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Hello All,

Sorry, I've been away for a while. I went back to work for a while. Ms. Summit, welcome to the group. I am so sorry to hear about your hospital experience, but glad to know you are trying to put it in a more healthy perspective for you. Your body will react differently to stress now than it did before. Thank you for sharing about the absorption issues. It looks like I may need a hip replacement, however, I will leave that in God's hands. I am too young for a knee replacement and again lifting that up to God. I would normally say you are not alone, however, I have not been consistent in reading or posting. To have a friend one must be a friend. Regardless of my inconsistencies, their are several other's here who will keep your spirits lifted if you let them. I have always gotten good information and uplifting responses. I have no doubt that you will too. Watch out for the hormonal changes, especially with such rapid weight loss that you are about to experience in the first year. My first dietitian said we dump a lot of stored estrogen. Just a head's up. The emotional roller coaster is not due just to the physical changes. Best wishes for a complete and speedy recovery.

Mrs. Boss

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My Family's Mantra,on that subject
If it don't pay rent, kick,it out!
And my mother's side of my gnarled family tree
Far better to kick it out
And bear the shame
Than to hold it in
And bear the,pain!
But MLS it is is a very human condition, and flatulence can be interpeted as your gastric system waking,up from its surgical slumber.❤Sending a hug, if you don't need it now, put it in your pocket, you never know when it might come in handy!
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LOL you are a riot @Missouri-Lee's Summit Wise idea to leave the complaint until you are stronger. I loved that in Mexicali they encouraged you to have a surgery companion and there was a sofa for them to sleep on in your room.

Do you have in a drain in one of your incisions? They had a drain in the main incision where they pulled out the stomach and removed it on day 3 after surgery.

I have never been so gassy in my life! Farts and burps are a part of my new normal so I am right there with ya ;-)

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@BajanSleeve You asked about my insurance coverage. I refer to most of my insurance company's pre-surgical requirements as their "fat-shaming" requirements. What other elective procedures require a trip to a shrink? Are knee or hip replacements patients asked to meet with a psychologist? What about breast enhancement surgery or having one's tubes tied? Yes, I see some merit in finding out if one has the mettle to handle all the lifestyle changes involved following a bypass or sleeve, but I doubt if one visit is enough to truly assess this. I don't know if more women than men have weight loss surgeries, but it feels like another set of patronizing roadblocks to shame women who are fat. I just had to get that out. Perhaps there are those among us who disagree. For me, when an insurance company imposes a separate co-pay of $2,500 on this particular surgery but not on other types of elective surgeries, I feel singled out. I also had to pay the customary $350 because this was a one-night inpatient procedure. (And what a glorious unmanaged pain nightmare that was!)

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7 hours ago, Missouri-Lee's Summit said:

@BajanSleeve You asked about my insurance coverage. I refer to most of my insurance company's pre-surgical requirements as their "fat-shaming" requirements. What other elective procedures require a trip to a shrink? Are knee or hip replacements patients asked to meet with a psychologist? What about breast enhancement surgery or having one's tubes tied? Yes, I see some merit in finding out if one has the mettle to handle all the lifestyle changes involved following a bypass or sleeve, but I doubt if one visit is enough to truly assess this. I don't know if more women than men have weight loss surgeries, but it feels like another set of patronizing roadblocks to shame women who are fat. I just had to get that out. Perhaps there are those among us who disagree. For me, when an insurance company imposes a separate co-pay of $2,500 on this particular surgery but not on other types of elective surgeries, I feel singled out. I also had to pay the customary $350 because this was a one-night inpatient procedure. (And what a glorious unmanaged pain nightmare that was!)

I agree that one meeting with a psychologist isn't likely to produce any true benefit, more like a rubber stamp. My insurance required a minimum of 3 visits, and more if the therapist wasn't ready to sign off on you. I honestly didn't feel that, in my case, there was any fat-shaming. Most other elective surgeries are "magic wand" procedures. You don't have to follow a forever lifestyle change for them to work. WLS is different. Clearly from some of the posts in these forums, some folks could have used a lot more time in preparation for such a major change. Just my 2 cents worth.

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I am so weak. Water, peach jell-O, out of broth. I can't think. I don't know what to do. I made a mistake about starting my Protein too early, so that's out. Where am I supposed to get energy? I don't know what to do. I'm afraid of getting too weak to function. Help. How do I fix this?

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2 hours ago, Missouri-Lee's Summit said:

I am so weak. Water, peach jell-O, out of broth. I can't think. I don't know what to do. I made a mistake about starting my Protein too early, so that's out. Where am I supposed to get energy? I don't know what to do. I'm afraid of getting too weak to function. Help. How do I fix this?

What do you mean that you started Protein too early? Are you still supposed to be on Clear Liquids?

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Drink some diluted apple juice or diluted grape juice asap. Unfortunately I went through the same thing on the liquid only phase - zero energy. But the diluted juice helps

You should order some electrolytes to put in your Water or juice asap as well. I ordered off of Amazon but ask your daughter to get some for you. When you are dehydrated you get lethargy and exhaustion. At this early stage post op the rehydration tablets really help and keep BP stable. My BP really dropped and the doctor told me to use them

I used nunn hydrating tablets. You can search amazon and order to your door or daughter can get you some equivalent

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Doing better hydrating myself. It was just a matter of finding something that actually tasted good. That something is called WTRMLNWTR (Watermelon Water). It's 12 fl oz of clear, cold-pressed juiced watermelon with no Water added or pulp. 550mg potassium, 95mg lycopene, 60% Vit C, 4% Iron, 2% Calcium, 4% Vit A, 8% magnesium, 1g Protein. I found it in the refrigerator aisle at Target. A tad pricey.

I also got some white grape juice and more bone broth.

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@BajanSleeve I think I've bonded to you like one parakeet to another. Every time I post, you reply. You have such a kind face, too.

You live in Barbados? Kindly fill me in.

How extensive was your bruising? Believe it or not, I was discharged without anyone looking at my surgery site. The doctor didn't even meet with me after my surgery the next day. I think they just wanted my self-advocate hiney out of there. The whole thing still seems surreal. I can live with a hospital stay that lacked compassion and customized pain management as long as the surgery was successful.

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I know exactly how you feel. I have no friends in real life and my family don’t know about my decision for wls so I have 0 people to talk about it to. I also find every group or online community I join I just don’t seem to fit in to the cliques. I can chat to one or two people but I never fit in with the groups. It feels like these days everyone either has friends and doesn’t need or want anymore or everyone is too busy to want to dedicate any time to it. I’m single too so I don’t have any partner to talk about it to. I’m completely alone on this but I’m always happy to chat to people.

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