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3 weeks to the day, and feeling HUGE REGRETS!

Today is 3 weeks post op for me, and I can't even tell you how sorry I am that I did this. I feel nauseaus almost the time, I HATE the thought of food, or looking at food or smelling food. I have little energy and I just feel sad. Is this noal? Will it pass? (It's not that I MISS the food, except maybe pizza) but I just want to feel GOOD, NORMAL. UGH.

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The first few weeks are a little rough but it will pass before you know it . I am almost 6 months out and down 70 pounds . I felt some regret right after but your body will get used to it . I have half a slice of pizza here and there and I am able to tolerate steak . I could not drink protein shakes from the beginning so that was hard . It definitely gets easier I promise !!! Some things I can't eat are desserts or anything with sugar , and rice doesn't sit well with me . Try to avoid bread but have pita or Half English muffin here and there an it's totally fine . Just stay positive and keep your eye on the prize .




Thank you so much for your advice!!! I am not even a little bit interested in sweets, I'm SOO HAPPY to hear that I can have a little pizza at some point! How long would you say it was when you felt better? I am going on vacation in 2 weeks, and I have been so worried. (I'll be about 5 weeks post op by then)
Congratulations on your loss!


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I was in the same place around that time! I cried for like a week. I feel like for some of us we go through this because of how difficult we have it afterwards. It gets SOOO much better.

Today is 3 weeks post op for me, and I can't even tell you how sorry I am that I did this. I feel nauseaus almost the time, I HATE the thought of food, or looking at food or smelling food. I have little energy and I just feel sad. Is this noal? Will it pass? (It's not that I MISS the food, except maybe pizza) but I just want to feel GOOD, NORMAL. UGH.
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I had gastric bypass on 3/8. I ended up back in the hospital on 3/18. I was so sad and depressed. I wondered why I did this. Now I'm 119 days out I feel like a new person. It's the best decision of my life. I can actively participate in my child's life. I'm down approximately 100 pounds. Now I wonder why I didn't do this sooner. Honey it gets better I promise you. Just hang in there.

HW 330
SW 292
CW 228.6
GW below 200


Thank you so much for your advice!!! I am not even a little bit interested in sweets, I'm SOO HAPPY to hear that I can have a little pizza at some point! How long would you say it was when you felt better? I am going on vacation in 2 weeks, and I have been so worried. (I'll be about 5 weeks post op by then)
Congratulations on your loss!


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I know exactly I'm a total foodie ! 5 weeks might be a little hard to be away from home but just bring any shakes or whatever your dr allows you to have with you . We've been away several times recently and I was surprised how easy it was to find healthy things to order . Only thing that sucked was watching the family eat at the breakfast buffet . I just ****** a couple bites of eggs and a little fruit and I'm good . This time will pass so quickly! You'll do great ! Feel free to message me if you have any questions!


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I know exactly I'm a total foodie ! 5 weeks might be a little hard to be away from home but just bring any shakes or whatever your dr allows you to have with you . We've been away several times recently and I was surprised how easy it was to find healthy things to order . Only thing that sucked was watching the family eat at the breakfast buffet . I just ****** a couple bites of eggs and a little fruit and I'm good . This time will pass so quickly! You'll do great ! Feel free to message me if you have any questions!



The funny thing, is that the dr has had me on meats since day 6. I try EVERYTHING. I have had problems only with crab so far (or it was a coincidance) I can eat eggs,bacon, chicken, beef, cheese, turkey, cereal (dr said high fiber) he has me off shakes and yogurt, but I went back to yogurt because I NEED a little something for when nothing else works.

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Char3672, thank you for posting this. I am having surgery on July 31st. I have battled depression and anxiety for 20 years and am concerned about how I will feel after surgery. My husband had surgery before Christmas and did fantastic but everyone is different so I was thankful to read your post and hope you continue to update your progress over the next few weeks.

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Char3672, thank you for posting this. I am having surgery on July 31st. I have battled depression and anxiety for 20 years and am concerned about how I will feel after surgery. My husband had surgery before Christmas and did fantastic but everyone is different so I was thankful to read your post and hope you continue to update your progress over the next few weeks.

