I’m just venting so feel free to ignore me.

I hate when people assume that because i eat less or watch what i eat, therefore i must not be healthy. First off, why would anyone be that interested in what another person eats anyway?

But the reason why it irritates so much isn’t their curiosity or judgement. It’s literally the types of people doing all the judging. It’s never ever my naturally thin friends, oh no they all have lives and things to do, they could care less lol. It’s almost always either the miserable negative nelly morbidly obese person who is also falling part. Or it’s the formerly fat person that lost the weight by doing crazy insane extremely unhealthy measures to lose weight, like carnivoreism or extreme 10 day water fasts. Like no offense- but that’s not healthy either way so excuse me for not wanting to take advice from you, especially if you’re not an MD or dietician. But apparently telling people this to their face is frowned upon ??‍♀️. Like maybe it’s just me but i just want to left alone and continue to do what works for me, and avoid the negativity from others.

23 minutes ago, xoxococojay said:

I’m just venting so feel free to ignore me.

I hate when people assume that because i eat less or watch what i eat, therefore i must not be healthy. First off, why would anyone be that interested in what another person eats anyway?

But the reason why it irritates so much isn’t their curiosity or judgement. It’s literally the types of people doing all the judging. It’s never ever my naturally thin friends, oh no they all have lives and things to do, they could care less lol. It’s almost always either the miserable negative nelly morbidly obese person who is also falling part. Or it’s the formerly fat person that lost the weight by doing crazy insane extremely unhealthy measures to lose weight, like carnivoreism or extreme 10 day Water fasts. Like no offense- but that’s not healthy either way so excuse me for not wanting to take advice from you, especially if you’re not an MD or dietician. But apparently telling people this to their face is frowned upon ??‍♀️. Like maybe it’s just me but i just want to left alone and continue to do what works for me, and avoid the negativity from others.

Typically the most vocal are those that are the most jealous, rather than ask for help or advice, they criticize.

I do tend to make comments to myself or my wife about others choices now... but I don't say it to the person in question, no need to be rude to someone if there isn't really a need to do so.

@mattz right!!! I think we all say things in our heads, that’s normal. But exactly, no need to make someone feel bad.

You have a point- it could be jealousy. Or it could also just be a whole bunch of new found know it all’s.

9 minutes ago, xoxococojay said:

@mattz right!!! I think we all say things in our heads, that’s normal. But exactly, no need to make someone feel bad.

You have a point- it could be jealousy. Or it could also just be a whole bunch of new found know it all’s.

I'd go with jealousy, ESP if they are heavy folk doing the chastising, totally jealous of your strength and progress.

2 hours ago, xoxococojay said:

I’m just venting so feel free to ignore me.

I hate when people assume that because i eat less or watch what i eat, therefore i must not be healthy. First off, why would anyone be that interested in what another person eats anyway?

But the reason why it irritates so much isn’t their curiosity or judgement. It’s literally the types of people doing all the judging. It’s never ever my naturally thin friends, oh no they all have lives and things to do, they could care less lol. It’s almost always either the miserable negative nelly morbidly obese person who is also falling part. Or it’s the formerly fat person that lost the weight by doing crazy insane extremely unhealthy measures to lose weight, like carnivoreism or extreme 10 day Water fasts. Like no offense- but that’s not healthy either way so excuse me for not wanting to take advice from you, especially if you’re not an MD or dietician. But apparently telling people this to their face is frowned upon ??‍♀️. Like maybe it’s just me but i just want to left alone and continue to do what works for me, and avoid the negativity from others.

I agree, Judgmental people need to shut it.

I don't see a problem with how you want to or do currently react to these types of people. They're not you, they don't know your life experiences. F'em is what I say.

Side note, I also find myself thinking things about unhealthy choices of others. Have to remind myself I'm no expert just because I went through this surgery and I'm being and 4ss h4t.

@jSan me too! Is it weird that i only notice if they’re open about wanting to lose weight? Like if i see a regular chubby person i don’t think anything of it. I literally only notice when they complain about their size, say something super negative in regards to weight (regardless of whether they hate thin people or say something snarky about their own weight) and then they continue to stuff themselves with pizza lol.

“That’s not enough calories to survive on!!”

“Uhhhh I’m on a medically supervised diet, I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t kill me.”

I noticed it's always my bigger friends that have the biggest concerns. One even accused me of trying to kill myself through starvation though I was following my doctor's orders. I think it stems from the fact that me eating better and loosing weight is no longer enabling their bad habits and shows that to lose weight like they've been failing at it takes actual work/sacrifice.