then got really cold feet and decided I wasn’t going through with it. Well this past week I had another new weight related health diagnosis that shouldn’t be something a 31 year old should be diagnosed with, my weight is still climbing, got told by two different doctors they won’t treat my pain because it’s my weight causing the pain, so I’ve emailed my coordinator at Dr. Houston’s office and plan on calling Monday to get appointments back on the schedule.

I guess I just need some reassurance that it’s ok to go back and forth with commitment in the beginning?

56 minutes ago, carrielee said:

Hi friends, I was in this group, then I left it. I had my initial appointments scheduled with my surgeon, the dietician and my psych eval, had cleared things with insurance, then got really cold feet and decided I wasn’t going through with it. Well this past week I had another new weight related health diagnosis that shouldn’t be something a 31 year old should be diagnosed with, my weight is still climbing, got told by two different doctors they won’t treat my pain because it’s my weight causing the pain, so I’ve emailed my coordinator at Dr. Houston’s office and plan on calling Monday to get appointments back on the schedule.

I guess I just need some reassurance that it’s ok to go back and forth with commitment in the beginning?

It's ok to go back and forth as much as you need. You are in control of what happens to your body. Until you are 100% sure that surgery is what you want...don't do it.

I have thought about bariatric surgery for over 10yrs. Each time I convinced myself I could lose weight without surgical intervention. My last attempt was on a Dr.'s lead weight loss program. I lost 20lbs then went thru a really bad emotional rough patch and gained back the 20lbs and found another 25lbs.

The only time you can't change your mind is after the surgery is done. You are doing what is best for you.

I felt ready to do it and then just doubted myself and felt like hey, I can do this on my own, but then I got this new diagnosis and I looked at myself and my list of conditions and my age and realized I am truly eating myself to death. I’m currently 5 ft 1 and 284 pounds and my list of co morbid conditions just keeps piling on—-hypertension, hyperlipidemia, Type II Diabetic, arthritic joints in my spine, sciatica pain, sleep apnea, and then the new diagnoses of Right Ventricular Hypertrophy, and CHF...at 31!!! I’m looking at a very short lifespan if I don’t do this and I don’t want that to be my reality, so it’s back on the surgery train I go.

Good for you! I was nervous at first as are most if not all of us, but right now my biggest regret is not doing it sooner. The statistics don't lie - there is a significantly higher mortality rate for people from obesity than from getting this surgery.

You are SO allowed to think, re-think, over-think and then whatever-think this decision. It's a biggie for sure. I hope you can get to wherever you need to be OP.

Also - oh wow Tufflaw you are my surgery date twin! And look at our stats - mirror images!!!!!

I think you have to be 100% ready for change. If you needed to pause and think about it, that’s great. Surgery is scary and change is scary. I had major doubts the morning of surgery but I told myself that was just anxiety and went through with it. Bypass was the BEST thing I’ve ever done for myself. You have the rest of your life to look forward to.

I started pondering this surgery about 10 years ago. There were many things that factored into when I eventually was able to have it and make it to the other side. Nothing wrong with taking your time. It's understandable that you would have second-thoughts. That's normal. Maybe you could pinpoint some of the reasons your hesitant? It sounds like you have health reasons that would indicate a change... but what are the concerns that run through your head?