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[clsumrall 535]

Welcome to the boards. You just have to jump right in as you have in this post! And post often. People get to know you and then it becomes like a fam.
So here's the deal. Glad you've had an epiphany, but I know you know this isn't magic bean surgery. Right? The operation will make your tummy smaller. That's all it does. So if you have a food/eating problem, please know that you may need even more help to keep the weight off. You may need therapy or OA, or some kind of help for your mind on top of your anatomy.
Cuz people eat around the sleeves and pouches all the time. They still make the wrong choices despite the nutrition education and the surgery. And it becomes a shambolic event.
The time to get that extra help is now, even before your surgery, or in the early months after surgery so that you don't squander the honeymoon period and instead use that time to revise your relationship with food for the future!
Sorry to be blunt. But it always alarms me to read these words that I highlighted. There is no black/white all or nothing future for us, sadly. [emoji20] We will always have to be hyper aware in my opinion to guard against that silent enemy that lies like nothing else.

Don’t all of us have an eating disorder. If you have been guilty of yo-yo ing (which I have awards in) lol, then I think it’s not really the food it’s what we want to stuff down emotionally is the cycle we can’t break on our own. Any thoughts ?

[Kay07 734]

58 minutes ago, clsumrall said:

Don’t all of us have an eating disorder.

Not sure if I would necessarily agree with this? A large majority of my weight came one because of medical reasons (sever HG in pregnancy resulting in a post pregnancy rapid gain). I am not an emotional eater, nor do I have certain foods that I binge on. My issue is I don't have a metabolism, stemming from the HG. You have to vigoriously PRY the weight from my body because it does not want to lose! And even then, I lose weight incredibly slowly. The other issue, which I will admit is totally on me is that I tend to not make eating multiple meals a priority. I could go the entire day with nothing but an obscene amount of coffee and a banana, then going home and eat a larger dinner. So not sure I'd call that an eating disorder? I have since changed my ways and feel GREAT... annnd have lost next to nothing LOL.

Edited April 4, 2018 by Kay07

[FluffyChix 17,418]

2 hours ago, MACPOWER said:

Oh yeah I totally understand that! It helps that my insurance made me see a weight loss specialist for 6 months first before they would even think about approving my surgery. Eating is the #1 thing we have worked on! I know this surgery isn’t a “magic pill” but it does help with putting you in the right direction.

100% agree with this!

[FluffyChix 17,418]

20 minutes ago, Kay07 said:

Not sure if I would necessarily agree with this? A large majority of my weight came one because of medical reasons (sever HG in pregnancy resulting in a post pregnancy rapid gain). I am not an emotional eater, nor do I have certain foods that I binge on. My issue is I don't have a metabolism, stemming from the HG. You have to vigoriously PRY the weight from my body because it does not want to lose! And even then, I lose weight incredibly slowly. The other issue, which I will admit is totally on me is that I tend to not make eating multiple meals a priority. I could go the entire day with nothing but an obscene amount of coffee and a banana, then going home and eat a larger dinner. So not sure I'd call that an eating disorder? I have since changed my ways and feel GREAT... annnd have lost next to nothing LOL.

I would call you an outlier then.

But. LOL. There are so many of us with our heads so farrrrrrr up the river De-Nile (not meaning you), that they would swear to the their doc they got super morbidly obese by eating nothing except a chicken breast and broccoli at night...

So there is that part.

I raise my hand heartily to admitting I'm a big ol' sinner with food issues! (And Daddy issues. ) (Mostly food issues though...haha)

[Kay07 734]

LOL... Well I would own up to my intense addiction to coffee. I'm still having jealousy issues of my coworkers enjoying their fully caffeinated afternoon coffee while I sip my Decaf (which I used to scoff at, because whats the point of decaf?). But food? Meh. Don't get me wrong, I love to cook. Making homemade Pasta was one of my favorite things to do with my kids. With the whole "Gluten sensitivity" I've got going on I've had to switch things up a bit. But when I'm emotional, or stressed, or upset... I make myself a cup of coffee. And if I'm feeling really peeved, I make myself a fancy coffee.

[olivia2018 6]

So just had my pre-op appointment. So bummed...he said no to caffeine and adding things like crystal light to Water. Also, no sugar free Jello, broth, etc. I appreciate all of the suggestions....I was really hoping he would add something besides 3 Protein Shakes, 64 oz of water and 3 oz cooked Protein meat and 1 cup of steamed veggies. I am so hungry. He said the hunger will pass. 😥

[MACPOWER 96]

LOL... Well I would own up to my intense addiction to coffee. I'm still having jealousy issues of my coworkers enjoying their fully caffeinated afternoon coffee while I sip my Decaf (which I used to scoff at, because whats the point of decaf?). But food? Meh. Don't get me wrong, I love to cook. Making homemade Pasta was one of my favorite things to do with my kids. With the whole "Gluten sensitivity" I've got going on I've had to switch things up a bit. But when I'm emotional, or stressed, or upset... I make myself a cup of coffee. And if I'm feeling really peeved, I make myself a fancy coffee.

