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I should imagine a brain surgery was not an elective one.

Sucks a bit when you started all this simply because conventional weightloss methods were either too hard or not producing results fast enough.

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So, again, I am going to have to disagree.

For me, WLS was absolutely elective -- but not really. At 5.3 and 264 pounds I was slowly killing myself with food. I had been terribly successful with phentermine, WWs, Jenny, Atkins, South Beach, etc. losing 80-90 pounds with each, maintaining for a few months and then quickly gaining it all back plus some.

Losing weight had never been slow or hard, maintaining it was. I was doing permanent damage to my knees, my back, my feet. I was just on the line of pre-diabetic. My quality of life was great... I thought.

I elected to have a surgery that I believe saved my life and made my quality of life so much better. I know you feel differently, and that is your right, of course, but to me, this is one "elective" surgery that for me, and many other obese people, was a necessity.

I posted this a few years back:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/308645-i-was-a-super-healthy-fat-person-until-surgery-changed-my-life-was-it-worth-it/?hl=%20was%20%20super%20%20healthy

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I should imagine a brain surgery was not an elective one.

Sucks a bit when you started all this simply because conventional weightloss methods were either too hard or not producing results fast enough.

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So, again, I am going to have to disagree.

For me, WLS was absolutely elective -- but not really. At 5.3 and 264 pounds I was slowly killing myself with food. I had been terribly successful with phentermine, WWs, Jenny, Atkins, South Beach, etc. losing 80-90 pounds with each, maintaining for a few months and then quickly gaining it all back plus some.

Losing weight had never been slow or hard, maintaining it was. I was doing permanent damage to my knees, my back, my feet. I was just on the line of pre-diabetic. My quality of life was great... I thought.

I elected to have a surgery that I believe saved my life and made my quality of life so much better. I know you feel differently, and that is your right, of course, but to me, this is one "elective" surgery that for me, and many other obese people, was a necessity.

I posted this a few years back:

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/308645-i-was-a-super-healthy-fat-person-until-surgery-changed-my-life-was-it-worth-it/?hl=%20was%20%20super%20%20healthy

Agreed! For some people, this is not elective.

For me, it definitely was!

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FWIW - I posted this on a different thread. I never had regrets, I feel I had no choice as obesity was quite literally killing me, but it sure as heck wasn't easy either.....

My personal experience as a sleever can be summarized like this:

  • Preop - Terrified and anxious, I had to get short term medication to make it through the last week before surgery. The word "hot mess" comes to mind. It wasn't because I didn't want to be sleeved, it was because I had such a fear of the operation, such a fear of failing AGAIN (I was a failed band patient and there is no feeling of failure like failing after bariatric surgery)
  • First weeks post op were very miserable and I was still fat. Struggle to get in enough Water, exhausted, anti-social, diarrea all that stuff. I never regretted it though because I knew this often happened and I just had to "muscle through it"
  • Introducing solid  food was another awful experience. I felt like I had to do it perfectly right since I was so desperate to succeed. I feared damaging my sleeve, I felt sick to my stomach, everything tasted weird, Water tasted like it had metal in it.... and I was still fat.
  • The next few months were surreal. I didn't feel like myself and I can't even articulate why. While I got the hang of eating properly, it was disorienting for food to taste bad, to eat so little, to have food restrictions, eating FELT LIKE A CHORE. Then, I had an "ah ha" moment - this is the window of opportunity to change my relationship with food. Food is not recreation, it's nutrtion - novel concept for me! I often felt I would be happier just not eating, but I realized that is another form of disordered eating, so I took on the approach that food is like medicine - follow my surgeons and NUTs directions and take it on faith it would get better. Still fat, but down alot.
  • By 3-4 months out, people were noticing the weight loss, I was feeling more myself emotionally, I was not as naseaous, I could tolerate a wider variety of food and it started tasting normal. I was in a good workout routine and loving that I could do more. Yes, still fat, but not nearly AS fat. I started thinking that amazing things MIGHT be possible.
  • At around 8-9 months my appetite returned, my weight loss slowed and I was still about 40# from goal. I made a conscious decision to evaluate what was important to me and I got my butt back on track with good steady losses.
  • At 14 months I made my goal of losing 150#. I could wear cute clothes, people didn't recognize me, I could eat pretty much anything (exceptions are rich ice cream gives me cramps and spicy food can irritate my tummy a bit)
  • I am nearly 5 years post op and living a good life as a normal sized, active woman with a loving boyfriend. I am living a day to day life that I could only dream of. Many people dont know I had surgery - I eat small portions of very normal food. My kids are shocked when they see my before pix... but they tell me I changed inside too, not just the weight loss. I wear makeup, I love to dress up, go out, social butterfly all that.

Life is pretty damn good and I am thankful for the help of the sleeve to get me here.

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If I had a magic wand, I'd wave it and you would have your tummy back. I'd make you keep the pink brows, though.

I wish you had that wand!

I am thinking about bleaching my eyebrows and then dyeing them electric pink! Or rainbow colours!

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FWIW - I posted this on a different thread. I never had regrets, I feel I had no choice as obesity was quite literally killing me, but it sure as heck wasn't easy either.....

