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Do you get mad when someone eats your food, when there is plenty of other food for them? I am talking adults here not kids. I have very little to choose from they can eat anything. It feels degrading, like my needs are unimportant.

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If you aren't already, I'd grab a sharpie and start labeling all of the stuff that is yours with your name. It might not stop them, but at least they won't have plausible deniability, "oh, I didn't know that was just for you." And maybe they'll feel a tinge of guilt when they do it.

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IDK. What kind of "food" is special for you?

I just eat the same stuff as the rest of the household...cook the same meals, etc. And no one likes PP that I use sometimes in my coffee now, except me. :) Otherwise it's all fair game. Can't imagine trying to keep stuff separate?

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2 minutes ago, CrankyMagpie said:

If you aren't already, I'd grab a sharpie and start labeling all of the stuff that is yours with your name. It might not stop them, but at least they won't have plausible deniability, "oh, I didn't know that was just for you." And maybe they'll feel a tinge of guilt when they do it.

I do that. They hid the Sharpie. I got another one!

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1 minute ago, FluffyChix said:

IDK. What kind of "food" is special for you?

I just eat the same stuff as the rest of the household...cook the same meals, etc. And no one likes PP that I use sometimes in my coffee now, except me. :) Otherwise it's all fair game. Can't imagine trying to keep stuff separate?

I have things like low-sugar marinara that they've used by accident, sugar-free ice-cream, my fairlife milk, etc. I don't care that they eat it, just that it's not there when I need/want it.

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3 minutes ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

I have things like low-sugar marinara that they've used by accident, sugar-free ice-cream, my fairlife milk, etc. I don't care that they eat it, just that it's not there when I need/want it.

Why not just make your life simple and buy all the same stuff? If they will eat SF ice cream, buy enough for the house, same with the marinara and Fairlife Milk--FLM is about the same $$ and comes in similar sizes--and ain't nobody need marinara with 12-15 g of carbs in it if you've found a good one they will eat for low/no sugar. I just think segregation makes your life harder and more stressful--clearly not theirs. LOL.

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I am still soft food no processed carbs like bread or Pasta no sugar no beef nothing crunchy. No uncooked vegtables. I eat alot of chicken and turkey. I am on this diet until 6 months after my surgery. I found this stuff in the freezer section wildscape cilantro lime chicken. I figured it would he 2 days of food for me. It's hard to cook for me and not waist food. It's only me and my significant other in the house. I can't eat anything he eats. He has tons of food chooses in the house. I even picked him up some stuff at the store. He said what's that! When he saw it. I said it's my meals for the next 2 days. He said no it's your one time meal now and the rest is mine. Then when I was done with what I could eat he said let me taste it. He took more bites then I was able to eat and I said your not really going to eat that are you? He said yes and preceded to eat it. Then he acted like I was being selfish because it upset me. This happens a lot. I hope I am not being greedy...but he has other food to eat. Now I have to go back to the store.

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I am still soft food no processed carbs like bread or Pasta no sugar no beef nothing crunchy. No uncooked vegtables. I eat alot of chicken and turkey. I am on this diet until 6 months after my surgery. I found this stuff in the freezer section wildscape cilantro lime chicken. I figured it would he 2 days of food for me. It's hard to cook for me and not waist food. It's only me and my significant other in the house. I can't eat anything he eats. He has tons of food chooses in the house. I even picked him up some stuff at the store. He said what's that! When he saw it. I said it's my meals for the next 2 days. He said no it's your one time meal now and the rest is mine. Then when I was done with what I could eat he said let me taste it. He took more bites then I was able to eat and I said your not really going to eat that are you? He said yes and preceded to eat it. Then he acted like I was being selfish because it upset me. This happens a lot. I hope I am not being greedy...but he has other food to eat. Now I have to go back to the store.

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I forgot to ad no rice or potatoes either.

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11 minutes ago, Letgo said:

I forgot to ad no rice or potatoes either.

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Put him on ur diet then😃. Make only chicken turkey fish shrimp and frozen or steamed veg. Cook one meal only . 😜 It will make ur life easier.

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Put him on ur diet then[emoji2]. Make only chicken turkey fish shrimp and frozen or steamed veg. Cook one meal only . [emoji12] It will make ur life easier.
I dont cook for him because he wants other kinds of foods and that is fine. But then he also wants mine. I just had to vent...its frustrating

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I'd feel poor and pitiful if I had to cook decadent stuff for Mr. F and then I had to live on chicken and turkey. He eats what I eat--one set of food--limited treats to keep us both on track. We're having salmon and broccoli for dins. I'm sure he'd rather a steak or burger but oh **** oh dear--I'm the cook and sux to be him! 😳

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1 minute ago, Letgo said:

I dont cook for him because he wants other kinds of foods and that is fine. But then he also wants mine. I just had to vent...its frustrating

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That would frustrate me too and I won't allow that **** to start so I don't let it have a foothold. Lol

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18 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

Why not just make your life simple and buy all the same stuff? If they will eat SF ice cream, buy enough for the house, same with the marinara and Fairlife Milk--FLM is about the same $$ and comes in similar sizes--and ain't nobody need marinara with 12-15 g of carbs in it if you've found a good one they will eat for low/no sugar. I just think segregation makes your life harder and more stressful--clearly not theirs. LOL.

We may eventually get to that point at my house when it's just hubby and me, but for the time being, with 5 adults going to the grocery store and picking up whatever, our pantry and fridges are stocked to bursting. It's totally different if you control the food being brought into the house.

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21 minutes ago, Letgo said:

I dont cook for him because he wants other kinds of foods and that is fine. But then he also wants mine. I just had to vent...its frustrating

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I totally get where you're coming from!

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