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I have had a hard time with eating and drinking, but today was a good day. Thejeweledsleeve posted the depression video, I'm not sure if she is who you meant to comment to. But i know what its like to be nervous, i almost backed out, but i think i'm going to be happy i didn't. Good Luck

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Everyone heals differently, for sure, but I think most of us probably experienced similar symptoms at one point or another during our recovery. I would first remind you to keep in mind that you very recently had MAJOR surgery. It's common to experience nausea for some time following ANY surgery, and especially one that just removed most of your stomach :)

Zofran or something similar is typically issued upon release because nausea is a very common ailment following this (or any) surgery. Typically it's not a symptom of a larger problem, but again, this was major surgery and should be treated that way. If you are not feeling well, then you should, by all means, either contact your surgeon/team or go to the ER. It's easy for those of us who have had the issues sit back and say don't worry it's normal, but what we experience isn't always the same as what you experience, even if the symptoms are the same. Better to be safe than sorry.

As far as the depression is concerned, this is something that you should UNDOUBTEDLY speak with your surgeon/team about. They will most likely have recommendations for either a specialist or support group that can offer you help in this area.

Bottom line. It's probably nothing...just typical recovery symptoms, but again, I wouldn't be the one to decide that. You have a surgeon and team at your disposal (provided you got your surgery fairly close to home), I would use it. If you don't/can't see your surgeon, see a GP. If you can't do that, go to the ER. There are a million and one reasons you could have these symptoms. Most likely it's not enough water and/or protein, but it could also be irritation or just normal recovery. Better to know for sure is my opinion...if for no other reason than peace-of-mind.

Once you know what the problem is, correcting it will be much easier. Best of luck!

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Everyone heals differently, for sure, but I think most of us probably experienced similar symptoms at one point or another during our recovery. I would first remind you to keep in mind that you very recently had MAJOR surgery. It's common to experience nausea for some time following ANY surgery, and especially one that just removed most of your stomach [emoji4]
Zofran or something similar is typically issued upon release because nausea is a very common ailment following this (or any) surgery. Typically it's not a symptom of a larger problem, but again, this was major surgery and should be treated that way. If you are not feeling well, then you should, by all means, either contact your surgeon/team or go to the ER. It's easy for those of us who have had the issues sit back and say don't worry it's normal, but what we experience isn't always the same as what you experience, even if the symptoms are the same. Better to be safe than sorry.
As far as the depression is concerned, this is something that you should UNDOUBTEDLY speak with your surgeon/team about. They will most likely have recommendations for either a specialist or support group that can offer you help in this area.
Bottom line. It's probably nothing...just typical recovery symptoms, but again, I wouldn't be the one to decide that. You have a surgeon and team at your disposal (provided you got your surgery fairly close to home), I would use it. If you don't/can't see your surgeon, see a GP. If you can't do that, go to the ER. There are a million and one reasons you could have these symptoms. Most likely it's not enough water and/or protein, but it could also be irritation or just normal recovery. Better to know for sure is my opinion...if for no other reason than peace-of-mind.
Once you know what the problem is, correcting it will be much easier. Best of luck!

I have spoken to my surgical team, they advised me to take the Zofran, and eat slower. I have a hard time with that!!! I don't know if people confused my post as saying I'm "depessed", I'm not depressed, just kind of tired of feeling sick. Today was a GREAT day for me, I hope each day continues to get better. I think another poster was talking about depression. Thank you for your advice!!

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The funny thing, is that the dr has had me on meats since day 6. I try EVERYTHING. I have had problems only with crab so far (or it was a coincidance) I can eat eggs,bacon, chicken, beef, cheese, turkey, cereal (dr said high fiber) he has me off shakes and yogurt, but I went back to yogurt because I NEED a little something for when nothing else works.

