Hi all, I am going through divorce right now (I am on who posted ex leaving the 4 days after surgery before) & have question for future on dating? I have always been a very honest person -just who I am, part of personality. I have so many questions about post-op dating & want to know what others have done or what they feel about it please for help when I am ready (right now still have anxiety about getting back out there & if read my other post -understand why & thanks for support in helping me through a very hard time).

Question(s) I have are : If going to join one of the online dating sites -do you write about your surgery in your profile? Do you wait to tell them on or after a first date -after they get to know you? I only ever have told one guy I dated before when heavier & recently reconnected as friends only. He thought I was beautiful before & understood why I had surgery for health reason & thinks still beautiful & it didn't bother him (if paths would ever cross in that way again & date) -has anyone ever talked to someone that once they told them they had surgery & could only eat a small amount not want to date them -especially like a dinner date? Anything else that you have experienced on dating post-op would be very helpful also. I really appreciate it. I had no clue that in 4 days post op I was going to come home to a note from husband that he left (but know truth about all & was blessing in disguise). I just am nervous about getting out in dating world again & I want to find a guy this time that believes in honesty & trust too. I want to be honest from beginning because me being a post-op sleeve patients is a part of who I am just like brown hair & hazel eyes. I just wanted to know when everyone has shared it with others dating because dating makes me nervous enough with being judged on appearance, opening up slowly & trusting again while dating someone. Thanks for any help offered. (Sorry if rambling some - still early in PA here). Have a great day all.

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Lol...not sure I would wish me on anyone...lol

I am not ashamed of what I have done but I don't wear it on my sleeve either. You eating healthy should be enough of an answer to them in the beginning and later on, when you have known them enough, you can tell them.
If you treat this procedure as awkward and something to be judged for, people will judge you but if you take it as just another fact of life, they will do the same.
I wouldn't hide it from anyone unless I had good reason to but I wouldn't tell them in the beginning and scare them off with it.
In the beginning, tell them you are on a diet. When you know that they are going to be a part of your life for longer than a couple of months, share your experience. Tell them all they need to know.

I am not ashamed of what I have done but I don't wear it on my sleeve either. You eating healthy should be enough of an answer to them in the beginning and later on, when you have known them enough, you can tell them.
If you treat this procedure as awkward and something to be judged for, people will judge you but if you take it as just another fact of life, they will do the same.
I wouldn't hide it from anyone unless I had good reason to but I wouldn't tell them in the beginning and scare them off with it.
In the beginning, tell them you are on a diet. When you know that they are going to be a part of your life for longer than a couple of months, share your experience. Tell them all they need to know.

Yeah I agree, i nevee hesitate to admit that. Not as embarrassed as i was when I was huge, but still im no stud muffin. .so the small things could make a difference for me.