So I weighed 380 and my wife is like 300 pounds.Now i’m 167 pounds.She really wasn’t supportive of my surgery.She was making comments about me calling me skin and bones man.She also bankrupted our family spending over 5000 dollars on a video game because I lost weight.She has no interest in me emotionally or physically.I am only posting a pic to get honest feedback.Believe me I can handle it.She has made me feel like I’m very unattractive even though I think I look ok.I have decided to divorce her because I can’t take getting crapped on anymore?I don’t regret my surgery even though I’m getting divorced.I hate to say it but she really made makes questions if I am hideous now.I can handle blunt truth.Have any of you had issues after a bypass too or other weight loss tool?

I wonder if she’s insecure about your new figure? Like is she worried you won’t love her now cause you lost weight?

I have heard this surgery can do a number on marriages, because of all of the emotional stuff we go through.

Also- you look great and remember- how people treat others usually has more to do with how they’re feeling internally.

You look amazing George! Dr Phil always says to remove all toxic people from your life, especially if they don’t want to change. It’s like a drug addict, you can’t make them stop they have to want to. Good luck with everything.

2 hours ago, insta_adventurer said:

Also- you look great and remember- how people treat others usually has more to do with how they’re feeling internally.

Thanks.I need to remember that.

45 minutes ago, superthin said:

You look amazing George! Dr Phil always says to remove all toxic people from your life, especially if they don’t want to change. It’s like a drug addict, you can’t make them stop they have to want to. Good luck with everything.

Wow thanks!I actually tried to get on the show about our marriage but never heard back?

You look like a normal man to me.

i am sorry you’re going through this but if someone isn’t making you happy and can’t support you then it’s time to try and fix it or leave.

Continue with your success and again, you look great

6 hours ago, Bryn910 said:

You look like a normal man to me.

i am sorry you’re going through this but if someone isn’t making you happy and can’t support you then it’s time to try and fix it or leave.

Continue with your success and again, you look great

Thank you.I realize it’s time to go.

It sounds like so much is going on. It’s not just your weight loss, but her badmouthing you to your child and telling you you’re not attractive. To top it off, she is hurting you financially. That just sounds wrong. You look very nice and I am so sorry you are dealing with this.
No matter how bad things are, I know it’s still hard to deal with the loss of your marriage. Take time to process and take care of yourself.
((Hugs))

2 hours ago, Kimber628 said:

It sounds like so much is going on. It’s not just your weight loss, but her badmouthing you to your child and telling you you’re not attractive. To top it off, she is hurting you financially. That just sounds wrong. You look very nice and I am so sorry you are dealing with this.
No matter how bad things are, I know it’s still hard to deal with the loss of your marriage. Take time to process and take care of yourself.
((Hugs))

Thanks Kimber it probably sounds lame but I could use a real hug☺️It’s been so long since I’ve felt loved.But I’m still holding out hope that somewhere on this planet there is Simone

There is someone, I fully believe this! You just need to take some time to find yourself and learn some self love. Sorry if I get too social worky lol!!

Maybe the root cause of her unhappiness is because she hasn’t lost any weight. It sounds like she can also benefit from the surgery and then maybe you two can work out the some of your differences? Don’t be discouraged, you look great bro

George you look great man! Deep down you know that everything you went through to get healthy you did for you and your family. So your wife is not happy with herself and doing all these things to lash out at you. It is her insecurity and she is trying to make you think it's all your fault. Regrettably I know from personal experience with a divorce 12 years ago that this is a way the other person rationalizes what they are doing to you by trying to get you into a place where you think you are crazy or ugly or fill in the blank... The bad part is that when you are going through it that you actually start to think they are right, but it is just a tactic to justify their actions.

Hang in there you have done a lot of tough work to get to where you are (looking and feeling good about yourself) so do not let her get you into that place where it seems she wants to put you. Good luck and keep moving forward!

@ScoutCR Thanks man.I’m just hurting inside in ways I didn’t think were possible.I just don’t understand how could I love her with my all,and sacrifice everything for her happiness,and she doesn’t even care about me?The worst part is what are son is going through now and will go through.I don’t even know if I will know what to do on a date.I think what happened is after surgery I found a new confident me!I don’t think she liked that.I believe she liked the me that believed nobody else would want me.I realize that it’s not ok for us to be treated like this!I know that there is a woman out there that will truly love me for me.I’m not taking this baggage with me I choose to release it.

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George, Good for you, but I will tell you that even with your positive attitude it will still be the most stress you have ever had, but there is life after divorce. Be strong, keep your good attitude, and take care of your son as she will not make it easy once she sees you are willing to leave her! Take it slow on the dating scene and do not rush into a relationship just because someone is attracted to you. I did that because my first wife had me so insecure about myself.

You are correct in your summary that your wife does not like the new more confident you! When my marriage fell apart I was on a very high note with my career and she tried to tear me down at every opportunity. I also was losing weight with the success of my career and the renewed confidence and those things combined gave her insecurity and I saw real hatred directed at me. I also could not believe that someone I loved with all my heart could try to destroy me. In the end I had to find leave the relationship for my own good and you know that once I was free of her it felt like chains were taken off of me! Good luck and remember there is someone out there for everyone, just proceed slowly.

So a question for everyone.I really feel like I want to at least start talking to women/getting to know them.No sex or anything even though I’m in pain from lack of it?Would it be wise to just get to know them?