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My dr had me on solids early too and for me my body was 100% not ready . The support group I am in most of them didn't start solids for a while after me . For me starting regular foods too early made me feel horrible. It was about 3 -4weeks until I could tolerate tuna blended really well or some egg salad . Mostly though I lived on triple zero Greek yogurt and sugar free ice pops for a while ! Try and take it slow


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I have zofran, but I try not to take it and omeprezerole (spelling) I CAN'T drink shakes AT ALL! The dr tolf me to stop them, but when I tried, I can't drink them anyway. EVERYTHING makes me nauseaus. I'm wondering if I need stronger reflux meds. I'm so depressed, I knew it would be a life change, but I didn't count on feeling like THIS.

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I saw that you typed that (above in red) and figured I would just address it. Kind of figured you didn't mean "clinically depressed" but more of a defeated feeling, but wanted to mention it just in case. Glad to hear you are not depressed and still staying positive. Hopefully things will turn around for you soon!

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I saw that you typed that (above in red) and figured I would just address it. Kind of figured you didn't mean "clinically depressed" but more of a defeated feeling, but wanted to mention it just in case. Glad to hear you are not depressed and still staying positive. Hopefully things will turn around for you soon!

I have NO IDEA how that got there!!! Lol I didn't put that, I don't even know HOW to type in red. That is SO WEIRD!!!

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46 minutes ago, char3672 said:


I have NO IDEA how that got there!!! Lol I didn't put that, I don't even know HOW to type in red. That is SO WEIRD!!!

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I think they quoted you and just highlighted in the red to point out your original phasing.

I just got the sleeve 6/27 and have too felt horrible, my god so horrible. I had surgery on my spinal cord 6/1 (yes only 3 weeks before) but my company is a government contractor and I had the looming possibility of changing health insurance 6/30, so I had to push through since I was approved by insurance already and had met all my out of pocket maximum for the year so my surgery was 'free' if i did it before any potential converge changes. So my body was already weakened before I ever had this surgery, compounding issues for my recovery by a lot.

I was comforted by the knowledge that I have a great suregon which makes every patient be 100% informed, tested, and healthy. Besides reg mental eval, we had to go through pre-op support groups, PT trainings on exercise, prove we were doing the liquid diet seriously, and start a 4 day pre-op in and out cleaning with hybiclens outside and nystatin inside to ward off complications. While she didn't want to do surgery so quick after the spinal, my neurosurgeon convinced her I was safe and healthy enough for the sleeve. My hospital is also one of the centers of bariatric excellence in Maryland with 6 out of only 20 specialized bariatric nurses in the state (which sadly i didn't have one of them otherwise I'm sure post-op would be going much smoother). With all that, I've still had a very hard time.

But the severe regret I felt at the beginning post op is slowly fading as my body learns to work my new digestive system. Like others have said, I have an awesome day and then 2 bad ones or even an awesome day and then nausea and diarrhea in the PM (I know not normal but explain next).

I was doing great the first 2 days after I was home from hospital (stayed 2 days in hospital but felt like eternity because my 7am-7pm nurse did not treat me well, my surgeon and her PA was pissed). Swallowing hurt and taking medicine was hard but i was tolerating drinks well and getting 50oz fluids a day, 70g protein, 30g carbs.

But then I went right back into the ER Sunday due to a spiked 102.6 fever and severe dehydration due to constant overnight diarrhea (I'd say tmi but with this surgery I think nothing is tmi honestly). CT discovered that I had an intestinal infection- Colitis most likely picked up in the hospital. Ever since I can't tolerate any of my protein shakes or bariatric food I've been living off of essentially since my spinal surgery (had to go through front of throat so liquid diet basically started early). I'm not getting enough fluid, protein or carbs and my sleep schedule is completely flipped. By time i get up the DC area heat is too oppressive to risk walking while so weak, it sucks. My suregon is keeping an incredibly close eye, I've already had a CBC and ER recheck Wednesday and will have more blood testing and another recheck next Wednesday which in sure she'll notice bathe dehydration now and lean into me to step it up for my own safety.

Anyway, this long reply just to say that I totally understand the fear and pain and regret. It'll get better but it's damn hard to see the sun from the clouds. This is where forums and supports groups come to try and shed hope even if sometimes discouraging when you hear about the lucky ones who had it smooth.

