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Thanks for sharing. I wish lifts were covered by insurance. I am only 6 months out but definitely will want one down the road when body is ready & finances.

Hi Heather, your doing great. Yea I do a shake in morning too just cause I like doing shake for breakfast unless eating breakfast with friends, stuck to eggs when do. I don't really count calories so much but thinking about probably around 10 00 - most days. Honestly I habe not paid attention to carb count so I need to start keeping eye on that cause might be why at first plateau now. Have increased pace when walking for exercise & also increasing amount exercise more now too but thanks for mentioning carbs because I forgot about keeping in check also.

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Happy Valentine's Day all. Love yourself first, love special person in your life (I hope to again someday), love your family & friends. [emoji307] [emoji175] [emoji177] [emoji178]

Hi all, I am going through divorce right now (I am on who posted ex leaving the 4 days after surgery before) & have question for future on dating? I have always been a very honest person -just who I am, part of personality. I have so many questions about post-op dating & want to know what others have done or what they feel about it please for help when I am ready (right now still have anxiety about getting back out there & if read my other post -understand why & thanks for support in helping me through a very hard time). Question(s) I have are : If going to join one of the online dating sites -do you write about your surgery in your profile? Do you wait to tell them on or after a first date -after they get to know you? I only ever have told one guy I dated before when heavier & recently reconnected as friends only. He thought I was beautiful before & understood why I had surgery for health reason & thinks still beautiful & it didn't bother him (if paths would ever cross in that way again & date) -has anyone ever talked to someone that once they told them they had surgery & could only eat a small amount not want to date them -especially like a dinner date? Anything else that you have experienced on dating post-op would be very helpful also. I really appreciate it. I had no clue that in 4 days post op I was going to come home to a note from husband that he left (but know truth about all & was blessing in disguise). I just am nervous about getting out in dating world again & I want to find a guy this time that believes in honesty & trust too. I want to be honest from beginning because me being a post-op sleeve patients is a part of who I am just like brown hair & hazel eyes. I just wanted to know when everyone has shared it with others dating because dating makes me nervous enough with being judged on appearance, opening up slowly & trusting again while dating someone. Thanks for any help offered. (Sorry if rambling some - still early in PA here). Have a great day all. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

Lol. Good luck to you. Just give it time, will find someone.

Another Good religious based group that went to a different church is called divorce care. They are I believe nationwide also. Both have websites you can look up nearest group near you. you may be ok now but just saying for you or anybody else. Just sharing what has helped me heal through the hurt. Thanks for compliment. I am in PA.

They have groups at different churches. Groups I go to is called celebrate recovery. It is nationwide group held at different churches or other buildings but it is faith based. A lot of people think it is just for drugs & alcohol issues but it isnt. The group is for all hurts, habits & hangups. Which means it is for a lot of different things -people gone through divorce, been abused in life, drugs or alcohol, co-dependency issues (which is people who have trouble like I said being alone), eating disorders, control issues, shopping addiction - like I said any hurts, habits or hangups. It is good program. It helped me through a lot of hurt with divorce & people there awesome. I still go because like those when I was weak helped me -we pray & help each other. You have lesson then break up into small groups. Groups separated by what people dealing with & by sex too cause guys feel more comfortable opening up to guys & women to women. It is a protected group & anything said there is kept in the group, not shared outside at all unless risk of anyone harming self if depressed then legally have to report that.

Oh yea. I understand totally & many others. Yea it is not easy dating at all why not thrilled about it either & yea like in another question by someone else -hard cause you feel better but still self-conscious about some things, especially first time intimate with someome, but like someone else said when you find someone they a ready like you for you hopefully before you even get intimate with them. Yea I think most people are broken at least once in life but it is how you chose to heal your pain or deal with your issues. Think trick is finding someone like you said to compliment each other & also know they have done some positive healing as well as yourself. I have gone through a group at my church that is found different places nationwide that helped me deal with pain & a friend helped me work through forgiveness. I see myself getting out there again in next month or too & just kind of wanted to wait til my divorce is final in March too. I think it would be great if we didn't have to go through dating different people to find the one you would want to have a relationship with, but maybe it is like that so when we find the one we appreciate them more too. Good luck dating, but don't give up hope. If still struggle with hurt, always good to work on self through that hurt too with counseling, groups, or just talking to friends, or on here. It gets better over time. I speak from experience. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

Hi larry971, no I haven't went on any dates yet. a little anxious yet about that, not because of weight loss so much, more about getting out there again after divorce which should be final in March. Yea if a woman cries if have to go to work, I would think that is someone with a codependency issue there. I think in dating a person should still be comfortable with alone time for them to work, catch up on things around their place, & plus I think always important even when dating someone to have girls time & guys time because if you are seriously dating someone you should be able to trust that person. Unfortunately I married & trusted wrong guy & cheated on me while in school at night & weekends after working full time also. But I know I need when date get to know a guy & if gets serious, pay attention if red flags to walk away, but if don't see red flags give that person trust because you should never judge someone else for hurts someone else inflicted on you. good luck to you also. Sorry I thought I answered back but had problem with phone & apparently never went through originally. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

You look great. Congrats on children too. Can I ask you a question? Did you have any extra skin with lower abdominal area? Did you have skin surgery or just work abs & helped tone up area better? Hope questions ok to ask. Just 4 months & you look great & just trying to do what can to improve that area. I don't think will have a lot of extra skin but you look like you don't have issue with that. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

Looking great. Keep up the good work. You remind me with pic in gym -habe to get back to working out tomorrow. Was fighting respiratory sickness going around but feeling better now so need to get back at it. It is so good how you feel working out now compared to before our surgeries right? Love that feeling. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

You look great. Keep up good work. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

Hi I asked about hair loss before. I know it is common with many & almost 5 months out so think hair loss is starting to slow down a little but 4th month out seemed like a lot. I am taking Biotin now. I just wanted to ask anyone that experienced hair loss, how long til you felt like your hair was close to what it was before? Thanks. I still would do it all over again with hair loss, was worth it. It is just my husband left 4 days after surgery & although feel great with loss , hair loss does effect things to for me too. Thanks again. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

Thanks cdeisroth. I am almost at 5 months & it seems like it is slowing down now. I started losing mine heavy 3-4 months, in last week or 2 started slowing. Good to hear yours is growing back. My hair is shoulder length & wavy/curly also. So hopefully it will grow back like yours. Thank you. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

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Before & after pics -update. I am feeling great, so happy I had surgery. I feel like 2017 is going to be a really good year with a new me & new beginnings. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

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You look awesome. I had mine done on 09/19 & in 16 but at 190 & it feels great. You look awesome & can't be far away for reaching under 200. Shopping is a lot nicer. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App Keep up good work. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

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Thanks.you will. Best thing I ever did. All my labs are awesome at 4 month checkup & feel healthier then ever. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

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You look great too. It is crazy what a difference right. You can really tell a big difference in your face too. happy for you too. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

Thank you. I will. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App

That is funny too. My mom is from Arkansas & have a lot of relatives in MO. Near Jefferson City & Holts Summit area. It is a great state. Please keep me updated on progress. We can help each other along the way. Sent from my SM-S902L using the BariatricPal App