Hi peepz

So today my father is going to know about my surgery. I want to tell him because i want support from my parents because they mean so much to me

But im afraid that he is going to he totally against it because he worries about me.

How can i convince him that being fat is life threathing and eating me alive. Litteraly.

He will typically say that i just need to excercise and eat healthy. Or just go away from food at all. He really doesn't know my struggle. Actually i dont have a very good relationship with him. But some how his approval makes me more confident in my surgery

Dont know what to say at this point. Im 100% sure i want this surgery baby!

Thanks for reading my rant again haha i just love the fact that i can dump my feelings on here becausr im alone in this. I have no support whatsoever.

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I haven't told my Dad either. I'm super close with him and I know he will worry to death and I feel guilty because I don't want any added stress to him. My Mom passed 4 years ago and she would be the one to talk to him about it. (She would always explain better than I would for some reason) I'm going to tell him when I get my surgery date and after the Holidays. I hope all goes well for you! Good Luck!

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Yes my dad to. My mom actually is going to tell him. I know that's sounds weird. But she is the only one who can maybe talk some sense in him

Weird. But unfortunatly my dad is a piece of work himself. Communication is his weakest power.

I think you are doing the right thing here. If I could I would do the same but i still live with my parents so he is going to know about it.

Good luck to you to and sorry for your loss.

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I just posted this to someone whose husband wasn't supporting the surgery: Get the book "Weight Loss Surgery for Dummies" and have him read it. That's what got my husband on-board.

Your father probably doesn't know how advanced (and safe) WLS has become.

In the end you may not be able to "convince" him and that's ok. You are an adult and are making a decision for your healthy based on the research that you have done.

U can't change your daddy mine. Most of my family is small. They don't know what it's like to in this illness of over eating. What's going on in his mind is not what's going on in your mind. I made the decision to have my surgery. I listen to my family's opinions , but buck stops with me... love U. U're all you got. I'm 30lbs down since September. Do U girl....

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