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I would like to post on some more private topics in the guys room but the females cannot seem to keep out of it and enjoy butting in, even on posts specifically labeled as male only. PLEASE lock down the gender specific rooms and posts by gender! As we have a gender option on our profiles this should be fairly easy to do and would probably encourage more participation.

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18 minutes ago, Syntax_Attack said:

I would like to post on some more private topics in the guys room but the females cannot seem to keep out of it and enjoy butting in, even on posts specifically labeled as male only. PLEASE lock down the gender specific rooms and posts by gender! As we have a gender option on our profiles this should be fairly easy to do and would probably encourage more participation.

I've asked Alex (the founder) to look into this. He stated he was going to do so.

His reply to my request is here:

Edited by Matt Z

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Try to be fair - men wander into the ladies' forum as well. We just see the "Recent Topic" and click. I don't think anyone is intentionally butting in. But it would be nice to have a screen. As you mentioned, there might be a lot more participation on sensitive topics.

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1 minute ago, Matt Z said:

I've asked Alex (the founder) to look into this. He stated he was going to do so.

Awesome, hopefully another request will show this is an issue that more would like to see addressed and maybe even speed up the change if they intend to do so.

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2 minutes ago, Orchids&Dragons said:

Try to be fair - men wander into the ladies' forum as well. We just see the "Recent Topic" and click. I don't think anyone is intentionally butting in. But it would be nice to have a screen. As you mentioned, there might be a lot more participation on sensitive topics.

A good reason for women to support the change as well (hence me asking for both to be locked down and not just the men's room)! I am sure it can be just as annoying for the gals as it is the guys. But yes there are posts where the women explicitly state that they know it is the men's forum but don't care.

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1 minute ago, Syntax_Attack said:

Awesome, hopefully another request will show this is an issue that more would like to see addressed and maybe even speed up the change if they intend to do so.

Oh absolutely, if we can show enough Male support, we should be able to make it happen.

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1 minute ago, Syntax_Attack said:

But yes there are posts where the women explicitly state that they know it is the men's forum but don't care.

Wow, that's pretty rude :o

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Just now, Orchids&Dragons said:

Wow, that's pretty rude :o

I very much agree with you!

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1 hour ago, Syntax_Attack said:

I would like to post on some more private topics in the guys room but the females cannot seem to keep out of it and enjoy butting in, even on posts specifically labeled as male only. PLEASE lock down the gender specific rooms and posts by gender! As we have a gender option on our profiles this should be fairly easy to do and would probably encourage more participation.

In the meantime, I wonder if you put it somewhere in the title? I know that you shouldn't have to, but it might help. Its hard to see the room on the app. It's in very small, light colored, print.

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5 minutes ago, AshAsh1 said:

In the meantime, I wonder if you put it somewhere in the title? I know that you shouldn't have to, but it might help. Its hard to see the room on the app. It's in very small, light colored, print.

I can't speak for the women's forum as I don't look at it but as far as the men's forum there are some who don't care. For example these are parts of replies were posted on a fairly sensitive subject for the OP.

On 3/17/2016 at 11:03 AM, bayougirlmrsc said:

Im a rebel.... so im going to break the law here and post in the men site.....

On 11/8/2016 at 11:53 AM, Raymia said:

Why is the guys room more interesting.... Love it

Obviously some people simply don't care or respect the posters in the gender specific rooms and I think that this discourages people from posting. This is probably a major reason the Guys forum is all but dead. I am sure the opposite happens in the Gals forum and of course would be just as rude but I think locking the forums down is the best solution.

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18 minutes ago, Syntax_Attack said:

I can't speak for the women's forum as I don't look at it but as far as the men's forum there are some who don't care. For example these are parts of replies were posted on a fairly sensitive subject for the OP.

Obviously some people simply don't care or respect the posters in the gender specific rooms and I think that this discourages people from posting. This is probably a major reason the Guys forum is all but dead. I am sure the opposite happens in the Gals forum and of course would be just as rude but I think locking the forums down is the best solution.

Well did you report this person--bayougirl? Because it sounds like *she* is the problem.

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19 minutes ago, Syntax_Attack said:

For example these are parts of replies were posted on a fairly sensitive subject for the OP.

Also, I understand it was a sensitive issue, but you do realize that it is a public forum. ANYONE that has access to the internet can see these posts. I don't think the ability to reply or not makes the sensitivity of posts go away.

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Just now, AshAsh1 said:

Also, I understand it was a sensitive issue, but you do realize that it is a public forum. ANYONE that has access to the internet can see these posts. I don't think the ability to reply or not makes the sensitivity of posts go away.

True, but some topics people are more comfortable speaking about with members of their own sex. If the single sex forums are locked down by gender to registered users then it would be easier to broach those subjects.

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Just now, Syntax_Attack said:

True, but some topics people are more comfortable speaking about with members of their own sex. If the single sex forums are locked down by gender to registered users then it would be easier to broach those subjects.

I think all posts should be only accessed by registered users, but its not that way now. I think there's a bigger bridge to be built than narrowing it down per gender. I'm just saying, you can restrict someone from commenting, but it doesn't make it private in anyway.

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I'm not sure what you mean by:

3 minutes ago, AshAsh1 said:

I think there's a bigger bridge to be built than narrowing it down per gender.

But it is well within the capabilities of most forum platforms to lock down even viewing a specific sub forum to registered users and those that meet a certain criteria (in this case gender). And I am not saying this is a perfect solution (someone could create a fake account to browse if they wanted to). But the enemy of the good is the perfect, and this would be a good thing to do IMO.

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