Mmmmmm.....Pasta! 🤤

[MACPOWER 96]

So just had my pre-op appointment. So bummed...he said no to caffeine and adding things like crystal light to Water. Also, no sugar free Jello, broth, etc. I appreciate all of the suggestions....I was really hoping he would add something besides 3 Protein Shakes, 64 oz of water and 3 oz cooked Protein meat and 1 cup of steamed veggies. I am so hungry. He said the hunger will pass. [emoji26]

Well that’s a bummer! I seem to be on the same diet as you. But they say yes to sugar free jello, crystal light, broth, sugar free popsicles.

The hunger will pass....but it unfortunately comes back. You just have to be strong and think about the positive outcome from it!

[Kay07 734]

1 hour ago, olivia2018 said:

So just had my pre-op appointment. So bummed...he said no to caffeine and adding things like crystal light to Water. Also, no sugar free Jello, broth, etc. I appreciate all of the suggestions....I was really hoping he would add something besides 3 Protein Shakes, 64 oz of Water and 3 oz cooked Protein meat and 1 cup of steamed veggies. I am so hungry. He said the hunger will pass. 😥

Does it have to be like a Premier Protein shake? Or can you fancy up your shake? I make a delicious shake in the am using fat free greek yogurt, Unsweetened almond milk, and vanilla cupcake Protein Powder with mixed in frozen blueberries... throw it in my ninja and make a yummy smoothie. Packs a great amount of Protein and other nutrients and I love it. My kids love it.

[Sprinkles1 358]

9 hours ago, Kay07 said:

Is your surgery scheduled yet?

Mine is scheduled for 4/23!

[Marissa37 54]

6 hours ago, Kay07 said:

Not sure if I would necessarily agree with this? A large majority of my weight came one because of medical reasons (sever HG in pregnancy resulting in a post pregnancy rapid gain). I am not an emotional eater, nor do I have certain foods that I binge on. My issue is I don't have a metabolism, stemming from the HG. You have to vigoriously PRY the weight from my body because it does not want to lose! And even then, I lose weight incredibly slowly. The other issue, which I will admit is totally on me is that I tend to not make eating multiple meals a priority. I could go the entire day with nothing but an obscene amount of coffee and a banana, then going home and eat a larger dinner. So not sure I'd call that an eating disorder? I have since changed my ways and feel GREAT... annnd have lost next to nothing LOL.

This is my exact issue so I hate when people tell me i must eat alot. I have no appetite drink coffee all day maybe a banana then I have dinner with hubby and kids are in bed. Then I go to bed super late 2am wake up 7am.

[Marissa37 54]

On 4/2/2018 at 9:15 PM, MACPOWER said:

So I joined this Bariatric Pals Community thinking that it would be awesome to talk and fellow people that are going through the same thing as me. But for some reason I find it hard to join in on the conversations. I feel like I’m butting in on other peoples conversations. Like who’s this newbie trying to talk to us? Does anyone else feel that way? Or is it just me? Because Im definitely not that way in person. I’m always talking to everyone around me no matter who it is. But for some reason I feel differently on this.

Im from NYC my surgery is the 10th so we are close in date. Fell free to contact me anytime Im married with four children FYI lol. I get what you mean but you can just post your question like you just did and then you might not feel like ur butting in. Can you give me advice on not having saggy skin its totally scaring me my arms especially.

Good luck on your surgery!!!

[Marissa37 54]

My Pre op diet

Breakfast: Muscle Milk

Snack: Muscle Milk

Lunch: Muscle Milk

Snack: Muscle Milk

Dinner: Bone Broth

15 minutes before bed: Muscle milk

64 oz Water Minimum

I could also have sugar free Jello, Sugar free popscicles, Crystal light, Tea, coffee (just found out today), Splenda but only after completely list above.

First 3 days were tourture I was thinking damn did I have the right last meal? Night time is worse for me since i stay up late but I just brush my teeth and the hunger literally goes away.

Im also making sure I achieve 10,000 steps and after hope to double that after Im on solid food not sure if I have the mindset to do it during liquids.

I lost 7.5 pounds so far

[FluffyChix 17,418]

7 hours ago, clsumrall said:

Don’t all of us have an eating disorder. If you have been guilty of yo-yo ing (which I have awards in) lol, then I think it’s not really the food it’s what we want to stuff down emotionally is the cycle we can’t break on our own. Any thoughts ?

LOL! Well I know I do! But yes I believe it's also the food that we're addicted to because we chase the high we get from dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. All feel good mood elevators that we get as a result of eating some of our favorite coma-nervana-inducing foods.

[Kay07 734]

59 minutes ago, Marissa37 said:

Then I go to bed super late 2am wake up 7am.

I would die. LOL. I am literally the crabbiest person ever if I am awake at 11. I'm kind of like a lay down at 8:30 and read, passed out by 9:30 kind of gal. In fairness, my alarm goes off at 5am. But still. Love me some sleep.

Although on the weekends when I'm feeling rebellious, I'll stay awake until 11 or maybe 12. #LivinOnTheEdge

Edited April 4, 2018 by Kay07