I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

I told my family. Most of my family is overweight and has diabetes. I told them to tell them they have a choice to make their lives healthier. They all told me how much better and healthier I look. They really don't want to make the change and give up their love for food and alcohol. That is their choice. I have done this for me. I want to live a healthier lifestyle to me a role model for my two children. My daughter is 26 and my son is 20. They are so very proud of me. I guess it depends. I have always had a huge family and we have always gotten along well and loved each other. I thank god for my moms support as well. I just wish my dad would get the surgery. But he won't make the lifestyle change. I am so glad I have made that change.

I haven't told anyone but the co-worker that took me to the hospital. I have been going to weight watchers since Jan ~ It's amazing how NO ONE has had a negative thing to say... when I had the lap band back in 2008 it was constant justification of why I had surgery~ no regrets and down 80 lbs since April...

I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

Ive only told 3 of my sisters n mother. My mother only bc i will need her help post op..im recently divorced mother of 4. She will comment but she means well amd my sister help when she goes overboard. My sisters will be the ones to remind me why i had the surgery when im post op thinking i made a mistake and cant tolerate only liquads anymore. They are my rock. I didnt tell my brothers..as they would tell their wives and then their wives would tell their famies and so on. Only one of my sisters i didnt tell..although she would be supportive ..she would still have comments i just dont want to jear and she would tell her teenage duaghters n they would talk freely abt it to their friends...which go to the school i work at. I havent told any of my friends. I feel a support group is needed but at the same time many ppl dicredit the wieghtloss when surgery is used to help. This isnt the easy way out. We put our lives at risk when going under the knife bc we want to be healthier and nothing we have tried has helped.it is hard emotionally and mentally. And ur entire eating habits change. The surgey doesnt do that for u. U have to put the effort and resillience. Its sad that so many ppl have so much negative things to say abr something that has produced good results for ppl that have been suffering for so long. i guess the saying is true " they want to see you do good, just not better than them"
Im still in the process of bieng approced for vsg.
Good luck to u

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I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

I did the same thing. I had surgery 7 months before they saw me


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I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

My family knows, but my in-laws do not. I don't want to hear it. I only need positivity from now on.

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I've told close family, and one of two friends that's it. I don't want people to know I'm a private person and it's my business. Xx

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I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

I only told my mom, bf, and significant other.... And I'm regretting telling my mother; honestly.

Less than 24 hours; I am nervous, determined, inspired, and hungry!!
HW 251 CW 236 GW 160

Only my immediate family knows. But I'm hiding from my friends and co workers.

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I have only told my immediate family & 3 friends. When I feel like I want to share it w/others I will but until then, this is a decision I made myself, for myself & I don't have to share with anyone if I don't want too but I felt like sharing with a few. Your not alone :-)

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Wish I did my sister isn't talking to me lately oh well. I told my boss this morning but not the rest of the office one co-worker thinks I'm having hernia surgery

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My sister, neice and daughter know. Outside of that I'm telling no one.

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I'm not telling any of my family about my surgery either. One of my sisters is going with me and is having her surgery the same day I am; other than that, no I'm not telling anybody. If they ask, I'm not going to lie to them but I don't feel I need to tell them.

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I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

Absolutely not! This is not something you should be embarrassed about, the surgery is just a tool to help you out you should take pride in yourself that you're doing whatever it takes to improve your health. If "people" have an issue with that that's their problem... Here's my favorite quote from Dr. Seuss
Be who you are and say what you feel, Because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind! [emoji4]

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Me too

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My siblings know but my parents do not. I will tell them one day..after I get more courage lol

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