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Hey everyone, feeling so ashamed of myself that I'm not at goal over a year out. I'm no food addict by any means and certainly not sedentary, but I have a big problem slowing down to eat and just kind of "picking" instead of eating a meal, and forget about counting calories- I just don't keep up, counting carbs works better for me. Night snacking is a problem and when there's pretzels or something in the house I can't resist. Totally my fault. I was wondering if anyone else is going through this? I have no one to blame but myself.

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I am 4 weeks post op and I think my biggest issue is not enjoying the prep that goes into cooking. So I'm often looking for pre-mede meals. I also need to do better at calorie counting. Tedious....

HW: 265
SW: 250
CW: 222

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I am almost a year post op in August and I am not at goal, but down 80 pounds. I spoke with my Drs and they did say the weight will be coming off much slower now. I was told to keep following the plan and more weight will come off. I am very guilty of introducing my Starbucks coffee back and sweets now and again, but I am getting back on track counting calories and watching my carbs, exercising and the scale is slowly moving again. I want to get down to 170 and I know that would be a good goal weight for me. 15 more pounds to go!!! Just try to remember why you did the surgery to be a healthier person:)


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Why would you be beating yourself up instead of celebrating your success? You're close to goal.

Are you drinking Starbucks everyday and grazing on sweets uncontrollably? If so, address it as a problem. If not, be realistic. You're about to transition into maintenance in fifteen pounds. Eating normally, enjoying a treat occasionally, is normal. Moderation is key.

Weight loss does slow down - as we get smaller - because we have less to lose. It still comes off, even many years post op. Our sleeves still work. I'm proof.

I don't know why so many people panic over this one year fantasy magic number. It took me 17 months to reach my first goal. Had a baby 2 years post op, after a bit I lost 27 more pounds over 14 more months. Slow going? Oh yeah. But I'm tiny - 5'1" and 118 (actually 116 today) pounds. Weight loss was always slow for me and excruciatingly slow the closer I got to goal.

But maintenance has been a breeze.

I eat like a normal person. Protein focused, mostly, but I do my Starbucks on occasion. And dessert, small portions, if I want. If I'm doing this for life it can't feel like a diet.

Congrats on your loss, and keep going. You've got plenty of time and will see goal soon, I'm sure.

Cheri

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You have accomplished so much, don't lose sight of your goal, take each day at a time. Set a goal that your going to track, or meet your Protein or Water intake, or eating slower. I catch myself all the time eating too fast.

It's almost been five months since my surgery, and currently at a stall. I could beat myself up because I have not lost as much as someone else. But this is my body, and I can't judge myself by other's weight loss, we're all different. I've been over weight for many years, so I can't expect the weight to just fall off after being there this long just with surgery. I have to track, exercise, stay on course.

Get refocused. Easier said then done, but the way I look at like this- I had surgery to remove part of my stomach, put myself at risk for any type of complication, surgery was just one tool to help with my weight loss, now I need to follow through and meet my goal.

You can do this!

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Hey everyone, feeling so ashamed of myself that I'm not at goal over a year out. I'm no food addict by any means and certainly not sedentary, but I have a big problem slowing down to eat and just kind of "picking" instead of eating a meal, and forget about counting calories- I just don't keep up, counting carbs works better for me. Night snacking is a problem and when there's pretzels or something in the house I can't resist. Totally my fault. I was wondering if anyone else is going through this? I have no one to blame but myself.



I'm so sorry - I just realized I didn't respond to the OP.

Grazing is a hard habit to break and is one we have to be careful about. But the rest of your post sounds like you're beating yourself up a bit. Refocus. Sometimes meals are unappealing, even now for me. But we need to eat. Even if you don't want to count calories, focusing on mainly Protein, then veg and getting carbs/starches last will lead to loss. Nip the grazing. Ask yourself why you do it. Boredom? Find something to do. Find a food you can eat if all else fails. Raw nuts, hardboiled eggs, cheese. I know, I know. But eventually, the habit will fade into something you control.

It's our heads that need work. Your head is tired after a year of work. But everything I said earlier applies.

You got this.

Cheri

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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate all the support and tips! I'm mentally back on track knowing we're mostly in the same boat!!!


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I am 4 weeks post op and I think my biggest issue is not enjoying the prep that goes into cooking. So I'm often looking for pre-mede meals. I also need to do better at calorie counting. Tedious....

HW: 265
SW: 250
CW: 222



Maybe we can help each other with meal prep ideas?


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I will grill extra chicken so that the next night's dinner is a chicken salad. I'm not a huge fan of leftovers otherwise.

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Agreed, meal planning/prep can get old. I do Paleo recipes and low carb on YouTube along with Keto. These keep it fun and interesting. And theworldaccordingtoeggface.com is a great website. Keep on keeping on.

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Agreed, meal planning/prep can get old. I do Paleo recipes and low carb on YouTube along with Keto. These keep it fun and interesting. And theworldaccordingtoeggface.com is a great website. Keep on keeping on.

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I love her blog (eggface)


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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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