So I’ve been in preop phase for 8 months in prep for bypass. Long story short I switched doctors after 6 months with old doc. I love the new doctor and almost ready for surgery, just took some time to get all records from old dr. Now my husband is on board and he’s seeing new doctor to go through WLS as well. We went to our first support group meeting last night and now I’m very confused and I think he is too. We now have this mindset that “we can do this”. He hasn’t been one to read or research much as I do, and he was amazed at all the lifestyle changes and tools you use to rewire your head and to be successful. He says well if we can learn that now I think we can totally do this! He bragged on how far I had already come and changes I’d made and he said I really think we can do this. I’ve kinda had that feeling all along but then again here I am 8 months in and only 25lbs down. Tell me this is normal or tell me something, anything? Isn’t it only like 3-5% of people can actually lose the weight and keep it off without surgery? I’m just so at a loss on what to do now….

3 minutes ago, GradyCat said:

Only you know the answer to that question.

I mean, we know why people can't keep their losses off. It's not an individual failure, we're built for weight gain. But otherwise, I agree.

Its hard to make the decision to do this surgery until you know for a fact that you have to get it. I haven't had the easiest ride since surgery and there are a few more like me. For about 3 weeks after surgery, I had buyers remorse and I did buy it myself. Then things turned around a little and got better. I love my new stomach now, I love how little I am able to eat and am growing in confidence in the foods that I can try again. Take your time with the decision, you can always return later if the time is not right for you now. I would say though that you need to listen only to your inner voice. Your husband may be having second thoughts and passing these on to you. Take care and good luck

I think this article gives a very fair view of what life is like with bariatric surgery and a good layman's explanation of how it changes you, beyond just shedding pounds. Read it if you have cold feet.

https://www.nytimes.com/2016/12/27/health/bariatric-surgery.html