HI all,

I am due to have VSG surgery on July 10th and I am currently in the pre-op diet phase. However I am struggling with it massively. I have successfully managed to kick my 15-a-day smoking habit and am now almost 3 weeks smoke free. I'm really proud of this. My surgeon has recommended a four week pre op diet that is not liquid based but is low carb. I actually started my pre op diet just under two weeks early and all was going really well until this week. I just cant seem to remain in the same swing of things and it is all a struggle this week. I completely messed up more than once and have ended up stuffing my face with various foods on two occasions. This isnt helped by having numerous people around me who readily encourage binge drinking and poor eating habits. I'm currently living in a small community away from my home due to work and am surrounded by people who arent my usual friends. We arent close and I therefore haven't told any of them about the upcoming surgery (the gossip culture here is quite bad) nor do I plan on telling any of them.

Im not looking fr sympathy and this isnt a pity party post. I am aware of the seriousness of surgery and the need for me to follow my eating plan pre and post op so please not lecturing replies about that... its just not helpful. The reason I'm posting this is as I'm thinking that perhaps not having people here to talk to about things and having to bottle things up is making things worse. So I thought I would post this in a bid to relieve some of the tension and stress I've been holding onto.

I'm just having a really **** few days, struggling with my eating, feeling a bit lonely and needed to acknowledge that somewhere!

sigh!!

The struggle sucks. Not having a support structure during those struggles sucks worse. Not going to lecture, but every choice, is a choice. I went to dinner parties, cook-outs, birthdays, even out to a club all while on my liquid diet and while I did "cheat" here and there (a teaspoon sized amount of lean beef taco mix on a celery stick) I didn't cave in. Even with people all around me not giving a rats backside that I couldn't eat or drink. It sucks. But, it's your choice on how you deal with that.

Take control!

It's obvious you know you messed up. So, move forward and do better.
Check out the rants and raves section, you might have more engagement venting there.

Overall, Congrats on deciding to start your WLS journey, it's a tough road but it's well worth it!
Stay Strong!

Most of us have been there. Get back on track and post here as often as you can to relieve stress.



Sleeved on April 25, 2018
HW: 258
SW: 238
CW: 219
GW: 165

Xolani - just forgive, forget and move on. There are lapses and relapses. Make this a lapse. Tomorrow is a brand new start so go for it.

You have a long time to go and plenty of opportunity to fix this.

Good luck.

HI All,

Thanks so much for the replies. It really did help to just say/write how I was feeling.

@Matt Z you're right, it is up to me to take control.

@Katbad I had been so hard on myself but things are much brighter today. I acknowledged my humanness and pressed the reset button.

@browneyez42 Its really is good to know that there are others out there who know and understand.

This isn't an easy road... but i guess we all know that right?

Thanks you guys for being listening ears (or reading eyes?!?)

Totally understand what you shared. Thank you vent any time. We all share those feelings and this is a safe place to Kay it all out there. You will do this. And it very important to not give up.

Congrats on stopping smoking. That's HUGE! It's no wonder you're struggling with the pre-op diet. You just massively changed your life & now you're trying to do it again immediately.

Next, stop beating yourself up. Every one of us has screwed up & eaten something inappropriate at some point. You just had a massive victory in life!

I know you're changing your life in big ways but having people around you who binge will make your efforts more difficult.

Good luck. You are not alone.

Another of Frustr8 and her sayings. This wasn't,mine but still good.
Yesterday is gone-that's the Past
Tomorrow has not come- that is the Future
Today is here and now- it is a Gift-? that's why it is called the Present. ??
Love Joy and a Hug For Everyone Frustr8