So as I'm excited about this process and know I'm going to love the new me I chose to tell people about the surgery my friends that is and I get the feeling that most or not all are jealous and say negative things like you can die from having that surgery or you don't need it stop being lazy .It hurt my feelings so bad I decided to keep everything that I'm doing by myself .I thought people would be happy and they are not .How do you deal with that ?

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It doesn't have anything to do with surgery. I have an associate, downgraded from friend, that is really in their feelings over my weight loss. They don't even know I had surgery but they did have surgery, and weren't that successful and it is like my success is a slap in the face to them. And it is mainly that I have been able to achieve something they have not, and I am not even done or a success yet in my mind. They keep shading me over and over in every way possible.

Some people will never be happy for you and it has nothing to do with you, just with their own issues and insecurities.

I feel like I have lost my best friends after the surgery. Maybe someday they will be able to see past themselves and be 'friends' again, but for now I have learned who I can trust and although I'm not really secretive about my surgery, I don't share details at all. I know it is just their own insecurities that make them the way they are, but at first I took it personally.

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My best friend is not supportive either and constantly challenges me about the sleeve. She's even gone as far as saying she's unhappy because her eating habits will have to change when she's with me, even though I've told her she doesn't have to.

I know this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with her and her insecurities but it's still sad.

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My best friend is not supportive either and constantly challenges me about the sleeve. She's even gone as far as saying she's unhappy because her eating habits will have to change when she's with me, even though I've told her she doesn't have to.

I know this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with her and her insecurities but it's still sad.

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I agree! It is very sad! It upsets me that my friends would have rather seen me in poor health and miserable! I guess sometimes even though I know it is a problem within them that I still take it a little personally! Those that truly love me and want the best for me see how my quality of life has changed and they are supportive, it's just sad that the people we thought were best friends couldn't be too!

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When you change your life for the better, in any way (new job, new house, whatever), you find out who really loves you. That is one of the things that has made my life richer. Learning who really loves me.

STOP TELLING PEOPLE.

Problem solved.

This is my answer!