Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Does anyone regret their surgery?



Recommended Posts

Thank you!

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I regret it. I had Endoscopic sleeve gastroplasty which was supposed to be noninvasive because they go through endoscopically. So it's not truly considered surgery. They put sutures in your stomach to make it in the shape of the sleeve so there's no cutting. I knew five people who had this procedure before me with excellent results and no complications. My stomach was perforated. The doctors tried to repair the perforation themselves. These doctors are not surgeons they were gastroenterologists. Too much time passed before a surgeon was called in as I lay there becoming septic. I have very few memories of that time as I was in incredible pain and doped up on pain meds. By the time the surgeon got to me I was in septic shock. I was hospitalized for two weeks and just discharged myself after this time. Three months and I am still not 100%. I see a therapist on a regular basis for PTSD And severe anxiety. Have I lost weight, absolutely. But I still regret doing this. I put myself and my family through a lot. Something happens to you when you are faced with a near death situation and all I do is blame myself for something elective that I did not need!

Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I regret it. I had Endoscopic sleeve gastroplasty which was supposed to be noninvasive because they go through endoscopically. So it's not truly considered surgery. They put sutures in your stomach to make it in the shape of the sleeve so there's no cutting. I knew five people who had this procedure before me with excellent results and no complications. My stomach was perforated. The doctors tried to repair the perforation themselves. These doctors are not surgeons they were gastroenterologists. Too much time passed before a surgeon was called in as I lay there becoming septic. I have very few memories of that time as I was in incredible pain and doped up on pain meds. By the time the surgeon got to me I was in septic shock. I was hospitalized for two weeks and just discharged myself after this time. Three months and I am still not 100%. I see a therapist on a regular basis for PTSD And severe anxiety. Have I lost weight, absolutely. But I still regret doing this. I put myself and my family through a lot. Something happens to you when you are faced with a near death situation and all I do is blame myself for something elective that I did not need!

Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

So sorry to hear about what has happened to you! I have not heard of that sort of surgery.

I do totally understand your feelings about having had an elective surgery that was life altering for you and your family.

I pray for peace for you and your loved ones.

How was your stomach left? Did they have to do a conventional sleeve?

Or has your stomach been repaired but not altered?

How is your physical health now?

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you very much for your kind words! I just read your story and it is just simply unbelievable! I also wound up with C diff while in the hospital as well among many other things like pleural effusion, Fluid around my spleen etc. The surgeon repaired the tear in my stomach and the sleeve was completely intact so I didn't need to have the actual surgery for the sleeve. He also had to do a full wash out because of the septic shock.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I forgot to comment on my health now I'm three months post surgery and I'm still dealing with some issues and have been on and off steroids a few times to reduce inflammation, also wound up with vertigo a few months ago. I am not 100% but I am doing so much better. My newest upset is the amount of hair I'm losing!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

oh no! That's awful! No wonder you are distressed. It will take some time to recover from all of that! Please be kind to yourself and rest, rest, rest!!!

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have been an unequivocal proponent of VSG, but after reading these stories, I must add something. Surgery is an art and a science. There are great surgeons and teams and some that aren't so good.

I drove past a half dozen wls hospitals to go the hour and a half to Newton Wellesley because they are the best. They had 9 surgeons do my operation and it took less than 30 minutes. I think anyone considering elective surgery should research their surgeon and their team.

Edited by Cape Crooner

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

And sometimes even that doesn't work so just be mentally and emotionally prepared for the time you might need to recover from the surgery itself, any further treatment you might need and getting used to your new life.

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I regret it. I'm sicker now than I ever was obese.

How are you?

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

@@Crochet Queen I am so sorry ! Just reading your story gave me a feeling of trauma! I hope you are able to move on and enjoy the success of weight loss. What a nightmare scenario, thinking you are getting a safer procedure only to realize that may not be true.

I have never even heard of this - I am curious why this is even called sleeve?

I don't know thelesson to be learned, since we trust the experts, but I feel strongly about finding surgeons with proven track records of both safety and results and then following their program.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was in the hospital most of last week for C Diff. I was able to finally tell my husband my regrets. I didn't tell anyone for fear of their reaction ("I told you so" "that was a lot of money wasted" "you chose it".)

I am sick when my sleeve is empty or has food in it. I prefer it to be empty so I hardly eat. It's easier. Eating is a chore and being with others when they eat makes me sick too. It's come between me and a lot of people including my husband.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was in the hospital most of last week for C Diff. I was able to finally tell my husband my regrets. I didn't tell anyone for fear of their reaction ("I told you so" "that was a lot of money wasted" "you chose it".)

I am sick when my sleeve is empty or has food in it. I prefer it to be empty so I hardly eat. It's easier. Eating is a chore and being with others when they eat makes me sick too. It's come between me and a lot of people including my husband.

Have you spoken to a counselor or your surgeon about this?

Sent from my KFFOWI using the BariatricPal App

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have spoken with my surgeon and his PA about it. I see my psychiatrist tomorrow. The PA said what I'm feeling is normal (he also said the diarrhea was normal but that turned out to be C diff). The surgeon wants me to eat 1000 calories a day and eat 2-3 ounces every two hours. I told him when I force myself to eat I throw up. I had a bit of an appetite at the hospital and ate 3 meals there (over 4 days). Since I've been out (2 days) I've had 1 ounce of Jerky, 1 tbsp of Peanut Butter and celery and an ounce of tilapia. Which is more than the 2 weeks I was sick with C diff.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×