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My man said I cheated

Missytee

By Missytee, in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums

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The Dora Milaje    69

The Dora Milaje
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Personally I said dump him because I assumed she had already discussed all of this with him since she has had the surgery already. The journey is hard enough why add on struggling with a boyfriend over it?

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maygoddess    53

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I have been banded 16 years and as weight loss surgery was becoming more popular I think even Oprah did a talk show segment on surgery and called it " the easy way out". I am sick of even seeing people on here who have decided to get rid of bands and will just "eat healthier and excercise more"..uhh..yeah right...we all tried that...over and over and over. The statistics are that only 5% of people who lose weight will keep it off 5 years or longer. That is what got me to surgery back in 2002. I decided was sick of pushing that rock up the hill only to have it come back down at me again and again and again...

Surgery is never an easy way out..it is being realistic that food is not only life sustaining, it is pleasurable and necessary. Portion sizes are out of control and we have access to a lot of very tasty food that is hard to resist..even healthy food has calories and too many will make you gain. I got the surgery not really to lose the weight (I call that the side benefit) but to KEEP IT OFF!! I want to be that 5% finally who KEEPS IT OFF!!!

So tell your boyfriend those statistics and then ask him again if he thinks you are cheating...you are just tired of pushing that rock up the hill..and also heading towards obesity related illnesses and issues you would rather not have..CHEAT AWAY!!

Congrats on the loss..you do you...don't worry about the outside "noise" even from loved ones....

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Mattymatt    491

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Surgery is only a tool but it's not easy. I've just gone through almost two rather grueling weeks. In the end, it's all about a tool that works. I don't want to be a part of the 90-95% that lost weight and fail to keep it off any longer. Getting off of the yo-yo train feels good

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johnsons13    359

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Surgery is only a tool but it's not easy. I've just gone through almost two rather grueling weeks. In the end, it's all about a tool that works. I don't want to be a part of the 90-95% that lost weight and fail to keep it off any longer. Getting off of the yo-yo train feels good

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Have you had your surgery? Mine is in 10 days.

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Mattymatt    491

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Have you had your surgery? Mine is in 10 days.

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Yup, I had mine on March 12th.

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GirlShrinking    110

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Any relationship that isn’t supportive is toxic in every sense of the word. I was in a physically, mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive relationship.. not only was I a prisoner to my own body and health but a prisoner to someone else by allowing him to making me feel low,not worthy, ugly and like I had nowhere and nobody else to go to. Slowly rebuilding myself (now 6yrs out of a abusive relationship) in a health relationship now. He is super athletic and healthy.. motivates and encourages me to keep going (I mentioned the surgery option to help me along the way) and he is supportive.

I know someone mentioned that he might be jealous (I have to agree with that) you should try to encourage him to join you on your journey (even if he doesn’t need the surgery himself) and assure him you’ll still be there in the end.. maybe he fears he’ll lose you once you lose the weight? ... it’s good to vent about things but it’s also good to think things through too.

I wish you nothing but good health, happiness to the fullest, support, and success!


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sharonintx    1,275

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Your man is showing his ignorance and insecurity. The sleeve brings on it's own emotional and mental challenges. Who needs this s*#t from their significant other? Not you.

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jess9395    5,450

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Dating is to determine compatibility.

This is a data point in that determination.

Also, heck if you can “cheat” your way into weight loss, health and a hotter body (not gonna get into that argument, but I will say the body will be hotter by most standards) why not?


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Kahkeetsee    64

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It may be making him insecure that you will be thin and leave him.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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