I'm down 18 pounds already. This weekend I'm resolved to join a gym. As everyone says, this is not an easy way out, but we will be amazed looking back at how far we came

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I think they quoted you and just highlighted in the red to point out your original phasing.
I just got the sleeve 6/27 and have too felt horrible, my god so horrible. I had surgery on my spinal cord 6/1 (yes only 3 weeks before) but my company is a government contractor and I had the looming possibility of changing health insurance 6/30, so I had to push through since I was approved by insurance already and had met all my out of pocket maximum for the year so my surgery was 'free' if i did it before any potential converge changes. So my body was already weakened before I ever had this surgery, compounding issues for my recovery by a lot.
I was comforted by the knowledge that I have a great suregon which makes every patient be 100% informed, tested, and healthy. Besides reg mental eval, we had to go through pre-op support groups, PT trainings on exercise, prove we were doing the liquid diet seriously, and start a 4 day pre-op in and out cleaning with hybiclens outside and nystatin inside to ward off complications. While she didn't want to do surgery so quick after the spinal, my neurosurgeon convinced her I was safe and healthy enough for the sleeve. My hospital is also one of the centers of bariatric excellence in Maryland with 6 out of only 20 specialized bariatric nurses in the state (which sadly i didn't have one of them otherwise I'm sure post-op would be going much smoother). With all that, I've still had a very hard time.
But the severe regret I felt at the beginning post op is slowly fading as my body learns to work my new digestive system. Like others have said, I have an awesome day and then 2 bad ones or even an awesome day and then nausea and diarrhea in the PM (I know not normal but explain next).
I was doing great the first 2 days after I was home from hospital (stayed 2 days in hospital but felt like eternity because my 7am-7pm nurse did not treat me well, my surgeon and her PA was pissed). Swallowing hurt and taking medicine was hard but i was tolerating drinks well and getting 50oz fluids a day, 70g protein, 30g carbs.
But then I went right back into the ER Sunday due to a spiked 102.6 fever and severe dehydration due to constant overnight diarrhea (I'd say tmi but with this surgery I think nothing is tmi honestly). CT discovered that I had an intestinal infection- Colitis most likely picked up in the hospital. Ever since I can't tolerate any of my protein shakes or bariatric food I've been living off of essentially since my spinal surgery (had to go through front of throat so liquid diet basically started early). I'm not getting enough fluid, protein or carbs and my sleep schedule is completely flipped. By time i get up the DC area heat is too oppressive to risk walking while so weak, it sucks. My suregon is keeping an incredibly close eye, I've already had a CBC and ER recheck Wednesday and will have more blood testing and another recheck next Wednesday which in sure she'll notice bathe dehydration now and lean into me to step it up for my own safety.
Anyway, this long reply just to say that I totally understand the fear and pain and regret. It'll get better but it's damn hard to see the sun from the clouds. This is where forums and supports groups come to try and shed hope even if sometimes discouraging when you hear about the lucky ones who had it smooth.
I'm down 18 pounds already. This weekend I'm resolved to join a gym. As everyone says, this is not an easy way out, but we will be amazed looking back at how far we came

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. I just can't wait for the day that I feel good, no nausea. And the day that I don't gag when I tiink about or see food. I get up in the am and start feeling sick when I think about having to eat bfast. I have to start walking more, I just need to push myself, I have little energy. Hopefully we both start feeling better soon!!!

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21 hours ago, Monkeyfulbrighter said:

This weekend I'm resolved to join a gym.

Pretty sure this is the worst idea I've read on this board. (Timing-wise anyway).

I was gonna say you probably need to go to the hospital for some IV fluids.

The gym should be reserved for people that are (and have been) meeting their fluid, protein, vitamin, and calorie requirements for several weeks straight. In my opinion, people that are eating less than 1200 calories have no business in the gym. (There are plenty of people on this board that will disagree with me).

Walking around air-conditioned malls and grocery stores is a *free* way of getting comfortable exercise. Leave your money at home if you're worried about spending too much. House cleaning can also be a decent workout, and you'll get a clean place, to boot! At least around my place, there is always a project that can be tackled.

Even if you don't believe me, be sure to ask your surgeon about whether to join a gym. Their advice is always more important than random strangers' on the internet, anyway.

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