I'm only adding this post because I hope someone searching gastric bypass sees it. Everyone must make their own decisions about this surgery, but the overwhelming information out there sends the message that gastric bypass is a good thing. Please know that it is not right for everyone and anyone thinking of doing this should take a lot of time to research both the positive and the negatives. Gastric bypass is not the answer to lose weight. It's not realistic and it's not in line with society. If gastric bypass was just a way to eat half of what you normally ate, that would be one thing. I hate that I did this. I'm so mad at myself for listening to everyone else and not listening to myself. Gastric bypass is a bunch of rules and restrictions that make life miserable. You can't drink when you eat, so you have hours a day with no fluids. However you have to still get in 64 oz of water or you get sick and your weight loss slows. It's ridiculously impossible unless you look like a fool carrying a water bottle around all day long! Then there is the vitamins and medication to protect your stomach. I never took a pill before this surgery and now I'm supposed to be taking almost a dozen a day. Who has time for that? Then there are the limits to what you can eat, not just how much. Try going anywhere and it's nearly impossible to find something to eat that you like and want . Nine times out of ten you have to eat something you can eat, not something you want to eat or even like. I'm literally choking down food I hate just because it's the only thing I can have. Again, I have to pack my own food anytime I go somewhere or just not eat all all and I look like an idiot! What forty year old do you know that carries a lunch box around everywhere she goes? I didn’t pack this weekend when I went to my daughters lacrosse tournament and I paid the price because there was not one thing I could eat even though there were six or more vendors and food trucks! We don't have family dinners any more, I sit in another room to spend my twenty minutes eating four lousy spoonfuls, Mother's Day was ruined because for the first time in 21 years we could not go out to breakfast or take my own mother out to dinner. I sat home alone on Memorial Day and skipped the family BBQ all because of this surgery too. I can't be around normal people enjoying normal things because I'm not normal anymore. Just chewing the food for a ridiculous amount of time and waiting twenty minutes to eat four spoonfuls of something makes me look like a fool. People actually stare and waitresses ask if something is wrong. Yes, something is wrong! I’m angry that I was not told that life was ruined by this surgery. I was never told all of the rules, restrictions, or possible side effects. Every appointment I went to was about what questions I had but no information was given. How could I have questions about something I was obviously so poorly informed about. It’s my fault because I did it I’m stuck and my life is ruined. There have to be others out there that feel the same way so I hope they step out and share so people who are thinking about this surgery can see both sides. This surgery is a money maker for surgeons and it’s advertised way to much with a positive slant. Hindsight is 20/20! If I knew then what I know now I would have gone to Weight watchers and a gym and never ever would have done this. This surgery has ruined my life!

On 07/03/2019 at 07:18, CrystalV said:

I had the sleeve on 6/26/19. This day one week ago I still could have backed out up until 3pm! But, I didn’t and now I am living with such horrible regret,shame hate for myself for doing this. Why didn’t I have these doubts before, why didn’t I research more?? I feel the same as you.

Please do yourself a favor and treat yourself kindly over the next 1-2 weeks.

It honestly gets SO MUCH better.

I would do it all over again and again and again because the feeling I have is so absolutely worth it.

It’s kinda like having a baby.
If you are to ask a mother who is in active labor her thoughts on getting pregnant again, her response will be way more negative than the mother of an adorable 6 month old baby

Agreed 100%

No question--life after surgery is very different than life before surgery. I was as prepared as anyone could be (I first went through the surgery prep process around 2000, then again starting in October), but like most things in life, reality is different than theory. On top of that, while we have similar experiences, we're all different. Depending on how your surgery was done, you can possibly have it reversed, but you're probably not going to be any happier after that than you are now. Therapy can help...if you let it.

Sounds very much like me at the beginning... I was begging for reversal of my opp... but no one obviously did... since then i had everything... ruptured stomach twice... so sewing it back, shaking from anything I put in to my mouth... two months of intermittent feeding, two near death experiences, adaptation and understanding issues... and all this was nothing to do with the surgery... in fact if it wasn’t for this surgery noone would find my disease... now I am 9 months post opp... 8,5 stones lighter... trained my body to accept what I want to eat and enjoy my life... obviously all rehab thing after tumour removal still present but everyday I am getting stronger and stronger... so hopefully soon you will pass that stage as well and will enjoy this decision of having this opp