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I had my surgery , the gastric bypass on September 14th and I regret it. May you all can give me words of wisdom and comfort . I am an emotional reck right now, depressed, hungry but not eating or drinking my 64oz's of Water nor am I getting my 60-80 grms of Protein in. My belly fill full all thee time, I have pain in my right side of my stomach , my legs hurt my arms I'm just so angry with myself right now. How long , really will I be feeling this way . I'm just really messed up I regret every thing

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Trust me...it does get better...I felt the same way for a good month.....I'm 7 months post op now but didn't really start feeling like my old self until almost 6 months....our hormones get all out of whack with the rapid weightloss... Hang in there!

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Not getting in your water/protein is only going to make your physical and emotional difficulties worse, believe me. You must find a way to force it in. Right now, Water and Protein aren't food, they are medicine; life-saving medicine that you need to heal and become healthy. It gets better! Try to remember why you did this in the first place, and try to imagine where you'll be a year from now: fully healed, healthy, maybe even at goal weight or close! To get there, you're going to have to trudge through this pit of pain and struggle, but I promise you: it DOES get better. Just keep reminding yourself of that, because it is absolutely true, and stick to the plan as best as you can. Hang in there. <3

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I am 3 days post op and still in the hospital. I will tell you that I was not at all prepared for the pain level I am suffering. It is unbearable. I am not. Baby and have a pretty high tolerance for pain but, I feel rather deceived that no one told me this was going to hurt like it does o look at the clock and count down minutes till my next pain med dose and sometimes cry .i can't help but question my decision now!

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I am 3 days post op and still in the hospital. I will tell you that I was not at all prepared for the pain level I am suffering. It is unbearable. I am not. Baby and have a pretty high tolerance for pain but, I feel rather deceived that no one told me this was going to hurt like it does o look at the clock and count down minutes till my next pain med dose and sometimes cry .i can't help but question my decision now!

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You WILL get better, and SOON. DO NOT EVER REGRET YOUR DECISION. THIS IS GOING TO BE LIFE CHANGING. STAY STRONG. STAY DETERMINED.

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It took me 2 months to be able to reach my Water and Protein goals. What you're going through is normal and part of the process. Every day will get better. Just do what you can and keep trying. Almost 7 months out and I don't even feel like I had surgery anymore, I just eat less and weigh less and feel fantastic. You will get there too! Keep your head up!

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Right after surgery, you body is in a major heal mode and it is common for patients to not be able to meet their Protein and Fluid goals during the first few weeks. But keep trying and you should be able to get there. And since you are 2 weeks post-op you should almost be able to meet these requirements.

The three most important elements after RNY gastric bypass surgery are to meet your daily Protein, Fluid and Vitamin requirements. food is secondary because your body is converting your stored fat into the energy that drives your body. Thus you lose weight.

Weight loss is achieved after surgery through volume control. You begin at 2 ounces (1/4 cup) per meal and gradually over the next year and a half increase the volume to 1 cup per meal. With this minuscule amount of food, it is next to impossible to meet your protein daily requirements by food alone, so therefore you need to rely on supplements such as Protein shakes.
After my RNY surgery, life improved almost every day but it still took time. I think I reached my happy state at around 6 months. That was when almost all the problems seemed to melt away.

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I'm pretty sure all of us felt this way top begin with. I swear taking a shower nearly made me pass out for the first two weeks. I hated EVERYONE who continued to tell me, "it gets better/easier. " I felt like they were telling me what they thought I wanted or needed to hear to try to help. You know what though, after that two weeks it really did get better. I no longer was crying over everything. I was able to taste food. I had ridiculous poundage dropped. Now, 5 months later, I'm down 82 pounds.

Trust me, trust us, it does get better.

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I am home now and they feels a little better. The pain I awful and I don't think gave me enough. Everything hurts including my back because I can only sleep on my back. I am starting to sound like all these other people I judged for being so negative. I hate that. I do have a positive outlook on life and this decision.

I guess I feel so blindsided by the pain and lack of mobility.

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For the 1st 4 days I said to my husban I regret doing this...nothing is worth it. My big picture is to help get pregnant... I am now 1 week post op and started to get better. Few tears in between.

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Give yourself the time you need to heal. Before you know it the crappy part will be a distant memory. It gets so much better!

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