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Just now, Syntax_Attack said:

I'm not sure what you mean by:

"I think there's a bigger bridge to be built than narrowing it down per gender."

But it is well within the capabilities of most forum platforms to lock down even viewing a specific sub forum to registered users and those that meet a certain criteria (in this case gender). And I am not saying this is a perfect solution (someone could create a fake account to browse if they wanted to). But the enemy of the good is the perfect, and this would be a good thing to do IMO.

What I mean by that is, I think all posts should be private to registered users. That would a good start for privacy. Then, you could tackle the gender issue. I'm just saying, why care if women can post on it, if the whole damn world can see it? It might be well within the capabilities of most forums, but I don't think its being implemented in any of the posts here (non viewable to non registered users).

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2 minutes ago, AshAsh1 said:

What I mean by that is, I think all posts should be private to registered users. That would a good start for privacy. Then, you could tackle the gender issue. I'm just saying, why care if women can post on it, if the whole damn world can see it? It might be well within the capabilities of most forums, but I don't think its being implemented in any of the posts here (non viewable to non registered users).

AH, well I can understand why they may not want to lock down all posts to only registered users as you probably want to look at the community in general before joining. But in the case single gender rooms they could easily require you to be a registered member AND lock it down by gender of said registered members, which is what I am proposing. They don't have to have all of the sub forums remain open to non-registered users, they can lock down individual rooms.

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1 minute ago, Syntax_Attack said:

AH, well I can understand why they may not want to lock down all posts to only registered users as you probably want to look at the community in general before joining. But in the case single gender rooms they could easily require you to be a registered member AND lock it down by gender of said registered members, which is what I am proposing. They don't have to have all of the sub forums remain open to non-registered users, they can lock down individual rooms.

I think leaving it open is just asking for trolls. If you are serious about WLS, join as a member, you can always delete your account.

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I think it is silly to restrict to men and women only. People are people. When you do that you might really be missing out. Don't assume that a woman (or man) might not have insight into your specific topic. We have spouses, siblings, etc that help us gain experience in all sorts of ways.

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2 minutes ago, StrawberryLaray said:

I think it is silly to restrict to men and women only. People are people. When you do that you might really be missing out. Don't assume that a woman (or man) might not have insight into your specific topic. We have spouses, siblings, etc that help us gain experience in all sorts of ways.

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I agree with you, but I don't want to give unwanted advice or insight. So I'd rather support their decision to be private.

Also, the population of men is dramatically lower than women, so if they get less feedback and support, so be it. *shrugs*

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I agree with you, but I don't want to give unwanted advice or insight. So I'd rather support their decision to be private.

I agree. I won't post there, actually I had not even noticed the gendered groups before now. But I think it is potentially closed minded.

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Ultimately, there is nothing I'd post on this forum that I'd neither want, man or woman to see. It is the internet, after all.

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Just now, StrawberryLaray said:

I think it is silly to restrict to men and women only. People are people. When you do that you might really be missing out. Don't assume that a woman (or man) might not have insight into your specific topic. We have spouses, siblings, etc that help us gain experience in all sorts of ways.

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And if you have no problem with that then there are all of the other forums, where most people do post their questions when they want that insight. But sometimes people are uncomfortable with discussing intimate details with members of the opposite sex and that is what these spaces are supposed to be for.

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I can understand why the forums are open to the general public, it's a marketing tool, aside from that, I wouldn't have found these forum if they were locked down. Some forums have a subforum which is accessible by registered users only, that would be useful.

In the specific instance, the gender rooms could be locked down to members only, plus locked down by gender. I understand that there are specific issues that some people only like to share with their gender and don't want the other gender to read and/or comment on.

In some instances, I would probably share more in a members only sub forum as well as a locked down female forum.

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If you "locked them down" people could just change their gender if they wanted to look. Or look at them as unregistered members. Or decide not to list their gender at all.

I dunno...no one's in eighth grade. "Girls Keep Out" and "Boys Keep Out" signs belong on tree forts and angsty middle schooler bedroom doors, in my opinion. just seems weird and offputting for adults to do this in 2018. To me, anyway.

But, clearly some other folks like them. So what do we do?

Ultimately, it's Alex's board. So he, alone, gets to make the call.

Either way the chips fall on this particular issue....I'm not sure I care. Gender based boards seem absurd to me, but whatever.

I do have to wonder what the people who use these kinds of boards will do...when they draw an opposite sex doctor at the emergency room...since..ya know...saying something anatomical within earshot of the opposite gender might cause the world to end. LOL. I also wonder how these folks get married?

Maybe it's a generational thing or a cultural construct that doesn't touch my world....but yeah....this whole boy/girl thing seems bizarre to me.

Would really suck for a transsexual to be denied access to the gender room they most identify with. And what about people who don't experience gender? or all the other variations of folks who don't experience cisnormative gender identity? Big can of civil liberties worms to put your foot in if you're an internet entrepreneur.

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3 minutes ago, Creekimp13 said:

And what about people who don't experience gender?

LMAO, wow just wow.

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Now see...I think your refusal to acknowledge and respect these people....is as offensive as you find women who post in the men's room.

World is an interesting place, isn't it?

If you'd like to be educated about them, look up the term genderqueer or non-binary gender identity.

But again...I don't care what Alex does about these rooms.

Ultimately, I think he'd care a lot more about them if they produced LOTS of sales of bariatric products. LOL:)

By the way, have you tried the Flapjacked Mighty Muffins? They're amazing:)

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LMAO, wow just wow.

There are lots of people who are gender Fluid or somewhere on the spectrum. I wouldn't laugh, it could be one of your friends or family members.

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1 minute ago, Creekimp13 said:

If you'd like to be educated about them, look up the term genderqueer or non-binary gender identity.

I could also look up otherkin, or headmates, or a ton of other things people claim to be.

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2 minutes ago, StrawberryLaray said:

There are lots of people who are gender Fluid or somewhere on the spectrum. I wouldn't laugh, it could be one of your friends or family members.

I love it, gender Fluid is my favorite flavor of this. I identify as a man today and a woman tomorrow, and a demiboy an hour later, and then no gender 3 minutes later but only for 37 seconds!! Fantastic!!

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