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NO JUDGEMENT!

So I was really naughty NYE and today - New Years Day here in Oz. I ate heaps, and drank wine. I even ate mini chocolates. I really fell off the wagon and only about a month post-op.

Has anyone else had bad days like this? Did it stop you from reaching your goals?

I am going to a cycle class tomorrow because I feel ready, but today I just want to treat myself. Is the occasional slip up really going to ruin everything?

Thanks in advance xx

Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

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I ate a chocolate chip cookie the day after Christmas. In four little pieces. Over the course of two hours. But yep, I ate the whole damned cookie.

Walk of shame. Chocolate chip Cookies are most decidedly NOT on my diet.

People are human and stubborn and stupid. We try to be better, but sometimes we're kinda....nuts....and do self sabotaging things that don't make any sense.

The important thing to remember, is to get firmly back on track and move forward in a better direction.

Also, finding other ways to treat ourselves is important. Gotta break those emotional bridges to food and reroute them to something else that feels good.

I've had some luck "treating myself" to a hot deep bath with bath salts and candles....when what I really want is a brownie and vanilla bean ice cream. LOL.

Also...as weird as this is....sometimes sex helps. Feel the need to eat something stupid....sometimes I go attack my husband. Sex is good exercise and a good distraction. Gotta put away the chocolate syrup....but it's still fun. LOL

Another way I treat myself...is to phone my bestie, or play with my pets, or listen to music I love. If it's fast music, I might even have my own embarrassing private dance party. Hell, I might dance with the dog. She enjoys such shenanigans and is not judgemental. LOL:)

I get what you're saying and I don't judge you. But I do worry a little about these indulgences a month out. Concerned you could hurt yourself...and that worries me. Please be careful.

Also...I really think...for me anyway....that dealing with emotional attachment/addiction to food and finding alternatives to food rewards/gratification...is gonna be an important part of my recovery.

Will an occasional screw up ruin everything? Probably not. But you're kinda flirting with a tiger in a cage who can undo all the work you've done if you're not really, really careful.

Love the cycle class idea:) You can do better tomorrow. You will do better tomorrow.

Best wishes and thanks for the honest post. I wish people were more honest about their struggles.

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I don't know if it will ruin everything but I would certainly be concerned about developing a pattern that could hurt your odds of success.

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Um yes. I've been naughty too. I had sweet potato soufflé three weeks out, the very day I started my puree diet. It was pretty much sugar, with some sweet potato. My sister brought it to the Christmas dinner I hosted last week, and I realized it was technically a puree, though definitely not on my diet. It was delicious and filling, but I felt guilty afterwards. I then got back on track. That's the important part, not turning one instance of weakness into a bad day, week or longer.

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I’m new to all this ( just sleeved on the 27th) so I may be completely off on my way of thinking, but this is how I look at this: I didn’t have this surgery so I could never have a cookie, never enjoy my favorite dishes ever again, or to feel shamed every time I do. I’ve felt all those feelings my whole overweight, dieting, adult life. I had this surgery to help me be healthier- to help me focus on the issues with my relationship/addiction to food. That is my main goal.To have a HEALTHY relationship with food, so I can eat to live, not Live to eat. Once I learn a new way to navigate that relationship, I fully plan to enjoy an occasional cookie or a bite or two of my favorite dishes. I would never judge. However, I agree with a previous poster that I am concerned for you and that this behavior might continue and ruin all your hard work of you don’t reel in the old habits and really focus on a healthy relationship with food. That said, I wouldn’t beat yourself up about it- instead, I would take a step back, recognize what happened, maybe reflect a little on what led/triggered you to over indulge, learn something from it and let it go. Today is a new day. I wish you the best.

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I’m three years out and this time of year is difficult, so I go with it. I eat things that I don’t normally eat and then when it’s over I go back to my normal eating habits. I’ve kept 100 pounds off for three years, so it seems to work for me. Don’t beat yourselves up for getting off the wagon, it’s not a short journey it’s life long changes.


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All of you are risking your health if you are cheating like within a few weeks of surgery. 'Treating yourself' is fine but why does it have to be with food? This is not to judge but to let you know this is not a path to success with the surgery. Yes, it will stop you from reaching your goal. And if you were sleeved 2 weeks ago, you are literally putting your life at risk. Seek out a good therapist to find out why you are sabotaging yourself.


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23 minutes ago, AZLoser said:

All of you are risking your health if you are cheating like within a few weeks of surgery. 'Treating yourself' is fine but why does it have to be with food? This is not to judge but to let you know this is not a path to success with the surgery. Yes, it will stop you from reaching your goal. And if you were sleeved 2 weeks ago, you are literally putting your life at risk. Seek out a good therapist to find out why you are sabotaging yourself.

"Not to judge", eh? Sounds a little judgy to me. As if you've never eaten something off plan.

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"This is not to judge but to let you know this is not a path to success"

Cause...we didn't know that. LOL!

Personally, I'd rather face my very serious struggles with food with a lot of honesty and support from other people going through the same crap.....than remain in denial about them. Lying to yourself is some toxic crap.

Some folks over eat after sleeve and cause themselves big problems. Some folks under eat and trade one eating disorder for another...and cause themselves big problems. Both behaviors are self sabotaging. There's a lotta pathology to spread around. A therapist would have a hay day with most of us, I expect. LOL.

We all screw up. We're all human that way. Finding balance is a struggle.

Lemme tell ya....if I was capable of perfection and never screwed up? I sure as hell wouldn't have gotten morbidly obese, or needed surgery to try to lose weight. LOL.

Not saying any of your advice is even wrong, AZLoser, it was just tone deaf and precisely what the OP asked people not to do.

There's a little "people in glass houses" element there that I know you don't see....but far be it from me to judge you for your choices. To each, their own:) Best wishes on your journey.

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I didn’t see it as judgement. I saw it as a comment which is true. If you are drinking wine and eating loads four weeks after surgery then it could not only affect your long term goals but your health right now. I appreciate it was only a day. We all screw up. However the fact is people reading this pre op will think it’s all ok.. that’s the problem.

This is my opinion.. I own it.

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I didn’t see it as judgement. I saw it as a comment which is true. If you are drinking wine and eating loads four weeks after surgery then it could not only affect your long term goals but your health right now. I appreciate it was only a day. We all screw up. However the fact is people reading this pre op will think it’s all ok.. that’s the problem.
This is my opinion.. I own it.


I ate a can of Almond Roca throughout my first 2 weeks..it was hella good but I am done no more for this girl who was sleeved on 18 Dec and down 8 lbs so far.


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15 minutes ago, glomom23 said:


I ate a can of Almond Roca throughout my first 2 weeks..it was hella good but I am done no more for this girl who was sleeved on 18 Dec and down 8 lbs so far.

Eh?

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7 hours ago, _Kate_ said:

I didn’t see it as judgement. I saw it as a comment which is true.

A "true comment" (in this case a bit extreme) can still carry a lot of judgement!

7 hours ago, _Kate_ said:

However the fact is people reading this pre op will think it’s all ok.. that’s the problem.

The bigger problem is creating an atmosphere in which sleevers are afraid to admit to their transgressions and seek support.

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2 minutes ago, KCRN said:

A "true comment" (in this case a bit extreme) can still carry a lot of judgement!

The bigger problem is creating an atmosphere in which sleevers are afraid to admit to their transgressions and seek support.

Uhuh...

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