My personal experience as a sleever can be summarized like this:

  • Preop - Terrified and anxious, I had to get short term medication to make it through the last week before surgery. The word "hot mess" comes to mind. It wasn't because I didn't want to be sleeved, it was because I had such a fear of the operation, such a fear of failing AGAIN (I was a failed band patient and there is no feeling of failure like failing after bariatric surgery)
  • First weeks post op were very miserable and I was still fat. Struggle to get in enough Water, exhausted, anti-social, diarrea all that stuff. I never regretted it though because I knew this often happened and I just had to "muscle through it"
  • Introducing solid  food was another awful experience. I felt like I had to do it perfectly right since I was so desperate to succeed. I feared damaging my sleeve, I felt sick to my stomach, everything tasted weird, Water tasted like it had metal in it.... and I was still fat.
  • The next few months were surreal. I didn't feel like myself and I can't even articulate why. While I got the hang of eating properly, it was disorienting for food to taste bad, to eat so little, to have food restrictions, eating FELT LIKE A CHORE. Then, I had an "ah ha" moment - this is the window of opportunity to change my relationship with food. Food is not recreation, it's nutrtion - novel concept for me! I often felt I would be happier just not eating, but I realized that is another form of disordered eating, so I took on the approach that food is like medicine - follow my surgeons and NUTs directions and take it on faith it would get better. Still fat, but down alot.
  • By 3-4 months out, people were noticing the weight loss, I was feeling more myself emotionally, I was not as naseaous, I could tolerate a wider variety of food and it started tasting normal. I was in a good workout routine and loving that I could do more. Yes, still fat, but not nearly AS fat. I started thinking that amazing things MIGHT be possible.
  • At around 8-9 months my appetite returned, my weight loss slowed and I was still about 40# from goal. I made a conscious decision to evaluate what was important to me and I got my butt back on track with good steady losses.
  • At 14 months I made my goal of losing 150#. I could wear cute clothes, people didn't recognize me, I could eat pretty much anything (exceptions are rich ice cream gives me cramps and spicy food can irritate my tummy a bit)
  • I am nearly 5 years post op and living a good life as a normal sized, active woman with a loving boyfriend. I am living a day to day life that I could only dream of. Many people dont know I had surgery - I eat small portions of very normal food. My kids are shocked when they see my before pix... but they tell me I changed inside too, not just the weight loss. I wear makeup, I love to dress up, go out, social butterfly all that.

Life is pretty damn good and I am thankful for the help of the sleeve to get me here.

That is wonderful! I am pleased that it worked out for you!

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Well. I think I finally no longer regret my surgery!!

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Well. I think I finally no longer regret my surgery!!

That's fantastic news.

I wish you continued contentment.

It's great to hear that you are okay.

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I would never go down that avenue. Yes, I think that they should stop the program and spend all their time healing us until we are well. I think that we should be their priority but the NHS doesn't work that way.

I am really suffering. And they don't seem to know what to do now.

I would like to be referred to a gastroenterologist asap but it seems I just have to go through the system.

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In America, legal action would get you what you want. Don't know about NHS in England. I tend to expect the worse from the government...

Now that I have Clostridium Difficile, and may have infected my family, I am re thinking my stance regarding legal action. If this drags on for months or if I wind up with even more serious problems such as bowel surgery, I may have no choice but to look into this.

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I've read about C Difficile several times lately. Is this something related to gastric sleeve surgery?

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I would never go down that avenue. Yes, I think that they should stop the program and spend all their time healing us until we are well. I think that we should be their priority but the NHS doesn't work that way.

I am really suffering. And they don't seem to know what to do now.

I would like to be referred to a gastroenterologist asap but it seems I just have to go through the system.

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In America, legal action would get you what you want. Don't know about NHS in England. I tend to expect the worse from the government...
Now that I have Clostridium Difficile, and may have infected my family, I am re thinking my stance regarding legal action. If this drags on for months or if I wind up with even more serious problems such as bowel surgery, I may have no choice but to look into this.

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I've read about C Difficile several times lately. Is this something related to gastric sleeve surgery?

Not really. I think any surgery or heavy duty antibiotic use can expose you to this infection.

I am no expert. All I know is what I learned on the internet.

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I've read about C Difficile several times lately. Is this something related to gastric sleeve surgery?

No. It's a rare infection that people sometimes get. You can be more susceptible to it due to antibiotics, your immune system being depressed, or a number of other factors. Unfortunately, it can be very hard to get rid of in an environment, so there have been a few situations where people pick it up in hospitals. It can be very hard to get rid of.

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@@Crochet Queen I am so sorry ! Just reading your story gave me a feeling of trauma! I hope you are able to move on and enjoy the success of weight loss. What a nightmare scenario, thinking you are getting a safer procedure only to realize that may not be true.

I have never even heard of this - I am curious why this is even called sleeve?

I don't know thelesson to be learned, since we trust the experts, but I feel strongly about finding surgeons with proven track records of both safety and results and then following their program.

Believe me research was done! Track record excellent.

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I would never go down that avenue. Yes, I think that they should stop the program and spend all their time healing us until we are well. I think that we should be their priority but the NHS doesn't work that way.

I am really suffering. And they don't seem to know what to do now.

I would like to be referred to a gastroenterologist asap but it seems I just have to go through the system.

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In America, legal action would get you what you want. Don't know about NHS in England. I tend to expect the worse from the government...
Now that I have Clostridium Difficile, and may have infected my family, I am re thinking my stance regarding legal action. If this drags on for months or if I wind up with even more serious problems such as bowel surgery, I may have no choice but to look into this.

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Omg I had c diff for 3 weeks. Finally tested negative today!!

Had c-diff also. Caused by the numerous antibiotics to treat the sepsis. If this was my biggest problem I would have been thrilled!!

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"@@Crochet Queen" Your type of surgery is "new" and not yet covered by insurance, correct? If you were to do this again - would you have gone with the traditional sleeve?

No, I wouldnt have done anything at all.

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"@@Crochet Queen" Your type of surgery is "new" and not yet covered by insurance, correct? If you were to do this again - would you have gone with the traditional sleeve?

No, I wouldnt have done anything at all.

How are you feeling?

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