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Emotional struggle after gastric sleeve

Hello everyone. I'm a 22 year old female who just recently got sleeved on April 5th. I'm currently on the liquid diet about to be on pureed foods tomorrow. I just feel like I really need someone who understands what I'm going through because I feel I'm losing control.. I'm having a extremely hard time being able to get the recommended 64 oz of Water in and probably only get about half of it. It really is worrying me a lot and the fact that the Protein is just as hard. All i can think about is the new extreme boredom and emptiness I feel inside after my friend (food) was taken from me. I dont know what to do with myself anymore and sometimes just think of giving up. I feel like this was a huge mistake and can only think of how ill never be able to eat as much delicious food as I want again. Honestly my personality is totally changed and I feel no joy in anything anymore. I realized the reality that food was my only joy and it makes me so angry that I let it be so I had to feel this miserable. Will this ever get any better??

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well honey, I understand all too well. I had no problem drinking that much pop or soda before surgery but just hate this Water flavored or not stuff. I really miss my pepsi. But I keep thinking how much better I am going to feel after I lose 100 lbs. I was sleeved on Mar 22 and have lost 21 lbs. I doubt I get enough Protein in but I get so nauseous that I have to stop putting things in my mouth. I am almost 57 years old, but, I think I can do this because I wasn't always heavy. I still remember small. That is my salvation. I have had my emotional moments a lot, but I always have. That is why I had the sleeve as opposed to the bypass was because I knew I couldn't stop my psych meds. I have found adult coloring is very relaxing and takes my mind off of the whole thing. It helps since I am retired and need something to occupy my time. Also find a supportive person to talk to. I have my husband who has been through this with me every step of the way. Good luck to you honey. I will pray for you.

I felt the same way just last week but I feel completely different in a week later now that I have started the soft foods it's actually got me in a better mood but I was telling the exact same way stick in there make sure that you try to keep as much liquids that is possible because I had to ask everyone how do they expect me to keep 64 ounces of liquor but I am after going to my postop appointment I am not dehydrated you just have to keep really positive and you know what I'm doing is looking up VSG sisters on Instagram in reading their stories and seeing the before and after and food since they are trying

Kindest regards, phuckyourtruth

I meant of liquids! Not liquor hhhahahha

Kindest regards, phuckyourtruth

Trust me what you are going through is normal and I am pretty sure most of us went through the same thing. The last thing you want to hear is it will get better but it will I know it doesn't feel like it but as long as you work your tool you will be glad you had it done in the long run. It took around 2 and 1/2 months for my normal switch to turn back on but everyone is different.I still do not get in 64 oz so do not beat yoyrself up hust try to get in as much as you can with small sipsball day. I am thankful now for my struggles in the beginning because it helped me truly understand how strong i am and what i should and should not put in my body ever again approaching 5 months out and 113 pounds down.

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Hello everyone. I'm a 22 year old female who just recently got sleeved on April 5th. I'm currently on the liquid diet about to be on pureed foods tomorrow. I just feel like I really need someone who understands what I'm going through because I feel I'm losing control.. I'm having a extremely hard time being able to get the recommended 64 oz of Water in and probably only get about half of it. It really is worrying me a lot and the fact that the Protein is just as hard. All i can think about is the new extreme boredom and emptiness I feel inside after my friend (food) was taken from me. I dont know what to do with myself anymore and sometimes just think of giving up. I feel like this was a huge mistake and can only think of how ill never be able to eat as much delicious food as I want again. Honestly my personality is totally changed and I feel no joy in anything anymore. I realized the reality that food was my only joy and it makes me so angry that I let it be so I had to feel this miserable. Will this ever get any better??

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Are you attending a local support group? You're going to have good days and a few bad in the adventures to come. Having real local friends you can call, meet at the park for a walk, etc, will help a lot. Please make sure you're integrating into your local support community.

Jay

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Just wanted to add, that our emotions are all out wack due to extreme diet change. I had my sleeve surgery March 30th. I still don't think I've reached 64 oz. And I have to have 70 grams of Protein a day. Although the nutritionist did not agree, a nurse called about 5 days after my surgery and said to Guage your fluids by the color of your urine. The lighter the better. Dietitian reminded me dehydration is the top reason for returns to hospital after surgery.

I too struggle to get it all in and wonder how it will fit with work when I return.

I just have to remind myself that so many others have done this successfully. I made this decision and I will see it through. I did just order the book mentioned here, thank you! Hang in there with me :)

Lori

Hello everyone. I'm a 22 year old female who just recently got sleeved on April 5th. I'm currently on the liquid diet about to be on pureed foods tomorrow. I just feel like I really need someone who understands what I'm going through because I feel I'm losing control.. I'm having a extremely hard time being able to get the recommended 64 oz of Water in and probably only get about half of it. It really is worrying me a lot and the fact that the Protein is just as hard. All i can think about is the new extreme boredom and emptiness I feel inside after my friend (food) was taken from me. I dont know what to do with myself anymore and sometimes just think of giving up. I feel like this was a huge mistake and can only think of how ill never be able to eat as much delicious food as I want again. Honestly my personality is totally changed and I feel no joy in anything anymore. I realized the reality that food was my only joy and it makes me so angry that I let it be so I had to feel this miserable. Will this ever get any better??

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Just hang in there. The energy does come back. It's hard now but that'll pass. Stay positive and look towards the future. I myself am only 3 1/2 out of surgery. Hang in there!

I was sleeved on 4-9 and today is the first day I haven't cried. I seriously wanted to kill myself. Even thought of going to the hospital because I really thought I would do it. I completely and totally regret this surgery. I wish I could take it all back. I am no longer the happy person I was. I can't be around anyone eating. I feel where you are coming from. I pray things get better for you.

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@LadyJustice007. Do you have a counselor? Please go to a counselor and support group to discuss these feelings. I know alot of people seem to have a hard time right after surgery and it gets better but your situation seems much worse. Praying for you!

@LadyJustice007. Do you have a counselor? Please go to a counselor and support group to discuss these feelings. I know alot of people seem to have a hard time right after surgery and it gets better but your situation seems much worse. Praying for you!

No I don't have a counselor but I think I should start looking for one.

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Ladyjustice...just please know NO ONE should be put down at any time ever...if thats your husband's natural way it is still NOT ok..and counseling wont change him but it will help you!

@LadyJustice007. Do you have a counselor? Please go to a counselor and support group to discuss these feelings. I know alot of people seem to have a hard time right after surgery and it gets better but your situation seems much worse. Praying for you!

No I don't have a counselor but I think I should start looking for one.

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Absolutely!!! Your hormones are all out of whack and having major surgery can cause some of these feelings but you may need some counseling or possibly short term meds to get you through.
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I know i shouldnt write this on here but I really need to vent and I know everyone here has been through a struggle. Today is the 2nd week after my gastric sleeve and i was nowhere close emotionally ready to deal with this. I have a severe eating disorder and now that food is taken away i dont know how to act. Im always bored because i replaced food with boredom, always depressed and scared im going to die because I think my bodys going to starve and shut down. Im constantly dreaming of fast food which was my main diet before surgery and I know it was slowly killing me. If i hadnt of got this surgery i probably would of kept gaining and using food as my coping mechanism in life. Ive used it my whole life so this is the hardest thing i have ever done. Everyday is an emotional roller coaster and i just want to give up. I have no option to give up anymore though. I pray to god that it will get better for me and I wont have to be in this emotional state because i dont know how much longer I can take.. Im going to a psychologist tommorow but I feel like im unhelpable

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