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@BajanSleeve Excellent suggestions! Coconut chapstick in my purse! Darn, no oral hydration gel. Good thing I'm bringing my pharmacist daughter with me. I'll let her pick up my OTC supplies.

Good idea about the patch. Unfortunately, the adhesives in medical Patches don't stick to me. Hyperhidrosis. I tried Fentanyl patches with two different kinds of adhesives from two different drug companies and neither one stayed on more than a couple of hours. Ondansetron is the prescription med (in tablet form) that I take for nausea.

I was told that I'd be staying one night after my surgery --- unless, of course, there are complications, which I don't expect.

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Did you try putting the patch directly behind your ear? How about sticking that baby on with a band aid or surgical tape?

Sounds like your daughter has got you covered :)

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Hey check your messages. I sent you a private message :)

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@BajanSleeve Ha! I tried everything short of barbed wire to get those things to stay on. Transdermal Patches just won't stay put even with an overlay patch on top.

This conversation reminds me of the childhood saying, "I'm rubber you're glue, whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you!"

Better head for bed. Big day tomorrow.

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Best wishes for an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery!

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Good luck to you and your surgical team and recovery. Stay strong.

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Thanks, everyone. I'm off to the hospital in about an hour.

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You are in the "Show me State" show us how it can be done and done with class. Sending healing thoughts your way🌈😛🌈!
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Good luck with your surgery today. Sending prayers. We are your friends here
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Cant wait to hear how you got through with your surgery. Saying prayers

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Back home after one night's stay. Surgery was a success. I wish I could say the same about the "customized" and "nurturing" care I received at the hospital. It wasn't the nurses, but the hospitalist and my doctor who completely dropped the ball with my pain management. The pain from the gastric bypass wasn't the problem. Believe it or not, HOSPITAL PEOPLE, some patients have existing chronic pain that needs to be managed. When your body is dependent on 300mg of morphine a day for pain relief, 1 mg. every 3 hours doesn't cut it. And an increase of a hefty 1mg is the equivalent of a teaspoon of Jell-O. I was beside myself with unmanaged agony and withdrawal. I was ready to leave against medical advice, if necessary. I notified the charge nurse and went up the line trying to get my distress resolved. The hospital finally discharged me with no apology or concern. Even the discharge papers were inaccurate. This is an issue I brought up numerous times during the pre-surgery visits. The biggest breakdown in communication was with the hospitalist on-call at two in the morning who knew next to nothing about me. And it didn't help that the inexperienced nurse who was attending me (the one who brought me ice Water with a straw and offered me a 7-UP earlier in the evening; I declined the straw and the carbonated beverage, btw) told the hospitalist that I was "demanding" more pain relief. Demanding?! More like begging and moaning. I felt as though I received one-size-fits-all post-op care. And they were probably glad to see me go. No one likes a self-advocate, not really. Be a good little patient and don't question your care.

I'm home now. Medicated properly and going through a normal recovery.

It's a struggle to get enough Protein and I feel like I'm not meeting my liquid quota either, but I'm trying.

Even though my hospital experience was an unfortunate one, my surgery was a success -- and that's the important thing.

I wish I could be more positive in every detail, but I think honesty is more valuable, particularly for anyone with chronic pain who anticipated TOTAL pain management.

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@Missouri-Lee's Summit I am so happy to see you!!!! :778_heartbeat:

After all the money you paid you should be blasting your surgeons head off for not communicating your special needs to the hospital. I tell ya boy, I cannot complain about my care in Mexicali because they were really compassionate and attentive. When I asked for more morphine the 1st night they gave it without hesitation. I am so sorry for the additional stress you went through :(

I am surprised that you are drinking Protein only days after surgery? It seems that each doctor, location, gives different instructions. I was advised not to start protein until after the 10 days liquid only stage because they did not want any additional load on the sleeve. Only Water based liquids and diluted juices, no dairy. I did not drink the 64 oz after surgery and STILL have not been able to reach that goal yet either so you are not the only one.

Did you buy rehydration tablets to put into your drinks? Those really help a week or so post surgery when you are not hitting your liquid intake and also helps stabilize blood pressure. Ask your daughter to get you some.

I would definitely put in writing your disappointment with the bad pain management with both your surgeon and the hospital. Did you pay for this or did insurance pay for it? Either way I don't blame you one bit for being upset. Who wants to deal with additional distress after surgery!!! Make noise!

Sending you a big hug and congratulations on successful surgery.

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OMGosh, I am so sorry this happened to you. Especially since your doctor was aware of the pain management issues beforehand. This was dreadful. I'm glad you're home now and doing better.

Don't sweat your Protein right now. Focus on Fluid intake. That is more important by orders of magnitude.

((Hugs))

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No one contacted my family after the surgery either (even though they had all of their cell numbers). My pharmacist daughter was even stopped by a security officer for looking suspicious and "meandering". When the time comes, I will complain aplenty, but right now it's probably better if I try to love on myself, heal, and not get myself in a tizzy about poor practice post-op protocols.

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I never thought I'd say this, but flatulence is my new best friend. I'm trying to come up with a
"If it doesn't fit, you must acquit" mantra for bloating and relief via flatulence, but my brain cells are on vacation and I'm honestly too weak to rhyme. Too weak to rhyme! Yes, I'm too weak to rhyme.

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